Therapy o Clock

14/10/2022

A good relationship is not something that happens to you, rather you make it happen.

Any relationship can be difficult, and partners can work through it to overcome the challenges they face.

Hence, a relationship would last long & strong provided consistent efforts are being invested.

Just like taking care of a plant is a daily affair, which requires gentle care and neither over/under grooming.

That's how relationships also grow.

They are an investment for life. Regular deposits is a must.

More so, if both the partners approach with the mindset that "I am responsible for this relationship, I am responsible for my actions" and take accountability towards it, it can make any relationship thrive.

So, make it happen, instead of counting on it to work out on its own.

Having said that, there can be certain relationship challenges that can make couples feel like they are in a gridlock situation -- for that it is recommended that they reach out to a therapist and address those concerns.

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12/10/2022

You have so much love to give, more than you can think.

Trust me it is there, but do you feel it yet?

How do we activate the LOVE that has become dormant?

How do we realise that behind all the emotions fluctuating throughout the day, there's a major one that makes us get through all of it.

Not the fancy opulent form of love, but the one that makes you feel calm, connected and fulfilled.

Have you felt that yet? 💜

13/09/2022

When we are stuck in a loop of thoughts worrying about the outcome --- there are certain things we probably are doing that don't help us breakthrough the pattern.

1. Telling ourselves "this should/ought to happen in a certain way only then it's good". This simply wires us to not explore more options and builds pressure because it leaves us to not explore other options --- so we are stuck in a loop to fulfill our/society's norms.

2. We often worry and drain ourselves with things that are usually out of our control -- we can't really do anything about it still we give most of our headspace to it. Rather if we focus on things that we can control - it usually brings sense of accomplishment as well as brings us out of feeling stuck.

3. We pressurise ourselves with figuring things out right away, or to have it all figured out right now. Practically that's impossible. Just look at the next step - look at what can you do NOW, and you'll eventually figure out the rest.

Reach out to a therapist near you to help you with this 😊

06/09/2022

"Sense of fulfillment" is what we generally look for in things we do, most importantly in our relationships.

Fulfillment means one feels satisfied, content and connected (in their relationships).

How will that happen knowing there is always potential for conflicts and errors?

No matter how much perfection we achieve in our actions - partners can still be dissatisfied in the relationship.

You may have experienced that? Sometimes you do so much and do it with your best interest - but there are complaints. And sometimes you partner tries to do something but you don't feel happy about it and you can't help but regret that too.

Sounds familiar?

The thing is even with imperfection and few efforts --- partners can feel fulfilled in that relationship.

Sooo..

What makes the relationship special?
What makes the relationship worth it?

G R A T I T U D E 🌻

With gratitude even one action can help two people bond well.

And without gratitude an ocean of efforts can go unidentified and the person can feel discontented.

It's important that we feel grateful and express it in words and actions to help the relationship grow strong.

Gratitude is the greatest virtue 🤍

31/08/2022

Life will never be perfect,
Our relationships will also be imperfect.

And this stands true for the most important relationship of our lives - The One With Ourselves.

We all have made mistakes in the past - some make us repent, some make us feel guilty, while some still make us feel angry.

The sad part if we start developing a negative narrative and a belittling approach towards ourselves. More so, it makes us choose toxic/unhealthy relationships.

This is exactly what we have to learn - - growth does not mean never making mistakes, but to be able to deal with the difficult emotions that come after making decisions in our lives.

And so if you are holding some really strong emotions within you --- it's time you address them.

Turning away from your emotions won't solve your problem, tuning in will --- address them compassionately and maturely will definitely help you process them.

When we create a healthy relationship with ourselves --- it further helps us to choose authentic, loving relationships in our lives. Because we learn to choose a healthy support system and not a one where we have to constantly go through criticism because we grew criticizing ourselves.

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28/07/2022

Now which signs are difficult for you to follow?

None of this is easy to do - it comes with practice. It begins with a healthy relationship with yourself ❣️

Having secure attachment means you can allow yourself to get vulnerable (with people who have earned your trust).

You confront yourself with difficult truths, that otherwise obstruct your growth.

06/07/2022

When I speak to my clients, I often come across this wonderful yet sometimes disturbing link - of how parents leave strong impressions on their children.

The attachment style of an individual is formed in the childhood itself, based on their interactions with their parents --- that later impacts their adult relationships.

When I come across this ideology of "authoritarian parenting" where parents are extremely strict and expect so much from the child while neither being responsive nor guiding them --- it never nurtures the child nor the parent-child relationship.

It's a universal fact that we all seek love, and ESPECIALLY as children.

Parents, trust me your love won't "spoil" them. If you fear your child will become dependent, you must know that happens - when YOU fight their battles,

But here we want you to believe in your child and help them fight their own battles. And you just have to show up as their strongest support system. 🤍

Your words of affirmation will unlock your child's confidence and self-esteem. Here are some of them for reference:-

"I love you",

"I believe in you kid",

"You must be proud of yourself",

"You've got this",

"I am right here"

And sometimes just giving them a tight hug!!!

