09/05/2025
What Can We Do?
We cannot control the world outside—but we can influence how our children experience and interpret it. Here’s how:
1. Shield Them from the Media
Graphic images, disturbing headlines, and the dramatic tone of newscasters can make children feel no one is in control. Catch up on news privately. Limit their exposure—not to hide the truth, but to protect their emotional safety.
2. Focus on the Present
In a world that feels shaky, children need to know their immediate world is stable. Stick to routines. Share meals. Laugh together. Remind them—again and again—that they are safe.
3. Use Honest, Simple Language
You don’t need to explain everything. You can say, “Something sad happened in a place we love. People are upset. We’re staying safe and helping where we can.” Let them lead with questions if they want to know more.
4. Give Clear Reassurance
If your child expresses fear about upcoming events—like a planned holiday—reassure them gently: “I understand you’re worried, but the grownups are thinking this through carefully. We are doing everything we can to keep you safe, and we’ll be okay.” This clear and consistent reassurance helps ground their sense of security.
5. Handle Tricky Questions with Care
You don’t need perfect answers. Focus on values: “Sometimes people are scared and make hurtful choices. But in our family, we believe every person matters, no matter what they believe or where they’re from.” They may not remember every word, but they will remember how you made them feel—safe or scared, open or closed, kind or suspicious.
6. Understand How Fear Shows Up
Fear doesn’t always look like fear. It shows up in bedtime battles, tantrums, clinginess, or tears over nothing. These are safe outlets for emotions they don’t know how to name. Stay close. Listen. Let the tears come.
7. Don’t Rush to Fix It
Sometimes, the meltdown over the missing shoe or wrong spoon is their way of releasing built-up fear. Don’t distract or analyze. Just stay with them, quietly and lovingly.
