28/11/2025
💔 10 Life Lessons I Learned from Betrayal— The Journey That Made Me a Healer
It was 2016.
I was sitting at my mother’s home when my phone rang.
I picked up the call.
On the other side… it was the man I was deeply in love with… the man I was in a committed relationship with.
I said, “Hello…”
And he replied,
“You have been doubting me for a long time… so today let me tell you the truth.”
Just hearing this first sentence made my heart pound uncontrollably.
A strange heaviness gripped my chest.
Then he said the words that collapsed my entire world in one minute:
“Yes, I am in love with Meenakshi. I can’t live without her.”
My throat tightened.
My heartbeat felt like it would burst out of my body.
But I swallowed every tear, every shock, every scream… just to pretend that nothing happened.
Because now I had gone into investigation mode.
I wanted to know how deep he was in love with her… and what was left for me.
So I asked,
“Imagine a beautiful green land, a romantic place… who would you like to imagine yourself with? Me… or her?”
He answered without even a second’s delay:
“Uske sath.”
It felt like someone had pushed me off a very high mountain.
I asked a few more questions, and for the next one hour, he kept describing how much he loved her… sentence after sentence.
Every line felt like a knife cutting my heart.
My chest felt brutally wounded.
A deep vacuum formed inside my stomach.
I wanted to scream.
I wanted to cry loudly.
But I was silent.
Suddenly, my mother walked into my room and saw my face—full of tension and shock.
“What happened?” she asked.
I quickly turned away, hid my face, and said,
“Nothing… I have some work. I need to go.”
I rushed to the garage, sat in the car, drove to an isolated place, parked it…
Looked around to make sure no one was coming…
And then I cried.
Cried uncontrollably.
My hands were shaking violently.
My entire life played in front of me like a flashback—
All the red flags I ignored…
All the sacrifices I made…
All the hard work I put into the relationship…
And in one day, everything ended.
That night was terrible.
I was sure I would die of a heart attack from the pain.
I, who can’t even fast for one day…
didn’t eat anything for three days.
I was in deep shock.
On the 4th day, I spoke to him again.
I told him:
“I believe in true, deep love. I don’t want to come between two people who love each other. Let’s separate. I will talk to her husband. You can marry her.”
Hearing this, he suddenly panicked.
Because he didn’t want to lose the social prestige and benefits he was getting through me.
He wanted to keep his affair as his side peace. He was so sure that I loved him blindly that no matter what he did, I would still accept him. So he started making me weak & insecure.
(or us vaqt vo shayad kahin na kahin sahi tha... )
So he started saying,
“Where will you go? How will you manage without money? Please forgive me.”
He sounded guilty.
And I forgave him.
But forgiveness didn’t reduce my heartbreak.
The pain was too intense.
Sleepless nights, anxiety, extreme palpitations… nothing was helping.
This was the time I entered my healing journey.
And I promised myself:
“I will become financially independent in the next few years so no one can ever say,
‘Tum kahan jaogi mere bina? Kaise rahogi?’”
From 2016 to mid-2017, I didn’t sleep properly.
I studied healing day and night.
I didn’t have money for workshops, so my only option was to study on my own—
read books, research, experiment, understand energy healing deeply.
During this time, I carried the highest burden—
Handling two kids, managing the house, studying healing nonstop…
Meanwhile, this man continued enjoying life—coming home late, irresponsible…
And instead of appreciation, he used to lash out at me,
“Ghar saaf kyun nahi hai?” and more.
One day, I lost my patience and said,
“If you had given me financial and emotional stability, I would have managed everything.”
His ego broke.
He slapped me so hard that the slap landed on my eye, and my eye started bleeding.
It wasn’t just physical abuse.
It broke me emotionally.
Again he asked for forgiveness.
And again I forgave.
Why?
Because my children smiled when he was around.
For me, their happiness was bigger than my pain.
But I didn’t stop working on myself.
By 2018, I had sold my gold and even taken financial support from friends and family to collect enough money for paid workshops and courses.
They were very expensive for me, but truly worth it. I healed myself intensely
—and that is when I finally began my journey as a therapist.
I could feel people’s pain deeply.
And because of that, people healed beautifully.
I started getting amazing reviews.
Within a few years, I became financially stable and well-recognised.
By 2023, I had helped more than 500 people heal.
But in 2023, the same man—whom I had forgiven in 2016 and 2017—returned with even more destructive behaviour.
My success triggered his insecurities.
And he started using black magic, not just on me…
but on my children too.
The moment he touched my children’s lives…
That was the final limit.
No more forgiveness.
I threw him out of my life.
Yes, I took action late.
Yes, I should have done this earlier.
But good people give chances.
Good people trust.
This was my lesson.
And the first time ever, I forgave myself for taking late action.
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🌟 What My Journey Has Taught Me (Your Learnings)
1. Forgiveness is for genuine people — not for masterminds who misuse your kindness.
2. Love is your strength, not your weakness.
Never let anyone use your love to control or hurt you.
3. Indian women tolerate extreme abuse for their children.
But remember—
For your children, an emotionally peaceful mother is far better than a wounded, angry mother.
4. A person who is addicted to abusing you will NEVER reduce their abuse with forgiveness.
Their next attack will always be more dangerous.
5. If you don’t have money to heal, give time. Study. Learn.
Your knowledge will make you powerful.
6. The biggest weakness of good-hearted people is ignorance.
So learn the psychology of toxic people.
7. When choosing a life partner (for yourself or your children),
“EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE” should be the top priority.
Without it, nothing else matters.
8. Toxic people don’t love you for who you are — they love the benefits that come with you.
They stay for material advantages, not emotional connection.
9. Toxic people may grow in money or fame,
but emotionally they NEVER grow.
They may show charity online, but behind the scenes they are emotionally cruel abusers.
10. If your emotional health is getting damaged,
LEAVE — without caring for society.
Because once emotional health breaks,
physical health, financial stability, and spiritual energy also collapse.
Society will neither pay your bills nor wipe your tears.
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Dear one, if my story gave you learning, strength or inspiration,
Write your thoughts in the comments.
Your words inspire me to share more stories from my life.
My toxic relationship journey started with betrayal…
and ended with black magic.
But today, I stand strong—
as a healer, a mother, and a woman who rebuilt her life from scratch. 💫
Love & Light
DR. Shruti Upadhyay
PLR Therapist & Healer