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01/07/2022

Came across this wonderful line in 's interview.

It's surprising how we never ask ourselves this important question when seeking closure.

Someone who has destroyed us, has the power to destroy us again.

Moreover, why would we trust them again? Especially, why would we trust them with rebuilding our pieces?

Why do we want them to admit they caused us pain? Don't we know we were hurt enough by their actions?

Can't we validate our own pain?

Yes we can, and we have to - so that we don't undergo the shattering again and again.

Let's remember - what happened to you wasn't your fault, but healing is your responsibility. ❤️🤍

26/06/2022

Aaaah yes, that's a big but, and we don't like that one! 😋

24/06/2022

Whether it's a new relationship where you want to connect with your someone,

Or an old one where you want to unlock a deeper level..

These questions are really helpful.

Try these on your "quality time" or "date night" and let me know how it goes 😊

Also, let me know if you'd like me to post more such questions!!

23/06/2022

Interestingly, growth is holistic and we don't get to choose what part of us stays the same and what changes.

The situation let's us know what 😀

An interesting tip I give to my clients - if you're trying too hard to change a situation and it's still not changing - maybe it's not the situation, it's you who needs to transform.

Facing the truth can be difficult for all of us, but it's worth it.

When we deny accepting truth about ourselves, we are limiting ourselves. It harms no one but us.

It is a form of self oppression to know your potential but never explore it. 💔

Reach out to a therapist who can help you with this!

22/06/2022

Growth is challenging and painful, and sometimes scary because it requires us to face truths about ourselves - whether we're ready or not.

Yet that self confrontation is a better place to be in, than never pushing yourself out of the comfort zone.

Because staying in the same place can be so self-limiting. We can forget who we are and what our potential is - because we go in a place of ignorance.

Remember - the truth will set you free ❤️

22/06/2022

Our partners aren't mind readers, so they cannot know things we don't tell them. Communication is an essential part of any relationship.

A lot of times people expect from their partners to know what they need, because they are in "love", and often these unrealistic expectations turn into disappointments.

Well, love requires efforts, it requires communication. Love means to be aware of one's own needs as well as being kind enough to make things easier for their partners - by being patient, communicative, forgiving and understanding - to help them connect with each other ❣️

08/06/2022

No offense, but I've seen this quite often.

Those who claim to not speak up and "never" seek help - are generally the ones who end up breaking down when they are nudged a bit.

That's because we learn to mask our feelings, because we don't want to confront parts of our past that scares us or is too heavy,

Or because denial is the only way we have learnt to cope up.

So next time when someone says this - "aah, therapy is for the weak", or "I don't need therapy at all", ask them:-

📍 When was the last time you opened up?

📍Is there something that scares you?

Share with them your experience how therapy has helped you or someone you know.

Compassion unlocks resistance 😊

We don't have to pretend to be strong, we already have enough going on.

Reaching out for help is the bravest thing one can do, trust me ❤️

31/05/2022

Healing is a gradual process, don't rush into it 😊💝

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30/05/2022

Moving on is hard, especially when you didn't want the relationship to end. It feels like yesterday someone was standing right beside you, and now all of a sudden you're standing all alone.

You feel angry, sad, lonely, betrayed - all these emotions are felt on and off. It even feels like nothing can help us get past these emotions.

And that's why sometimes people don't seek therapy because they feel they want to be left this way. And that nothing can help them.

Sometimes people don't address their concerns fearing it might bring up old memories, but running away from them will never resolve them anyway.

Agreed, that moving on is hard. But it's even harder if one doesn't even begin to try.

It may take time and require some efforts from you, but with team work (you and the therapist) it can happen.

You can move on 💝

Go slow / start your healing / take the first step ❤️

23/05/2022

Just a gentle reminder for you all.

Sometimes for others, sometimes for ourselves 😊❤️

21/05/2022

Healthy relationships don't just happen.

They require efforts from both sides:-

1. In healthy relationship, partners know how to fight the right way- by listening, expressing and not demeaning each other.

2. Not just one person, but both are required to make compromises from time to time. "Today we do what you want but tomorrow is my day, or let's try the new cuisine you have been wanting to, and next weekend let's go to my favourite spot". Make sure one person is not compromising all the time

3. Partners create secure space for each other without having conditions or demands like - "I'll only love you IF you do this.." Healthy relationships give a safety net.

4. Trust is the foundation of any relationship that wants to thrive. It means you can share your feelings, thoughts & experiences without worrying your partner's reaction.

5. Kindness & empathy can sustain any relationship. No matter how big a difference is, no matter what the issue is - if you're kind towards each other - you'll be able to always connect with your partner, offer great support and come to a solution together ❤️

6. Just being with each other, or waiting to spend time after a long hectic day, where you can just BE - is a great sign of a healthy relationship.

7. Being together is amazing, and so is spending time alone - makes one feel independent and that me-time is essential for every individual.

Any relationship that brings out the better you is a healthy relationship! 😊

Communicating these signs to your partner will help you begin a healthier relationship! Share these with them 💛

Feel free to ask your queries!