PsychWorks

05/12/2025

Sometimes life doesn’t move according to our carefully crafted timelines. And for a long time, I mistook that pause as a “not yet”… or worse, a quiet “no.”

But this year reminded me that a delay is often nothing but a divine rearrangement. A gentle intervention to place you exactly where you’re meant to be, exactly when you’re meant to be there.

Earlier this year, while living in Dubai Marina, I watched a beautiful mosque being built stone by stone. Everyday while walking by, I would look at it with sincere intentions. “In Ramadan, I will pray here,” I thought. It felt like a small personal promise.

But Allahpaak had a different plan.
And a far kinder one.
Ramadan unfolded back home with my family… something I hadn’t experienced for 3 to 4 years. It was peaceful, grounding, and exactly what my heart needed, though I didn’t realise it at the time.

That’s the thing about divine timing. It rarely announces itself. It simply guides you quietly until the meaning becomes clear.

And now, months later, I’m back in the UAE… somehow in the same locality… and today, with a very full heart, I walked into that very mosque for Friday prayers.

The then newly inaugurated Sheikh Rashid bin Mohammed bin Rashid Al Maktoum Mosque in Dubai Marina welcomed me with a sense of completion and quiet gratitude.
As if life whispered, “See? It was never a denial. Just a better moment waiting for you.”

Warm heart. Infinite gratitude. And a gentle reminder: What’s meant for you will always arrive! Just not always on your schedule. ✨

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03/09/2025

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02/09/2025

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01/07/2025

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“𝐈 𝐚𝐥𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐲 𝐰𝐫𝐨𝐭𝐞 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐢𝐭… 𝐬𝐨 𝐈’𝐯𝐞 𝐥𝐞𝐭 𝐢𝐭 𝐠𝐨.” That’s what an undergrad student I’m counseling said to me today. She was sharing a situation that had been bothering her, but she brushed it off...

11/06/2025

Some emails stay with you… long after the sessions end. 💛

I received this beautiful note from one of my students and it reminded me why I do what I do.

Teaching, coaching, facilitating... it’s never just about the syllabus. It’s about creating safety, building trust, and watching confidence grow - quietly, steadily, beautifully.

To every student and mentee who’s ever reached out with kind words—you’ve given me purpose. You've shaped my journey as much as I’ve hoped to shape yours.

Thank you for seeing value, for choosing growth, and for allowing me to be part of your story. 🙏

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09/06/2025

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02/06/2025

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22/02/2022

𝘼𝙣𝙜𝙚𝙧 𝙈𝙖𝙣𝙖𝙜𝙚𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝘾𝙝𝙞𝙡𝙙𝙧𝙚𝙣.

Human beings in all ages experience anger in different intensities, owing to the situation. Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. But some kids get angry very often and create a ruckus. There can be many factors contributing to the level of anger in a child. It could be a traumatic experience, family history or divorces and deaths of close family members. Mental health conditions like anxiety, depression and Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder can result in outburst of emotions too.

Some kids have such severe anger issues that even minor situations can lead to extreme reactions from them. At times it is hard for you to understand as parents as to what topic or situation would leave your child in a state of anger.
While having minor issues and short temperament in initial years is okay, but if it increases with age it would lead to behavioral problems.

• Children throw tantrums to avoid certain undesirable situations. If you keep giving in for their tantrums they would develop a habit.

• Teach your child about feelings and emotions. Label the feelings and emotions in various situations. For example when he gets happy, tell him that this particular situation made you happy. And when he's angry, explain what triggered anger in him. In this manner your child would get aware of his emotions and would be able to name them, controlling them would be easier then.

• Make arrangements for lowering anger. Plan certain activities to calm down your child. For example if he has a outburst ask him to sit and take deep breaths before reacting.
Encourage him to sit alone and scribble or colour something when in a state of anger. This will give him enough time to think and reason the situation.

• A Journal for feelings. Encourage him to maintain a journal where he writes down about his feelings. He may not be old enough to write it properly but it is still good as he's venting out his feelings. It will not only give you an idea about his thoughts but also work for him as he explores his emotions. This activity will be helpful lifelong.

• Teach him manners and discipline. Being angry doesn't mean that one can violate rules and be disrespectful towards anyone around. Tell him to look out for his behavior even when angry. Correcting at the initial phase is important before the behavior becomes a habit.

• Avoid exposer to Violence. Children learn from what they see. Don't let them have excess to violent video games or media.

Similarly, the foundation of learning is at home. If you have severe Anger issues, your child will learn from your behavior. So make sure to start from resolving your issues before your child grasps them.

