01/07/2025
Soo soo true , absolutely.....
They say ‘special kids are given to special parents’... In my opinion? No, they aren’t.
They are given to parents who opted to have a baby, probably at some point when asked boy or girl have said “any as long as they’re healthy!” and completely unaware of what turn their lives may take.
They’ve also gone through the worst emotional rollercoaster of stress, anxiety, fear, upset, guilt, trauma, and loss.
So does that make us ‘special’?
It may force us to be stronger, resilient, knowledgeable, ferocious, protective, supportive, understanding, and non-judgemental (well, most of us). Special though? Not so much.
This saying almost suggests we should feel lucky, grateful even – which, to an extent, of course I do. But this saying shouldn’t take away our struggle.
When my daughter was young, I’d said to someone: “You know, this is really hard,” and their response would be that saying. I didn’t respond. I felt like it was uncomfortable for them to hear my view of this life, so they shut me down with that quote, and they felt better as they’d said something.
I don’t judge anyone for not knowing what to say, but I don’t feel that quote is it.
Ask me how I’m coping, ask me if I need a hand, ask me how she is… or ask me if I’m okay.
If this resonates with you, then welcome to the club. The club we didn’t ask to be in, that has special in the name, but never feels very special.
Give yourself a break today. Even if you don’t feel it, you’re doing amazing. Your child may be struggling, but they are struggling a lot less because you’re there to hold them along the way…
Sending love and understanding, from a parent not feeling very special at the minute 🫶🏻