Dr Rahman - sexologist

20/05/2016

Get Your Question Answered

Dear Friends,

As you know I have been working extensively in the field of s*xology for over 20 years. And in the process I have helped thousands of men and women resolve their s*xual health issues. In my experience the biggest problem is that the majority of people who suffer from any kind of s*x related problems are reluctant to talk about it and do not seek qualified help.

The idea behind this page is to give out as much quality and updated information as possible to educate people about not only s*xual health problems but also how to improve their personal relationships and life in general.

And keeping this in mind I want to answer any questions that you may have related to s*xual health. You can ask your question through email healthx@live.com. I will select the most common and important questions and provide the answers

I thank you for your participation.

Dr Rahman - S*xologist
Ph -9198401 77675 / 9174011 77755
India

19/05/2016

Pain During In*******se? Here are the Causes.

Causes and complications of pain during in*******se

S*xual in*******se may result in a feeling of pain during or post s*x. There are a lot of reasons such as allergic reactions or psychological reasons so as to why one may feel pain from s*xual in*******se. Symptoms of pain affect both and women equally.

Pain from s*x (for women) can be caused due to the following reasons.

1. If the women have reached menopause it makes the va**na dry. This can cause modifications in hormones that restrict the va**na from being wet during s*x and causes pain.

2. Infections such as ge***al herpes (a viral disorder) or gonorrhea (a bacterial disorder in the va**nal skin) can cause pain during s*x.

3. If the passage in the va**na is narrow then it can cause pain during s*x.

4. Allergic reactions from latex used in condoms can cause irritation in the ge***al region that may cause pain.

Pain from s*x in men can be caused due to,

1. Infections in the pe**le area such as thrush which results in the irritated skin cause pain during s*x.

2. One of the most common cause of pain during s*x is a tight fo****in.

3. Inflammation of the prostate may cause difficulties such as pain during s*x.

4. Damage to the fo****in covering the p***s may cause a sharp and stinging pain during s*xual in*******se.

If the symptoms are exaggerated and persist then it is recommended to consult a medical professional. In the case of itchiness and unusual discharges from the ge***als, an STI (s*xually transmitted infection) test is carried out. Another common treatment is using lubricants during s*x to get rid of the dryness that is causing the pain. In the case of allergic reactions, it is recommended to test the products before using them.

18/05/2016

4 EXPLOSIVE! positions that will completely change your s*x life

Did you know there are simple s*x positions you can try for a rocking night and deep pe*******on? Check out how a slight advancement of missionary position can help you hit the G-**ot.

Finding the right s*x move that will totally change the game for you is simply about knowing how to adjust your body.

Here are four Ka*****ra positions you must try for a better s*x life.

1. The Toad:

An advanced version of missionary, in this position, instead of the woman bending or folding her legs, she has to wrap her legs around the man’s waist like a toad. The position allows for deeper pe*******on and also enables the couple to move in circular motions.

2. The Anvil:

In this position, the woman has to lie on her back such that her legs are resting on the man’s shoulders. As the man balances himself on his hands and knees, the woman can raise her thighs for deeper pe*******on.

3. Half-pressed position:

Known to be a pleasurable position, in this the woman has to stretch out a leg whereas the other one is contracted against the man’s chest, giving it a half-pressed look. If you are planning to try something different and aim for deep pe*******on, you can’t miss this one!

4. The Wheelbarrow

The woman has to lie on the edge of bed such that the man has to kneel down to reach her va**na. To enable deep pe*******on and stimulate the va**na, the man can pull her woman closer as he kneels on the floor. For maximum fun, ensure that the level of the bed is not too high but comfortable to hit the spot.

17/05/2016

4 interesting facts about this female hot spot

It’s technically located on the front side of the va**na, directly below the urethra. But, every woman's is likely in a slightly different place. Some men report feeling engorgement at the site.

You might know what it is and what it does. The G-**ot is a part of the va**na that is capable of providing an intense level of pleasure for the woman.

Here are 4 more facts about this female hot spot.

1. It’s named after a dude.

In the 1950s, a German-born doctor named Ernst Gräfenberg described his discovery of a dense area on the va**nal wall a couple of centimeters wide that was highly sensitive and erogenous. “Scientists love arguing about the G-**ot.”

