Nathaniel Cilley, LMHC

Nathaniel Cilley, LMHC Overthinking, trouble sleeping, worrying nonstop, feeling like your heart is beating out of your che

09/07/2025

Most people aren’t stuck because they lack confidence.
They’re stuck because they think being liked is the only way to feel worthy.

But here’s the truth:

When you walk into a room trying to prove you’re enough, it backfires.
People can feel it.
It gives off anxiety—not magnetism.

The second you drop the performance and stop needing everyone’s approval, something shifts. You get your power back.
You stop auditioning for your own life.

And that’s what we do in the Un-F*ck Yourself Workshop—teach you how to release the performance and step into actual confidence.
No apologies. No more proving.

08/07/2025

Respect Feels Risky—But It’s What Sticks

Most people confuse being liked with being valued.
But when your self-worth depends on someone else's approval, you'll bend yourself out of shape just to avoid conflict.

That’s not confidence. That’s survival mode.
And eventually, it costs you more than just peace—it costs you your identity.

Real respect doesn’t come from being agreeable.
It comes from being grounded enough to say:
“I’m allowed to take up space.”
“I don’t owe everyone access.”
“My ‘no’ is not a rejection—it’s a reflection of self-trust.”

If you’re ready to stop performing for approval and start standing in your truth—this is your sign.

02/07/2025

You don’t need another journal prompt.
You need a declaration.

The Un-F**k-Yourself Workshop isn’t just about confidence—it’s about stepping out of the identity that’s been shaped by fear, judgment, and perfectionism.

If you’ve been tiptoeing through life, trying not to offend, trying to keep the peace, trying to be "enough"...

This is your call to stop trying and start living.

No more shrinking. No more playing nice just to stay liked.

It’s time to get loud.
To get clear.
To get free.

The real you isn’t too much.
You’ve just been in the wrong rooms.

28/06/2025

Being liked and being respected are not the same thing.

People-pleasing might get you compliments.
It might get you invited back.
But it will never give you the kind of self-trust that real confidence comes from.

True self-worth starts when you stop outsourcing your value to other people.

This video unpacks the real cost of approval-chasing—and what it means to reclaim your voice.

25/06/2025

Confidence isn’t just what you think about yourself — it’s how you say it, and how you act like it’s true.

👉 That’s what I call the 3-Legged Stool of Confidence.
✅ Say it.
✅ Say it like you mean it.
✅ And act like it’s true.

When these align, confidence follows.

💥 My upcoming Unf*ck Yourself Workshop dives deep into this — stay tuned for details soon!

24/06/2025

Many people think confidence starts and ends with positive self-talk.

And while mindset matters, how you say those things matters more.
👉 If you’re listing all the great things about yourself, but saying it like a question — you won’t believe it, and neither will anyone else.

💥 Confidence begins when your words carry weight.

Stay tuned for Part 2 where I share the next piece of the confidence puzzle. And get ready for my Unf*ck Yourself Workshop — launching soon!

Plato said, “An unexamined life is not worth living.”⠀That might sound intense, but here’s the truth:If you’re not willi...
20/06/2025

Plato said, “An unexamined life is not worth living.”
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That might sound intense, but here’s the truth:
If you’re not willing to look at what’s actually going on inside you… you’ll stay stuck in a loop of avoidance, perfectionism, and performance.
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Self-awareness isn’t just a buzzword—it’s the first domino in creating real, lasting change.
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And the moment you’re brave enough to stop avoiding your patterns and start examining them without shame?
That’s when things really start to shift.
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What’s something you’ve recently become aware of that changed the game for you?

17/06/2025

Most people think living in truth means just being honest.�But that’s only one piece of what it takes to actually feel grounded in your life.

Here’s what you really need to do:�
✔️ Tell the truth (but don’t confuse that with oversharing)�
✔️ Accept the truth (even when it’s uncomfortable)�
✔️ Live the truth (even when it’s unpopular)

The version of you who’s burnt out, performing, and constantly second-guessing?�That’s what happens when you don’t align with these three truths.

This is how we unf*ck the way we show up.

17/06/2025

“Just let it go.”
“Be your truth.”
“Love yourself.”

Ever nodded along, wondering what does that even mean?

This is the moment we stop settling for vague advice and start doing the real work.

In the Unf*ck Yourself Workshop, we break it all down:
→ What “letting go” actually means
→ How to stop abandoning yourself to please everyone else
→ Why real confidence starts with truth—not toxic positivity

👇 Drop “UNF*CKED” in the comments and I’ll send you the workshop details + shout you out.

It’s time to unf*ck yourself—for real.

14/06/2025

I didn’t realize I was the common denominator.
Same heartbreak. Same story. Different people.

Until I uncovered the belief I’d been carrying:
“I’m not lovable. Everyone will leave.”

That belief shaped everything—my dating patterns, my self-worth, my confidence.

And when I finally rewrote that inner script?
The right people started showing up.

👉 If your confidence is shaken and your relationships feel like reruns—watch this.
It’s time to unf*ck the story that’s been holding you back.

12/06/2025

If you’ve been calling yourself lazy lately, watch this.
Because what you're feeling might not be laziness at all.

High-functioning depression is real.
You’re working. Showing up. Keeping it together.
But inside? You feel numb. Disengaged. Unmotivated.

And then you shame yourself for feeling that way.

It’s not laziness.
It’s your nervous system stuck in survival mode.
And there’s a way out.

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