Dr Patricia D'mello

30/09/2023

Shame is a gripping emotion we have all experienced at one time or another. And some more than others. It can paralyze us from doing things we want to do. And our thoughts are usually condemning. In my opinion, shame is one of the biggest road blocks to growth.

Why? Shame is an inhibitory emotion. Meaning it keeps us cut off from our core emotions. We move to shame when core emotions like sadness, anger, fear etc. are not acceptable emotions to express. Usually in childhood we’ve learned rules around different core emotions - “suck it up”; “don’t be such a baby”; “you’re being overly dramatic go to your room”. You know those rules.

So in order to remain socially connected to those we love or interact with we learn to stuff those core emotions and choose a safer way to deal with the feelings going on inside. Shame can show up here. It can sound like “why am I so weak”; “stop being so bloody sensitive”; “you’re not worthy”; “who do you think you are to have these emotions”! We withdraw, isolate, self-sabotage as a way to defend against the gripping sensations of shame and the inner critic goes to town on your self-worth.

It doesn’t have to be that way. Emotions are universal and are not under our conscious control. They are energy in motion reacting to our senses, the outside world and our thoughts. This energy is meant to move through us. Therefore, emotions just are. We can’t control emotion we can control how we respond.

Undoing the rules society has made around emoting is a way to heal inhibitory emotions like shame. In my opinion, one of the required tools to do any kind of emotional repair is self compassion. The voice that ultimately says “you are worthy or your existence”; “you are valuable to the world”.

To explore self compassion more here is one of my favourite resource web-sites from Kristen Neff: https://self-compassion.org/

Keep growing 🌱

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10/08/2023

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Holistic health recognizes that every aspect of an individual is interconnected, encompassing not just physical symptoms but also mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects. The need for holistic health arises from the realization that true well-being goes beyond treating symptoms; it involves nurturing the whole person. By addressing the root causes of health imbalances and promoting a state of harmony in mind, body, and soul, holistic health offers comprehensive and long-lasting solutions.

A holistic approach emphasizes preventive care, personalized treatment plans, and the cultivation of self-awareness and self-care practices. It encourages individuals to actively participate in their healing journey and empowers them to make lifestyle choices that support their overall well-being. Holistic health is not only about curing ailments but also about fostering a sense of wholeness and balance that contributes to a higher quality of life and a more profound connection with oneself and the world around them.

Join us as we delve deeper into the realm of holistic wellness, where harmony awaits your embrace.Key Elements of Holistic Health:Self-Care: Prioritizing sel...

10/08/2023

In today's fast-paced and stressful world, many individuals face various health challenges that conventional medicine alone may not fully address. Modern lifestyles, environmental factors, and emotional stressors contribute to a range of physical, mental, and emotional imbalances. Treating health issues in isolation often overlooks the interconnected nature of our well-being, leading to temporary relief or inadequate long-term solutions.

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30/07/2023

28/07/2023

🎓 Dealing with Disappointment in School and the Workplace 🏢

Life can throw us curveballs, and one of the toughest challenges is dealing with disappointment, whether it's in school or at the workplace. 🤔 But fear not, there are ways to handle these setbacks and emerge even stronger! 💪 Here are some effective strategies to cope with disappointment:

1️⃣ Acknowledge Your Feelings: It's okay to feel upset or let down. Take a moment to acknowledge your emotions and give yourself space to process them.

2️⃣ Seek Support: Share your feelings with a friend, family member, or colleague you trust. Sometimes, talking it out can provide valuable insights and comfort.

3️⃣ Focus on Growth: See disappointment as an opportunity for growth and learning. Analyze the situation, identify areas for improvement, and commit to doing better next time.

4️⃣ Set Realistic Expectations: Both in school and at work, it's essential to set realistic goals. This way, you can avoid setting yourself up for unnecessary disappointment.

5️⃣ Celebrate Small Victories: Don't overlook the smaller achievements along the way. Celebrating these wins will keep you motivated and help you stay positive during challenging times.

6️⃣ Embrace Resilience: Resilience is key to bouncing back from disappointment. Trust in your abilities and remember that setbacks are temporary. You've got this!

7️⃣ Practice Self-Care: Take care of yourself physically and mentally. Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. A healthy mind and body can better cope with disappointments.

