Healing Vibes A Child Guidance and Counseling Centre

14/01/2024

"Is it so Difficult to be happy"
क्या खुश रहना सच मे बहुत मुश्किल है

जिंदगी की धूप छाँव क़े बीच भागते हम बहुत कुछ पा लेते हैं... भव्य आवास....महंगी गाडी... सुविधा क़ेअनेकों साधन....विलासिता...पर कितना कुछ रह जाता है... कहीं छूट जाता है.....
शोध क़े अनुसार आज अवसाद, अकेलेपन और मानसिक व्यथाओ ने मनुष्य को जकड़ा है.... तनाव हमारी दिनचर्या का अभूतपूर्व अंग बन गया है... पर क्यों और कैसे हुआ यह???

सच तो यह है की जब जीवन की राह पर चलना शुरू हुए तो वास्तव मे ध्येय तो ख़ुशी और सुख था पर प्रतिस्पर्धा मे पैसा और साधन जुटाते ऐसे भागे की सुख और ख़ुशी तो कहीं पीछे ही रह गए और नतीजा यह की सुविधा क़े साधन तो बहुतायत में हैं पर सुख नहीँ...... भौतिक आयाम तो बहुत पर ख़ुशी नहीँ मिलती.....तो खुश रहा कैसे जाए????

तो दोस्तों पहले अपनी ख़ुशी की परिभाषा तो गढ़ो.... कि आखिर तुम्हारे लिए ख़ुशी क्या है..... वह क्या है जो करने से मुझे सुख की अनुभूति होती है....

बहुत ही साधारण और आसान है छोटी छोटी खुशियाँ पाना.
किसी के लिए केवल डांस करना.... तो किसी क़े लिए परिवार क़े सभी सदस्यों क़े साथ मिल खाना खाना..... किसी क़े लिए मिट्टी क़े खिलोने बनाना या रंग करना या फिर अपने मनपसंद स्वेटर बुन्ना....
पुराने दोस्तों से मिल पुराने लम्हे जीना या अपने कॉलेज की पुरानी दीवारों से जुड़े हजारों किस्से दोहराना.. ..
या फिर पुरानी सारी से नया लिबास तैयार करना.
कभी कुछ अच्छी सी डिश बना अपने पडोसी को चखवाना..... माना अब घरों क़े बीच की दीवार से घंटो बातों का दौर नहीँ रहा पर सर्दी की गुनगुनी धूप में रेवड़ी और मूंगफली खाते बतिया तो सकते हो.
गाजर की खट्टी मीठी कांजी क़े गिलास में थकन को भुला कुछ गुनगुना तो सकते हो..

कभी किसी वृद्ध को सडक पार करना या उनका बैंक फॉर्म भर कर तो देखो.

घर पर चिड़िया को मिट्टी क़े बर्तन में रखे चावल खाते और पानी में नहाते देख संतोष का अनुभव तो कर सकते हो.

बतासे खाती गिलहरी को कूदते देख अपना बचपन तो याद कर सकते हो..... यकीन करो इतना भी मुश्किल नहीँ है खुश रहना..... इन सब को करने में ज्यादा पैसा खर्च नहीँ होता खर्च होते है कुछ फुर्सत क़े लम्हे..... आज़मा कर देखो ख़ुशी को पा जाओगे...

गोलगप्पे जैसी खट्टी मीठी है जिंदगी.... ख़ुशी को तालाश कर तो देखो.... तुम्हारे आस पास ही तो है....
जिंदगी की लकीर तो बड़ी सीधी सी है बस उसपर सीधा चलना ही तो मुश्किल है हम सब क़े लिए.

Happiness is simple but we have made it so complicated..... Try and find your moments of happiness # # How to be happy? # # Counseling...
Healing Vibes @ Richa Tyagi

10/09/2021

IS MY CHILD LOSING PATIENCE......I FIND HIM/HER ANXIOUS ALL THE TIME

In Contemporary times we parents and professionals often witness our children and adolescents getting very stressed over trivial matters.....WHY????.What all is leading to this?????

