08/02/2021
We are made to compliment each other, not compete with each other. Two of the biggest struggles that couples have in their relationship is not understanding each other and not communicating effectively how they feel. It's like two people in a car and they both have their hands on the steering wheel; if they don't come to an understanding quickly, then they could wreck everything.
What we have to do is learn to put aside our own feelings and point of view, how we think things SHOULD be, and listen to our partner's feelings and what they really need from us in THIS moment. That means letting our guard down, not being defensive, not taking offense, not judging how they feel and just simply opening our heart to them; letting your ego take a back seat. This allows something beautiful to happen: you respond with love to your partner. You just made their feelings the priority and now they feel your love. They finally feel heard and now you're starting to understand them. That allows you both to feel safe enough to be in your natural state; the man can embrace his strong, confident, protective nature for her and she can embrace her loving, caring and supportive nature for him. Together, they become stronger than their circumstances or fear.
This is how emotional intimacy and connection is created. This is how partners learn how to trust each other and be consistent in taking care of each other. Instead of fighting with each other, you learn how to fight FOR each other. Where there is peace, love will grow. -Joel Clemons Love, Life & Relationship coach .gentleman.wolf
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