Alvira Diwan
Clinical Psychologist
PsychWorks

24/01/2022

Things One Should Consider Before Getting Married

What we look for in a marriage (be it men or women) depends on various factors. But most importantly on our mental state.

If you think about it closely, when asked what kind of a partner do you want, you may feel that you are certain, however, you’ll only be clear about what you don’t want in your partner.

Surprising but a fact. And simple to justify, you learn from the negative experiences of people and marriages around you and draw points to avoid from observational learning.

For example, you may not want someone who is short-tempered or has issues in managing their emotions, because you’ve experienced many cases of domestic abuse around you in various forms such as emotional, verbal or physical.

When a man is looking for a prospective partner he would look for someone similar to his mother in terms of personality. Similarly, the woman would look for the traits of her father’s personality in her prospective groom. The reason being they are their first representatives of the opposite s*x & also the people they idealize for their qualities and their dedication to the family. This is instinctive!

Let’s talk about the things you should consciously consider before getting Married:
Character over Finances.
A handsome rich man who can provide you with the luxuries beyond imagination may sound a great deal, but a man without character is a nightmare! Prioritize the strength of character over the strong ‘financial status’. At the end of the day, you need someone who is available for you emotionally.

Hobbies and Habits.
Imagine living with someone who loves what you dread! Talking about things you love and are particular about is quite essential because you are practically going to spend the rest of your life together.
Think about these situations –
Scenario 1: A girl who hates the smell of smoke or cannot stand the sight of seeing someone smoke gets married to someone who smokes regularly and derives pleasure from it!
Scenario 2: A boy who is an extrovert and loves partying gets married to an introvert who loves to socialize on rare occasions with a close group of familiars only.
Recipe for trouble right? Remember discussing your likes and dislikes before getting married is quite essential!

About Family and Dramas.
There’s a certain fuss about getting married and staying with In-laws in most of the Asian countries. To say that ‘it’s like a drama’ wouldn’t be an overstatement. It’s time we work towards diminishing the negative stereotypes which are responsible for creating fear in the minds of girls who are to stay with the husband’s family. Before you get married, bond with each other’s family so that you aren’t awkward being around them after marriage. Remember that you just don’t get married to a person but also become a part of their family. Discussing whether you are going to stay independently or with the family is something you should decide mutually when considering marriage.

Marry with the Right Intention.
Marry because you want to have a companion for life, your partner in crime and your constant supporter in sickness and health and because you are in love and are ready for this adventure called ‘Marriage’.

Alvira Diwan
Clinical Psychologist
PsychWorks

16/07/2021

It is as basic as this!

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PsychWorks

29/06/2021

20/05/2021

Level of Understanding in a Relationship.

Any relationship is a result of efforts two people take. They have something similar to attract each other or something unique from others which makes them attractive to each other.
A relationship is a mixture of love, passion, trust, understanding, and loyalty.
The reason I am talking about understanding today is that it is an essential part of a relationship. More like the light in the shadow. A relationship would not sustain with love if it doesn't have understanding.
Two individuals with completely different personalities in a relationship need to have a great understanding of each other to build a strong bond that would be the base of their relationship.
As a partner, one needs to know about the nature and situation of the other person and accept it as it is.
To have an understanding in a relationship, you need to understand yourself first. What are your expectations? Your Feelings and Emotions. What makes you happy, angry, or sad? What is your level of difficulty? How much stress can you manage? Knowing yourself is very important, being clear in your thoughts would make it easier for both you and your partner to develop a better understanding.
Know your partner well. When you ask questions about your own personality you get to know yourself better. Similarly, ask the same questions for your partner and then you can evaluate the differences which will help you develop a better understanding of where you have to work on.
Don't try to impose your believes on your partner. You might have different ideas on a situation, you might think that yours is better but always respect their opinion. Blindly imposing your ideas on them would only create differences in your relationship.
Learn to make compromises. Not everything would go as you plan. There'll be times when you have to compromise on certain things, do it happily don't stress on sacrificing or losing something you're gaining respect in a relation.
Give and take time before reacting. Quick or sudden outbursts often lead to regrets and guilt. Understand a situation or your partner's perception before reacting.
Be kind to your partner when they make a mistake, being angry might be the normal reaction but it won't make things right. Your reaction will always be a memory so be gentle with it.
Communication is an important part of understanding. Encourage your partner to be open about their feelings and emotions. Talk often on topics you feel would let you know more about them.
Be open about things that affect your relationship directly or indirectly. This way you will have a clear understanding of how you can deal with the difficulties in a relationship.

Alvira Diwan
PsychWorks