2. There’s no proof it actually exists.

The fact that the G-**ot is a definitive thing is a misconception, according to Wasserman. The supposed G-**ot is a zone, rather than a spot. It may be the glands surrounding your urethra, which, when stimulated, bring some women to or**sm. Many even report gushing or squirting fluid

3. Every woman’s G-**ot is located in a different place.

If, in spite of all this doubt and unconfirmed evidence, you’re still intrigued and motivated to go after the elusive G-**ot or**sm, here’s where to look for it: It’s technically located on the front side of the va**na, directly below the urethra. But, every woman's is likely in a slightly different place. Some men report feeling engorgement at the site. But most partners can’t really feel a difference. Women who aren’t aroused say they feel stimulation of their G-**ot as feeling like they need to p*e - meaning they found the right spot, but at the wrong time.

4. During s*x, your best shot at finding it is through deep thrusting.

You’re likeliest to experience amplified va**nal and G-zone or**sms when there is deep thrusting, when you’re swollen and lubricated. In other words, you’ve got to be turned on already for it to work. Doggy style, legs over his shoulders, even side-by-side thrusting may bring deep sensations—and go for the gold by stimulating the cl****is at the same time.

16/05/2016

Suffering from p**n addiction?

An obsession with p**nography can have far reaching effects on physical health and emotional well-being, not to mention the time and money that's invested into the habit

From hormonal adolescents to curious adults, everyone has at some point in their lives watched p**nography, at times to even just let off some steam. But the warning bell should sound when occasional viewing turns into an all consuming pass time.

You know you are an addict when you want to stop watching p**n, but you cannot. One is aware of all the consequences - but yet the compulsion is so strong that one cannot function if they don't give into that desire.

Experts list out six indications that you may be addicted to p**n:

1 You spend more than ten hours a week watching p**nography

2 You have problems getting an er****on or ej*******ng, or having
normal s*xual in*******se with your partner

3 You plan your day around your watching p**n

4 You choose watching p**n over meeting friends and family

5 Watching p**n is your go-to recreational activity, something that tides you over boredom and gives you a lift when you are feeling low

6 You constantly reprimand yourself for watching p**n

An obsession with p**nography can have far reaching effects on physical health and emotional well-being, not to mention the time and money that's invested into the habit. P**n addicts have complained of exhaustion, numbness and about the mind being in overdrive. With constant p**n watching, even when you have switched off your laptop, your mind is still reeling from all visual stimuli one has ingested

Your libido goes for a toss

If a person has spent hours watching graphic s*xual content and drawing s*xual gratification from it, they will have virtually no desire to have s*x with their partner. Having already spent their s*xual energy in front of a computer, they are not aroused by their partners anymore. This often leads to conflict in a relationship

Loss of work days

As with any other addiction, a lot of time and energy is expended. A lot of people bunk work regularly to indulge in their addiction.

15/05/2016

14/05/2016

4 ways s*x affects the way you look

It’s easy to spot someone who has regular s*x because they always look more glowing and youthful. So next time you want to achieve a radiant glow get between the sheets with your partner or go it alone.

There are awesome benefits to having regular s*x, but did you know that s*x also leaves you looking rosier and more beautiful.

Here are four ways this happens.

1. Blood Flow

S*x increases the blood flow to your face leaving your skin glowing.

2. Time Factor

In the short term you’ll look flushed and rosy but over time s*x can make you look younger, reduce wrinkles and even banish acne.

3. Stress Reliever

It's really simple – s*x decreases stress, which, in turn, reduces stress hormones in the body, which helps to lower inflammation

4. Ma********on

People tend to be more relaxed when they ma******te so that calm feeling boosts the anti-inflammatory benefits for your skin. The people who typically ma******te tend to have it as part of their daily routine.They do it regularly – they aren’t just ma********ng once or twice a month.

Just 20 minutes of s*x does a lot of good for the body – and it doesn't have to be partner s*x. We're all s*xual beings, which means we all have the opportunity to reap the benefits of s*x, as well.

13/05/2016

Couples to Improve their Married Life

Marriage is the one of the most important relationships for most people in their lives, and it requires no less effort and dedication than a full-time job. A marriage requires the investment of time, emotions, care, love and s*x. Many times, couples face relationship issues after a few years of being married and a lot of them arise when the spark of new love has dimmed and married life and s*x have become mediocre and monotonous.