Whether it is an assignment, a competition at school, a quarrel with a classmate, a choice to be made for giving a gift on Birthday, a remark or a scolding by a teacher....
Why???......What all is causing this anxiety??.....
There are several reasons to it and for seeking a solution we need to ponder upon actual problem.....

Firstly we adults need to introspect.....Aren't we loosing patience....Just imagine yourself at your work place...
A comment from a colleague.....A deadline given by boss......How much it irritates you?
So From where do children learn....
The Hustle and Bustle of life.....Disturbed schedule......switching channels.....social media....Traffic jams....Where are we leading to??.......Haven't we got lost somewhere in all this....

Children hardly read any comics, stories or fairy tales....Mark my words READ.....not watch on television or internet.....Reading actually aids Social and Emotional Development.

It releases pentup emotions.....Children need to paint, read and talk.....We all need to do it.....We all need to be listened.... helps... #.Counseling helps...@ HEALING VIBES. ...Mrs. RICHA TYAGI....

21/06/2021

"MY CHILD IS BECOMING A COUCH POTATO"

Nowadays we professionals very commonly hear this statement from parents that their child has become very lethargic, doesn't want to get up even to get a glass of water....Are children really becoming so lazy ,sluggish and idlers......Perhaps YES and this situation has worsened during pandemic times when we are forced to sit inside our homes most of the times..

NOW What probably is the reason and solution to this...Children are not channelising their physical energy but WHY????????...............I would say that we need to introspect......We as Parents are providing a living too luxurious to them...

Not only children we adults too are so used to A.C., Refrigerators, cars, remotes and so on.....Isn't it so comfortable to get everything on one click......Who wants to make fresh lemonade from lemons.....Oh we relish chilled cola....Who wants to be bothered by churning fresh lassi/buttermilk when ready to drink options full of preservatives available....

We are addicted to games on gadgets so much that we have almost forgotten our childhood games such as hopscotch....our good old "Pitthu game " or Sevenstones.....Skipping is confined to gyms but that element of our zealous childhood missing in it.....sad but true.

ASK a question to yourself Have you tried playing any of these games with your child ever??..
Do you ever sit close to nature with them, listen to birds OR you ever tell your child to water the plants as a duty..... Our children are left with the option of sitting with gadgets.....The biggest irony is that they read about Environment sitting in a closed room either through books or in front of a laptop....

I Strongly feel that we need to revive our own childhood games with our children....This will not only rejuvenate ourselves but will also help our children in developing a healthy lifestyle..... The solution is hidden very much in the reason itself..
Introsopect yourself yourself. # to a counselor....Talking helps helps # HEALING VIBES . RICHA TYAGI (Child development Specialist and Parenting Counselor)

07/03/2021

"DO YOU WANT YOUR CHILD TO BE A SPOIL BRAT"

Quite often it happens that Parents perform all duties selflessly without even thinking twice but why it is so difficult to get a single thing done from your own child? Are we raising selfish and unhelpful children really... Why children are becoming so selfcentred and insensitive..... What's wrong actually?

Few days back I witnessed a mother who was having fever and headache but when she told her child (who was playing a game in mobile) to make tea and get few household chores done.... There was a frown on child's face and was irritable.... The child unwillingly did half the things.. ....Infact the child should have been sensitive and responsible enough to take care of mother and home willingly.....A big questionmark arises that what's wrong in our upbringing?

Ask yourself .....you have never tried to engage your child in household chores....you don't give them responsibilities....you don't tell them incidents of your own childhood...You don't tell them to do something for you as you do for them....You don't tell them Infact you don't want them to struggle and You give them everything before even asking.....They have not experienced the absence of anything....This is making them insensitive and unhelpful...