Remember, it's okay to stumble sometimes; what matters is how you rise above the setbacks. 💫 Share these tips with anyone who might benefit from them. Let's support each other on our journey of growth and success! 🤗

27/07/2023

🌟 Managing Stress by Regulating Your Nervous System 🧠💆‍♂️

Stress affects us all, whether at school or in the workplace. But fret not! By understanding and regulating our nervous system, we can conquer stress and embrace a more balanced life. Here are some tips:

1️⃣ Practice Deep Breathing: Take a moment to breathe deeply and slowly. This activates the parasympathetic nervous system, promoting relaxation. 💨🌬️

2️⃣ Mindful Meditation: Embrace mindfulness practices to anchor yourself in the present moment. This calms the mind and reduces stress responses. 🧘‍♀️🧘‍♂️

3️⃣ Physical Activity: Engage in regular exercise to release endorphins, which naturally reduce stress. It's a great way to regulate the nervous system! 🏃‍♀️🚴‍♂️

4️⃣ Social Support: Connect with loved ones and share your feelings. Positive social interactions boost feelings of safety and security. ❤️🤗

5️⃣ Establish Routines: Create structured routines to reduce uncertainty and promote a sense of stability in daily life. 🗓️📝

By implementing these strategies, you'll be better equipped to manage stress and cultivate a calmer, resilient nervous system. Share your favorite stress-relief tips in the comments below! Let's support each other in this journey to wellness. 🌟💪

27/07/2023

🌟 Understanding Stress: Causes, Triggers, and Combat Strategies 🧠💪

Stress is a common part of life, and understanding its characteristics and triggers can empower us to combat it effectively. Here's what you need to know:

Characteristics of Stress:

Stress can manifest as physical, emotional, or behavioral symptoms.
It may lead to feelings of overwhelm, anxiety, or irritability.
Prolonged stress can negatively impact overall well-being and performance.
Nervous System Triggers:

The sympathetic nervous system is activated in response to stress, triggering the "fight or flight" response.
Stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline flood the body, preparing us for potential threats.
Combat Strategies:
1️⃣ Mindfulness: Practice mindfulness to anchor yourself in the present moment and reduce stress responses. 🧘‍♀️🧘‍♂️

2️⃣ Physical Activity: Engage in regular exercise to release endorphins, the body's natural stress relievers. 🏃‍♀️🏋️‍♂️

3️⃣ Deep Breathing: Take slow, deep breaths to activate the parasympathetic nervous system and promote relaxation. 💨🌬️

4️⃣ Social Support: Seek support from friends, family, or colleagues during stressful times. Sharing your feelings can be comforting. ❤️🤗

5️⃣ Healthy Boundaries: Set boundaries to balance work and personal life. Learn to say no when necessary to avoid overwhelming yourself. 🗓️📝

Combat stress with these strategies, and remember, seeking professional help when needed is always a wise choice. Let's support each other in leading balanced and resilient lives! 🌟💚

27/07/2023

26/07/2023

🌟 Boost Your Productivity and Flexibility with Emotional Habits! 🚀💪

Did you know that your emotional habits can be your superpowers at work and school? Unlock their potential with these strategies! 🌟🧠

1️⃣ Embrace Self-Awareness:
Recognize your emotional habits and how they impact your productivity and flexibility. Self-awareness is the first step towards harnessing their positive potential! 🕵️‍♀️💭

2️⃣ Positive Mindset Matters:
Cultivate a positive mindset by reframing challenges as opportunities. Your emotional habits can help you stay resilient and open to new solutions! 🌈💡

3️⃣ Emotional Intelligence for Communication:
Develop emotional intelligence to enhance your communication skills. Understanding and managing emotions can lead to more effective interactions at work and in school. 🤝🗣️

Tap into the power of your emotional habits and take charge of your productivity and flexibility like never before! 💼🎓

26/07/2023

💪 Power-Packed Snack for Working Individuals! 💼🍈

Calling all busy professionals! Boost your energy and stay fueled throughout the day with the goodness of custard apples! 🚀💼 These fruits are a rich source of Vitamin C, keeping your immune system strong during demanding work hours. 🌿👔

🍴 Quick and Tasty Recipe! 🍴
👉 Custard Apple Salad:
Chop custard apples, mix with pomegranate seeds, sprinkle some chaat masala, and voilà - a refreshing and healthy salad ready in minutes! 🥗🌞