25/11/2023
Growing up As a Child, I heard a lot of things about marriage, but not all of them were true.These ideas shaped my expectations and influenced my understanding of relationships. Today, I want to debunk some of these common myths, misconceptions and lies and share my own insights on what marriage is really like.
Here are top lies I was told about marriage:
Lie 1: “Marriage is happily ever after.”
Absolutely a Myth ! Rather I would Say Marriage is not a fairytale. There will be ups and downs, challenges and compromises. But if you're willing to put in the work, marriage can be a truly rewarding and fulfilling experience.
Lie 2: “You'll never argue with your spouse if you're truly in love."
Rather the Truth is ,Everyone argues, Even the happiest married couples argue sometimes.The important thing is how you argue and how you resolve your conflicts.
Conflict is a normal part of any relationship, including marriage.It's how you handle conflict that matters. If you can learn to communicate effectively and resolve disagreements in a healthy way, then conflict can actually be a good thing. It can help you grow stronger as a couple.
Lie 3: “You'll need to change yourself to be happy in marriage.”
Absolutely Not! You can't change someone else. While it's important to be compatible in a relationship, you shouldn't have to change your core personality to make your marriage work. The right person will love and accept you for who you are.
The person you marry is the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with, so choose wisely.
Lie 4: “Marriage is easy.”
No! Marriage is hard work. It takes effort, communication, and compromise from both partners.and it requires commitment from both partners.
Lie 5: You'll always be in love with your spouse.”
Love is a complex emotion, and it can change over time. It's unrealistic to expect to feel the same way about your spouse after 5, 10, 20 years as you did on your wedding day. But that doesn't mean your love is any less real or valuable. Now I have Realised that Love is about evolving and growing together, and it's about being there for each other through thick and thin.
Lie 6: “You'll have s*x & intimacy all the time."
S*x is important in marriage, but it's not the only thing. There are many other ways to show your spouse love and affection
Lie 7 : “You'll never get bored of each other.”
Everyone gets bored sometimes, even married couples.
Let me Say this - It's important to find ways to keep things fresh and exciting in your relationship.
Lie 8:” Your partner will change for you after you get married."
People don't change for other people. If you want your partner to change, you need to accept them for who they are and respect them being different. Compatibility is all about Accepting the differences and Respecting the similarities.
Lie 9: “Marriage is the only way to be happy & answer to your loneliness.”
There are plenty of people who are happy and fulfilled without being married. Marriage is not a guarantee of happiness, but it can be a great source of love, support, and companionship.
Now I Can Say that You can be happy without being married.There are many other ways to find happiness & fulfilment in life.
Marriage is just one option. Don't feel pressured to get married if you're not ready. Take your time and find someone who is right for you.
Lie 10: Here is the Biggest Lie about marriage- “Marriage is the answer to all your Problems “
“Marriage is a journey, not a destination.
It takes work to make a marriage work, last, and thrive.
Marriage is not about perfection.
It's about love, acceptance, and forgiveness.
If you're considering getting married, don't listen to all the hype. Marriage is a big, beautiful and meaningful commitment, and it's important to go into it with realistic expectations.
Be prepared to work hard and make adjustments. But if you're willing to put in the effort, marriage can be one of the most rewarding fulfilling experiences of your life.
By debunking these common lies, we can create a more positive and accurate perception of marriage.