We should stop ignoring any kind of insensitive behaviour of our child.We need to tell them and make them realise the efforts and hardwork we as parents do for them and for our home...Yes it is also a part of our duty to raise a sensitive child.Insensitive child child 't crib over it is always a solution helps helps.. RICHA TYAGI VIBES

19/12/2020

"MY CHILD DOES NOT EAT PROPERLY"
Ah!!!! This is the most common statement by every mother with a frown on her face and worries in her heart......

Feeding and Eating is dilemma of every mother be it that she is a mother of a naughty toddler, an energetic preschooler, a lazy lost child in middle childhood or a moody adolescent....

In the Contemporary times Healthy and balanced diet, Nutrition ,Weight management and Food are the topics most talked about....and when it comes to children each parent wants to feed the most healthy nutritious food full of essential nutrients to their child.....but isn't it a daunting task.....Ahhhh it is ....because what you want them to eat they don't relish it....Mom says "my dear eat the regular daal-rice or lots of veggies or drink milk "but child refuses it means "What is Healthy is not Tasty"....Is it so?.....No it's not so....Today I would like to share my views particularly on the feeding issues related to preschoolers....so How do we make eating a facile and effortless event????

One needs to be really innovative and thoughtful in planning meals for children....when I talk particularly about Preschoolers....I would say Give them vegetables in hidden form....properly grated and diced.....I as a professional suggest many such recipes for preschool children which has really helped the parents.....
For instance Milk in itself is bland ,pallid and uninteresting for a child....so there are many other ways to feed milk exchange....like in form of paneer, cheese, delicious raitas and desserts...Again I have given several recipes of milk to my clients which has served the purpose very well....

My dear parents you can make eating time really joyful for your child by some creative alterations.... # develop proper eating habits recipies for children of all age groups # Dealing with childhood obesity to deal with eating disorders in adolescents # Counseling helps # HEALING VIBES....Mrs.RICHA TYAGI...

11/09/2020

**COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS**

Quite often we crib and complain about our life, situations, circumstances, jobs,financial status, social emotional wellbeing, relationships and so on....

We feel hopeless and unhappy as if we have not got what we deserved and desired.We measure success in life on the parameters of wealth, possessions, property, luxurious life style. And thinking this we loose on small things which actually gives us happiness and contentment.
We start cursing ourselves and our lives.We doubt our abilities and doubt our fortune.

Next time you crib over any issue do a small exercise.....Close your eyes and think what life would be you would not have ever been able to see anything....Think about the challenges of a visually impaired person.....Think for a moment about a physically challenged person for whom doing daily chores is a big struggle each day......Next time you complain about a luxurious house think about a child who is not fortunate enougb to have a home and parents.....He might be living on streets or perhaps in an orphanage.
When you cry that you are overburdened by work and don't have a holiday.....Think there is someone who has a holiday each day as he is jobless.
Don't you think that you are so lucky that God has endowed you with such a beautiful life so COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS...Yes Indeed their are so many to count ......change you perspective and you will realise there is so much to thank and so less to complain.
Each morning start your day with gratitude...Thank God for blessing you with so much... cribbing... Stop worrying your blessings thinking helps # Talk about your strengths about your positives # Talking helps # Counseling at HEALING VIBES.......Mrs.Richa Tyagi.

11/08/2020

time to talk about Mental Health of children # Important to be happy rather than being rich and successful
# Talk and Share
# HealingVibes....Mrs.Richa Tyagi..

03/08/2020

Consultation available for Nutrition and diet.

31/07/2020

*AM I A GOOD PARENT*
No doubt becoming a parent is one of the most wonderful experience and most joyful feeling in this world but this merriment comes with a bundle of responsibilities, endless duties and tiring efforts...

One needs to respond to all needs of children...physical needs, social - emotional needs, need to be loved, pampered ,guided,corrected and most important need to be listened and understood without judging.

Often a parent questions himself or herself "Am I a good parent?"....Psychology is flooded with theories on parenting but Does actually one theory works?.. ..