To prevent such monotony and a possible downward spiral in your relationship, here are some tips to improve your married life:

1. Communicate better and more frequently. Be honest about your problems, s*x, anger, reservations, needs and wants.

2. Learn to effectively handle conflict and try to make compromises for your spouse.

3. Schedule s*x to stop your marriage from becoming boring and s*xless. Having s*x regularly can keep your desire alive. Having busy lifestyles can sideline s*x and unknowingly harm your relationship. Deciding in advance when to have s*x may sound mechanical but it is still better than having none at all.

4. Kiss frequently and passionately. Kissing facilitates the exchange of hormones through saliva which works wonders for your libido. Kissing can reduce anxiety and create intimacy.

5. Indulge in different kinds of s*x. Go on romantic dates, have comforting s*x when one of you is feeling down and makeup by having s*x after resolving, these will allow you to express yourselves freely and rekindle your married life.

6. Spend exclusive time with each other and enjoy each other's company. Have weekends where you can relax and have s*x without worrying about time and work. Giving each other time and attention will surely help you rekindle your love and commitment to each other.

12/05/2016

5 things that will make your p***s shrink in size

Here are 5 unhealthy practices that will contribute to the decline in the size and attribute of your p***s.

While you may be more focused on the things you can do to make your p***s bigger, a few habits might be making things even worse and causing your junk to shrink in size.

Here are five main things that causes your p***s to be smaller.

1. Lack of usage

To keep your p***s in shape, it is important to exercise it. This means making sure you have an er****on on a daily basis. Thankfully, biology has your back as most men get an er****ons at some time between night and morning. The more often you get erect, the less likely you will be to lose p***s length.

2. Over-masturbation

Ma********ng on a regular basis is accepted and healthy, but too much of this can cause your p***s to wither in size. This is due to the fact that during ej*******on, the body discharges testosterone to counter the or**sm experience. If this happens too often, the body will be unable to restock testosterone, causing your p***s to suffer.

3. Over indulgence in alcohol

Consuming too much alcohol is not only bad for your liver but for your p***s's health. A man's ability to get an er****on is hindered by drinking high doses of alcohol. The lack of fluids associated with drinking causes less blood volume.

4. Smoking

It is a known fact that smoking ci******es contributes to the development of atherosclerosis, or the buildup of plaque inside the arteries. Ci******es clog the heart's arteries, including those that fill the p***s with blood during er****ons. The toxic chemicals in cigarette smoke can damage blood vessels that may lead to erectile dysfunction which can also damage the pe**le tissues.

5. Too much unhealthy foods

Eating too much unhealthy foods like fast-food, combined with being overweight has played the biggest role on p***s size. Stock yourself with healthy food to prevent obesity as increase in weight and waist-line can cause your p***s to shrink.

11/05/2016

HIV/AIDS

(Human Immunodeficiency Virus, AIDS)

The Facts

AIDS (acquired immune deficiency syndrome) was first recognized in North America in the early 1980s. It is caused by a virus known as HIV(human immunodeficiency virus). HIV infection has become a world wide epidemic. As of 2013, the World Health Organization (WHO) stated there were 35 million people currently infected with the virus.

HIV is more common among certain populations at risk, such as people who inject illicit drugs, and bis*xual and gay men. HIV infections are also increasing among women, Aboriginal peoples, and African and Caribbean communities.

The virus can be found in the blood, semen, va**nal fluid, and breast milk of infected people. HIV is also found in saliva, sweat, and tears, though not in high enough amounts to transmit the virus to another person. There are no known cases of anyone catching HIV through sneezing, shaking hands, or from toilet seats or mosquito bites.

HIV may be transmitted through unprotected heteros*xual or homos*xual, va**nal, a**l, or oral s*x. Although the risk of infection is lower with oral s*x, it is still important to use protection during oral s*x, such as a dental dam (a piece of latex to cover the va**na during oral s*x) or a condom. HIV can also be passed on through perinatal infection, where mothers who have HIV are at risk of giving the disease to the baby during birth. The risk of perinatal infection is declining with new treatments. Breast-feeding by an infected mother can also transmit HIV.

Symptomsand Complications

Symptoms of HIV infection appear 2 to 12 weeks after exposure. At this point the virus begins rapidly taking over immune cells in the blood. The symptoms of this phase are flu-like and include:

When the symptoms begin to appear, the person with HIV is very infectious.

The symptoms usually go away within a week to a month, and the person will feel fine again. However, the symptoms may return from time to time. The symptoms of HIV are similar to symptoms of other diseases. The only way to know for sure whether you are HIV-positive is to be tested. After infection with HIV, it can take 3 months for antibodies to the virus to be detectable in the blood. On average, it takes about 22 days to develop antibodies. This is called seroconversion. After seroconversion occurs, the virus can be detected using a blood test.

