17/12/2025
These days we often hear that children are “for the world, not for ourselves.”
I understand where this idea comes from — and yet something about it doesn’t sit right with me.
Throughout history, people have had children for very human reasons: the need for connection, continuity, helping hands, meaning, closeness. There is nothing demonic in that. A human being is not a solitary island — without others, without the world, we simply wouldn’t survive.
And at the same time — care cannot be forced.
No one can live our life for us, carry our dreams, or fulfill our longings (and even if they tried, it wouldn’t give them wings).
If someone offers us a glass of water in old age, it’s not because they “have to,” but because over the years there was a real relationship. And a good relationship does not exclude freedom or self-realization — the two are not opposites.
Freedom is not complete independence.
It is the ability to be in relationship without coercion, to give without debt, and to receive without shame.
This applies to parenting.
This applies to yoga.
This applies to life.
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