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So many of us are grieving the untimely passing of Malcolm Jamal Warner. A man whose presence, talent, and spirit touche...
22/07/2025

So many of us are grieving the untimely passing of Malcolm Jamal Warner. A man whose presence, talent, and spirit touched hearts far and wide.

And as we sit with the weight of this loss, may his life become more than a memory. May it become an invitation. An invitation to stop shrinking joy.
To stop postponing your peace.
To stop talking yourself out of the very moments your soul longs to feel.

Because tomorrow is not promised to any of us. And joy is not a reward for survival, it is your birthright.

You’re not just healing to handle trauma. You’re healing to hold joy. To feel it without guilt. To receive it without fear. To let it live in your body and not run from it.

Let Malcolm’s legacy be a whisper to your nervous system:
“You are allowed to rest. You are allowed to live.”

May we honor his life by fully living ours.

“Hurt people, hurt people.” Yes, but not always. Not every hurt person chooses harm.
19/07/2025

“Hurt people, hurt people.” Yes, but not always. Not every hurt person chooses harm.

Reflection Questions:Have I mistaken spiritual routine for spiritual renewal?What have I expected marriage or church to ...
16/07/2025

Reflection Questions:
Have I mistaken spiritual routine for spiritual renewal?

What have I expected marriage or church to fix that only personal healing can address?

What childhood narratives am I still reenacting in my relationships or faith journey?

Journal Prompts:
Lord, show me the places where I’ve used marriage or church as hiding places instead of healing places.

What are the wounds in me that keep repeating themselves in the way I love, respond, and believe?

How would my life look different if I stopped performing and started healing: for real, for You, and for me?

We are not called to perform healing. We are called to live it.
May we remember: The altar is still open. The Holy Spirit is still near. And Jesus is still in the business of making wounded people whole. Not through the ring on our fingers or the pew we sit in, but through the sacred, slow, and beautiful work of restoration.

And so, with tender honesty, we ask:Are they safe for your nervous system?Do they bring peace or provoke anxiety?Do they...
15/07/2025

And so, with tender honesty, we ask:
Are they safe for your nervous system?
Do they bring peace or provoke anxiety?
Do they use their faith to connect or to control?
Do they actually see you or only the version of you that fits their comfort?

Because just as some dissociate through substances, others dissociate through service.
Just as some escape through distractions, others escape through devotion.
Not all avoidance looks rebellious, some of it looks religious.

But the fruit reveals what the heart conceals.

A constantly activated nervous system means:* Your sleep is light and restless* Your thoughts race even in silence* Your...
14/07/2025

A constantly activated nervous system means:
* Your sleep is light and restless
* Your thoughts race even in silence
* Your stomach holds anxiety like it’s normal
* Your chest tightens during what should be ordinary conversations
* Your creativity, joy, and laughter go missing
* You no longer feel at home in your own soul
This is not sustainable.
And brother, this is not how you were created to live.

Your nervous system needs safety like your lungs need air.
Without it, you are surviving, not living.
You are performing, not belonging.
You are bracing, not receiving.
And when your home, your relationship, or your daily atmosphere keeps you in a state of chronic alertness, your body begins to call peace unfamiliar.

Nothing will impact your mental health more than who you marry or date. Not your career. Not your zip code. Not your ban...
14/07/2025

Nothing will impact your mental health more than who you marry or date. Not your career. Not your zip code. Not your bank account. Not even your childhood. Because the person you choose to love closely, to tether your life and heart to, becomes the greatest influence on your inner world. This person becomes your mirror. Your rhythm. Your atmosphere. Your nervous system’s resting place or battleground.

If they are emotionally safe, self-aware, and grounded in truth and grace, your mental health will flourish. You’ll feel free to breathe, to feel, to be. Love will become a refuge, not something to survive. But if they are unstable, unpredictable, emotionally immature, or manipulative, your mind will suffer. Your body will tighten.
Your spirit will dim. You’ll find yourself questioning your worth
even though you once knew it so well.

Because when love isn’t safe, your mind cannot rest.
And when your mind cannot rest, your creativity fades, your joy leaks, your dreams defer,
and your soul lives on edge, no matter how much you try to “pray it away.”

Pay close attention to this:
-Who you love will either help you regulate or dysregulate.
-Who you love will either invite healing, or re-trigger old wounds.
-Who you love will either sharpen your clarity or keep you questioning your reality.
Love was never meant to feel like confusion. It was meant to feel like peace.

Black man: Your inner child was never meant to be exiled. He is still speaking, still reaching, still yearning for a lov...
11/07/2025

Black man: Your inner child was never meant to be exiled. He is still speaking, still reaching, still yearning for a love that doesn’t flinch at his pain or flee from his truth.

And you, you are worthy of that love. Not just in theory.
In this breath. In this season. In this body.

Let love in. Let it reach the parts of you no one asked about.
Let it restore the boy who never got to be held the way he should have been.

Because when he is loved freely
you will breathe deeper. You will walk lighter. You will finally come home to yourself.

Journal Prompts:

When was the last time you truly felt loved, unconditionally? What made that moment feel safe?

What messages did you receive growing up about what it means to be “a man”? How have those beliefs shaped your ability to receive love?

What would it look like to allow someone to love the real you, the you behind the survival, behind the smile?

What part of you still believes that love must be earned? Where did that belief begin?

If your inner boy could write you a letter, what would he say about the love he needed but never received?

What does safe love feel like to you, not what you were taught, but what your soul craves?

When someone tries to love you today, what walls go up? What would it look like to gently let them down?

In what moments do you feel most seen? How can you invite more of that into your life, without apology?

Reflection:
There is a little boy in you
who is not asking you to man up
but to look back
and finally give him
what he’s been waiting for:

Presence.
Protection.
Permission to be loved
without performance.

And brother,
that love is not a fantasy.
It is your birthright.
Let it find you.

We’re sorry that we haven’t been posting as frequently. The weight of everything happening around the world; the floods ...
06/07/2025

We’re sorry that we haven’t been posting as frequently. The weight of everything happening around the world; the floods in Texas, the lives lost, the cries we can’t unhear, has grieved us deeply. It’s been hard to post as usual when the world feels anything but usual.
A heart bowed in prayer, trying to make sense of it all.
To every soul grieving right now, whether because of what’s happening in Texas, around the world, and/ or what’s happening in your own heart, we are praying for you.

Journal Prompt: What did your younger self need that he never received? How are you providing that now?Write a letter fr...
27/06/2025

Journal Prompt: What did your younger self need that he never received? How are you providing that now?
Write a letter from the little boy within you to the man you are today.

Checking in on you, kings.How is your heart?Not the performance. Not the role. Not the mask.But you, the man behind the ...
23/06/2025

Checking in on you, kings.

How is your heart?
Not the performance. Not the role. Not the mask.
But you, the man behind the armor.

You’ve been carrying a lot.
Responsibilities. Expectations. Silent battles.
Maybe no one’s asked in a while, but how are you, really?

Greetings KINGS: Join us for a live discussion on therapy and the surrounding stigma today at 7 PM CST/8 PM EST hosted b...
18/05/2023

Greetings KINGS: Join us for a live discussion on therapy and the surrounding stigma today at 7 PM CST/8 PM EST hosted by . Arron Muller, , and myself, , are excited to engage with you. See you there!



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