So one should follow an authoritarian or authoritative style of parenting or should one be too friendly or lenient with the child.. Is it right to fulfill all demands?...How should one teach them to behave appropriately?....Now the question arises what is this "appropriate behaviour"and how to " teach"it.

Actually you don't need to teach or preach...you need to behave that appropriate way....Don't expect your child to be polite and calm if you yourself are yelling most of the time and anxious....They observe you and they internalize those values and behaviour......Don't dare to think they will not use mobiles most of the time if you yourself are addicted to your phone.

The answer of accurate parenting lies in the fact that Guide them to observe,play,think and discover....Don't burden them by preparing for future but let them live the present....you can never make them learn behaviour by making them feel worse...Make them feel positive and good about themselves....Let them face problems and let them struggle....Guide them to take their decisions..... Help and guide them to built high self esteem through small achievements and accomplishments.....Often we miss the simplest joys waiting for big achievements....Guide them to be industrious and hard working but let them follow their passion......"Let them chase butterflies, Let them face the low and highs....Let them enjoy the rides, not to be lost in traffic tides".....If you as a parent are confused or are facing these questions Don't hesitate to visit a professional and seek guidance............................................... of parenthood task are baffled to do to do a counselor helps VIBES......Mrs.RICHA TYAGI...

13/07/2020

*REDEFINING HORIZONS*

**Life is far beyond a mere marksheet**

Today C.B.S.E has declared class 12th results and class 10th results are going to be declared very soon.

Parents and students are dealing it in their own ways. Most are anxious, stressed and pressurised....Very few are OK with whatever they have achieved....Many are having sleepless nights.....and Many are gloomy about the thought of being compared with their cousins and friends and so on...

Social media is flooded with the posts of students securing above 90%..... 96% ,98% and 100% also....Congratulations to them....But there is other side to this story....Data of students committing su***des....facing psychological issues....going into depression .....In India every hour one student commits su***de so on an average 28 student's su***des are reported each day....(SOURCE..The Hindu)...The NCRB data reveals a remarkable increase in number of student's su***de each year....Isn't it scary?

It is an irony and raises a big question on mental well being related to exams and academics....My dear Parents and Students, we need to understand that your success in life is not dependent on your marksheet....I can quote you several examples where an average student has achieved huge success in life....and each one of us has a different definition of Success in life.....Most important is being Happy in life.. No doubt You can't achieve anything without hard work, consistent efforts and being passionate about your goal....

There is dearth of unconventional professions....There are so many options to explore....Don't limit yourself because choices are unlimited...
Each one of us has different potential...The need is to realise it, identify it and work towards it...so let's redefine ourselves...let's redefine our horizons...

to talk of Suicide helps # Counseling helps.....Richa Tyagi....Child Development Specialist and Parenting Counselor..... VIBES #

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07/07/2020

************IT'S OK NOT TO BE OK********

Hi Friends....Many times we feel sad, dull, depressed ,rejected,dejected and hopeless...Things are not according to us, Circumstances are different than what we planned,Nothing is working, Someone had cheated you or Life is a total mess...We feel like crying...shouting...throwing things....beating ourselves or hitting others....So What....Its perfectly fine because All days are not Good days....sadness and despair are emotions and we must learn to handle them.....Nowadays Children find it really difficult to handle their situations and emotions..... My dear you need to talk it over to someone who can listen...guide and advice.... A marksheet of your exam.....A harsh scolding by your teacher.......A heartbreak or A ridiculous comment by a classmate.....Life is much more than that. ....So Don't let your emotions bottle up....whatever is bothering you....Go and talk to your trustworthy friend , Parents or a professional Counselor....You need to learn how to deal with a state of mind.....and grow and develop as an emotionally strong individual....Happy Reading.... You can contact me if anything is bothering you...I am sure together we can work over it and find a solution....Mrs.RICHA TYAGI..

03/07/2020

Children should be taught how to think not what to think...