Mending Beliefs by Psychologist Sakshi Agarwal

05/12/2023

05/10/2023

Ruminating about negative experiences can cause distress and sadness.
This can contribute to Anxiety and Anxiety Related disorders.

25/07/2023

Always love this statement..❤️
Don’t lower your standards for others..
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Go find less ✌🏻

21/06/2023

When the mind is fully focused without distraction, only then will you understand and become established in your True Self.

When you focus on the present moment, then you will have access to your True Self consciousness. But you don’t just want access. You want to meet with, engage with, get to know, and embrace it. That, like all relationships, will take time and practice.

20/06/2023

How to shift negative perespective ?
Every day find one moment which made u grateful. 😃

Think about people, events & things that you are grateful. All Those things that brings happiness to you.
Lets bring some hope back in life

11/06/2023

it’s important to remember that people don’t abandon those they love; they abandon those they were using. When someone truly cares about you, they won’t use you for their own gain and they will be fully committed to your well-being. So, next time you find yourself feeling abandoned and used, remember that the person who truly cares about you will never leave you.

09/06/2023

Gentle parenting is involved parenting ~interactive, engaged, active parenting. It takes focused attention, planning, participation, research, and so much more to be an empathetic, responsive parent who is in tune with their child’s needs That said, in any home, like in any civilized society, boundaries are necessary for everyone’s safety and comfort.
In a gently parented home, boundaries are focused on guiding rather than controlling children and are maintained through empathetic and creative resolutions rather than harsh punitive consequences.

L.R. Knost, is Award-winning author, feminist, and social justice activist. She is the founder and director of the children's rights advocacy and family consulting group, Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources

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L.R. Knost, Two Thousand Kisses a Day: Gentle Parenting Through the Ages and Stages

28/05/2023

It’s easy to read this and pretend this does not happen often, but here is where it happens on the regular:

-In the family with secrets, where a scapegoat is finding their way out.

-In a church with secrets when survivors are speaking up about being abused.

-In a company with secrets when the employee has had enough.

Two factors: Secrets and scapegoats.

The secrets protect others who perpetuate the harm.

The scapegoat is being asked to remain the scapegoat, so no one else pays for their pain.

By reconciling, the scapegoat is offered a false sense of security with a slice of manipulation:

“This is what is best for you.”

“You don’t want to hurt everyone, do you?”

“If this is just between us, I will make sure you have what you need.”

There is a time, place, and process for how stories are told. And, with those, is the risk of the person telling their story, not finding people who believe and support them. This is often when enablers appear, intent to make it all go away. That intent is not for genuine reconciliation, but for the scapegoat to be silenced.

Reconciliation should be on the survivors’ terms.

Reconciliation does not heal trauma.

Reconciliation is when TWO parties have reflected and done work on themselves and feel their lives are more valuable with one other in them, than not.

Reconciliation should never be presented to a person who has escaped abuse.

Instead of “I’m just sorry you won’t give them another chance.” Be sorry, you weren’t there to protect the survivor from getting hurt to begin with.

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22/05/2023

Red flags in the early stages of dating can be subtle or obvious. If a red flag appears more than once, it’s important to take note before the relationship goes too far.

Isolation: They only want to be with you, and while that might sound flattering, they also encourage you to cut ties with friends and family.
Smothering: They constantly put you or others down, even if they mistakenly believe they’re just kidding.

All work all the time: Their job takes precedence over your time together, and they don’t hesitate to cancel dates or leave you early to attend to what’s more important to them.

Affection-Taking: They withhold affection or punish you by withholding affection.
Selfish: The plans you make with them only involve what they want to do, and they always get their way.
Avoiding: There are important subjects that they refuse to discuss.
All-consuming: They say they love you right away, and even if you’re not there yet, it only matters that you satisfy their needs.
Ever-changing: You’re never good enough, and they’re always trying to change you.
Rudeness: They are dismissive or mean to your closest friends and family.
Snooping: They check your private texts or emails or demand to do so.
Unimportant: They aren’t proud of your accomplishments and don’t share in your successes.
Next-level: They don’t know how to fight fair—they’re physically or emotionally dominating you.
Subservience: You stay silent and shoulder their lousy behavior because dealing with their outbursts is too exhausting—you may even feel afraid to leave.
Controlling Behavior: It can be painfully difficult to break up with someone you like (or may even think you love), but controlling behavior that’s left unchecked can escalate into verbal or physical abuse.


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Read more at: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/red-flags/