01/02/2020
CONTROL HURTS BUT CARE HEALS
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I was in a consultation room yesterday. There were a middle aged couple.They started fighting right in front of me and the doctor. The upset husband said looking at the doctor - See doctor....I 'care' so much for her & this is what I get in return...
To which the fuming wife replied - He doesn't care...he just 'controls'...!
The care from one person was perceived as control by another !
Made me think...
what is care and what is control??
How to identify them??
Soon I received the answer.
I had an argument with my teenage daughter over a trivial disciplinary issue...Harsh words were exchanged leaving both of us in tears...
After sometime, as our emotions settled down , we said sorry to each other...My daughter hugged me and said - MAMA you know why you got upset? You were not upset because I did wrong...but u were upset because I didn't follow your instructions....
There is a big difference..!
I was stunned with her mature thinking pattern...
I received my answer too... I was trying to control her under the disguise of care...that caused the conflict ....
If I really 'care' for someone , I will not get upset or angry with that person...I will keep searching different ways to help them...
If I am struggling in any relationship...I need to closely observe if there is any subtle control hidden behind my apparent care...because
“Care” is an “expression of love” while “control” is “an expression of ego”.
Control cuts...
Care connects ...
Control hurts...
Care heals...
Keep caring for people but don't control them ... because
Often people are not wrong...they are just 'different'...
Yes, each one of us are different...
So I have decided only to care for others and share good things...
Let's Keep Caring...🙏🏼