After the initial symptoms go away, the body's immune system tries to control the virus.

The immune system can keep the virus at bay for a while, but it can't completely get rid of it. Many people will feel fine for years before their immune system weakens and they develop AIDS. Without treatment, about half of HIV-positive people develop AIDS within 10 years of infection. Some people develop AIDS within a few years of infection. A few, called long-term non-progressors, do not develop AIDS until much later. Many factors affect the time frame to develop AIDS, including medications and the person's general health and lifestyle.

Anyone can become infected with HIV. Fortunately, it can be prevented.

The main ways to prevent HIV infection are:

Unless you are in a mutually monogamous relationship (neither of you is having s*x with anyone else), and you are sure neither of you is HIV-positive, make sure to use a condom every time you have s*x. In some cases, couples where one partner is infected may decide to risk infection of the other partner, especially if they are trying to get pregnant. If this is the case,talk to your doctor. Your choice of s*xual partner is also important, since condoms do sometimes break or leak. You may know that you practice safe s*x and that you haven't used dirty needles, but you must also know that your s*xual partners and all their other partners do the same. Sharing needles is very dangerous – it carries a high risk of getting HIV.

People with other s*xually transmitted infections (STIs) such as herpes are much more likely to contract HIV during s*x, probably because of tiny breaks in their skin or va**nal lining.Keeping free of other STIs will help reduce your risk of HIV infection, but this alone will not protect you from infection. That's why it is important to use condoms.

10/05/2016

How to deal with an emotional partner

• If you are in a relationship with someone who is way more sensitive than you are, here's how to manage it
• One of the best ways to manage when your partner gets too emotional than you is by talking it out.

Talk it out

One of the best ways to manage when your partner gets too emotional than you is by talking it out. Sometimes when your partner gets to vent out his feelings when he/she is chatting with you, it helps clear their heart.

Do not taunt your partner

Being emotional is not bad, but when you make your partner realise that he/she is too emotional, it can have adverse effects on your relationship. So, instead of taunting your partner, it is best if you try and have a conversation with him/her to make it easier for you.

Don't give in too much into your partner's feelings

Sometimes it is better to keep away from your partner's feelings without indulging too much into it so that it doesn't lead to problems later on in your relationship. Sometimes giving too much into your partner's emotions, he/she can take advantage of you.

Don't always spend time together

If you go out of your way to always be with your partner, he/she may never be able to spend time with other people or by themselves and would look at you for support.

09/05/2016

S*xual Preferences of Men and Women?

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. In fact, the difference between the two s*xes is not just limited to their thinking and physicality; both are very different when it comes to what they desire and expect for a satisfied s*xual life.

What do women want?

1. Commitment:

A centuries-old question that proves to be very elusive, women actually lay emphasis on feeling desired in order to be aroused. Based on years of research, it reveals that women like to know that the s*x they are having with a man is not just a one-time thing. Commitment is a major turn on for women.

2. Future focus:

The female mind is highly complex. A woman can be physically turned on and mentally turned off at the same time. Not only that, before choosing a potential mate, she'd make sure that the man she's choosing would be neither cruel nor unfaithful, and would be fully capable of protecting her and their potential offspring.?

3. Beyond fe**sh:

You'd be surprised that fe**shes are very rare among women. This is because the female brain is not aroused by any single trigger, like attractive feet, and it requires a combination of triggers to get them in the mood.

What do men want?

1. Visual:

On the other hand, men are rather simple creatures. Men are predominantly visual and give a lot of importance on watching their partners in order to get aroused. This is one of the prime reasons why men enjoy watching women or**sm, and probably also the reason why women fake it so often.

2. Physical:

Also, men are directly opposite to women when it comes to what causes arousal and a single trigger, like painted lips, can turn them on.

3. Fetishes:

Moreover when a man is physically turned on, he's psychologically turned on as well, further highlighting how different the minds of the two genders work when it comes to s*x. Also, this the reason why fe**shes are so common in men.

And what do both men and women want?

Common joys:

Both are in consensus regarding a few things they want in bed. Dirty talk is one of them. Research reveals that talking s*x in bed brought both partners closer and made them more open and experimental, willing to try out new things. New positions, role playing and the introduction of s*x toys in in*******se are also some of the things both men and women desire in bed