23/07/2025
Some messes are louder than they look.
A sink full of dishes can carry a lifetime of shame.
A cluttered desk can whisper: You’re failing.
But it’s not about the mess.
It’s about the pressure.
The pace.
The silent rules we were raised with.
🕊️If this is you, don’t despair — you’re not alone.
✨ Ask this:
What rules around order and worth did you grow up with?
Who taught you that love must be earned through tidiness?
🫂 And now, gently ask:
What does your body truly need before the task begins?
Rest? Nourishment? Permission to be?
🌿 Affirm:
I release the belief that order equals worth.
Even in the mess, I am still whole.
I’ve written more on this in a short, tender piece on Medium — including possible ways to gently shift the pattern.
👉 Tap the link to read: https://medium.com/.rashmism/when-the-sink-isnt-just-a-sink-womanhood-shame-survival-mode-89d7ef87cb8a
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