Counselling Psychologist 'Ruchi'

15/09/2025

STEER YOUR HAPPINESS 😊

10/09/2025

Your words shape your brain's reality.
Your words are the software for your brain. Do you want to update the software for your brain?

Neuroscience shows that the language we use—both out loud and in our self-talk—doesn't just describe how we feel; it actively rewires our neural pathways, reinforcing either loops of anxiety and limiting beliefs, or cycles of resilience and growth.

Stop harming your potential with these 7 common but toxic phrases.

1. Instead of: "I'm so stressed."
Try: "I'm excited." (Both states produce similar physiological arousal; reframing anxiety as excitement tricks your brain into a challenge mindset).

2. Instead of: "I have to..."
Try: "I get to..." or "I choose to..." (This shifts a task from a burden to an opportunity or a conscious decision, reducing resistance and activating reward circuits).

3. Instead of: "This is a disaster."
Try: "This is a challenge to overcome". (Catastrophizing triggers the threat response. Framing it as a "challenge" engages your problem-solving prefrontal cortex).

4. Instead of: "I can't do this".
Try: "I haven't mastered this yet". (Adding the simple word "yet" promotes a growth mindset, convincing your brain that ability is malleable and can be developed).

5. Instead of: "Don't forget..."
Try: "Remember to..." (Your brain better processes positive commands. It struggles to visualize "not forgetting" but can easily picture "remembering").

6. Instead of: "I'm terrible at this".
Try: "What can I learn from this"? (This moves you from a fixed, judgmental state to a curious, learning-oriented one, which is far more productive for the brain).

7. Instead of: "It's not my fault".
Try: "What's my role in this solution?"
(Defensiveness keeps you stuck. Shifting your phrases even in a small way, activates your brain's executive functions and empowers you to move forward).

By consciously choosing language that supports your nervous system, you build mental muscle and cultivate a mindset primed for clarity, calm, and capability.

This isn't just positive thinking, it is strategic thinking.

08/09/2025

02/09/2025

Every time you move, whether it’s walking, dancing, or vacuuming, you flood your brain with dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins. Experts call it a “neurochemical bubble bath,” a natural mood-lifter that eases stress within minutes.

But the benefits go beyond the moment. Regular movement helps your hippocampus grow new cells and strengthens your prefrontal cortex, sharpening memory, focus, and decision-making while protecting the brain from age-related decline.

The best part is you don’t need marathons, just joyful activity. Dance in your living room, garden in the sun, or walk with friends. Small, consistent movements build lasting brain health.

YOUR HAPPINESS IS IN YOUR CONTROL

Source/Credit: Neuroscience research on exercise and brain plasticity

31/08/2025

Childhood experiences shape more than just our memories, they can have lasting effects on physical and mental health. Research shows that children who are forced into adult roles too early, such as taking care of younger siblings or handling excessive household responsibilities, often carry psychological burdens well into adulthood. These experiences, sometimes referred to as “parentified childhood,” can influence emotional patterns, stress responses, and even long-term health outcomes.

One of the most significant impacts is on how these children relate to rest and self-care. Having grown up feeling responsible for others’ wellbeing, they may struggle with guilt when taking time for themselves. This sense of perpetual responsibility can make it difficult to establish boundaries in adulthood, leaving individuals vulnerable to chronic stress. Over time, persistent stress and emotional strain can dysregulate the immune system, increasing the risk of autoimmune conditions where the body mistakenly attacks its own tissues.

Parentified children often develop heightened empathy, resilience, and adaptability, but these strengths come with hidden costs. The constant need to prioritise others’ needs over their own can lead to burnout, anxiety, and difficulty recognising personal limits. They may also find it challenging to assert themselves in relationships, career settings, and social situations, further perpetuating stress and emotional exhaustion.

Understanding this dynamic is crucial for breaking the cycle. By recognising the signs of early parentification and its long-term consequences, individuals can work toward setting healthy boundaries, practising self-compassion, and managing stress more effectively. Therapy, mindfulness, and structured self-care routines can help retrain the mind to accept rest without guilt and develop healthier coping strategies.

This research highlights the intricate connection between early life experiences, emotional wellbeing, and physical health. It reminds us that childhood responsibilities matter not only for development but also for long-term resilience. Addressing the hidden consequences of early adultification can empower individuals to reclaim balance, protect their health, and cultivate emotional and physical wellbeing throughout life.

30/08/2025

Trauma does not just affect the mind — it leaves deep imprints on the body.
Unresolved trauma can manifest as chronic pain, digestive issues, or even a weakened immune system. This is the mind-body connection at work.

In trauma-informed care, recognizing these signs is essential for true healing. 🧠💙
Awareness is the first step toward recovery.









Mental Health Discussion Group

28/08/2025

Did you know that children’s developing brains are far more vulnerable to radiation than adults? A child’s skull is thinner, which allows radiation to pe*****te deeper into brain tissue. As a result, kids can absorb up to ten times more radiation than adults, making exposure from devices, medical scans, or environmental sources a significant concern.

The developing brain is highly sensitive because it undergoes rapid growth and neural network formation. Excessive radiation during these critical stages can interfere with normal development, potentially affecting cognitive functions, memory, and attention over time. This heightened vulnerability underscores the importance of monitoring and limiting unnecessary exposure, especially in everyday activities involving screens, X-rays, or other sources of radiation.

Parents, caregivers, and educators can take practical steps to protect children. Using radiation-shielding measures during medical imaging, keeping devices at a safe distance, and encouraging limited screen time are simple yet effective ways to reduce exposure. Additionally, public awareness and updated safety standards play a crucial role in ensuring children grow up in environments that safeguard their health.

This fact serves as a reminder that children are not just smaller adults, their bodies and brains react differently to environmental factors. Protecting their developing brains today lays the foundation for healthier, more resilient adults tomorrow.

20/08/2025

Don’t become your child’s first bully.

Harsh words aren’t always discipline.
Criticism isn’t always correction.
Silence isn’t always strength.
Sometimes, it’s harm.

Children are born with pure hearts, open minds, and an unshakable trust in us.
The words we speak to them become the voice they’ll hear in their own head — long after childhood.
Be careful what you plant there.

Correct with kindness.
Lead with patience.
Discipline without humiliation.
And always speak to them in the way you hope they’ll speak to themselves someday.

The world will test them — don’t let home be the place that breaks them.

27/06/2025

Initial 13 years of a child are very crucial for his / her emotional, psychological, social, physical development. Your parenting style plays an important role.

Which style do you have? Do you want to make changes in your parenting style?

"Your Happiness is in your control"

24/06/2025

Watch your emotions, thoughts and behaviour before it starts impacting child's psychology. Change your negative biases / approach to the positive approach towards others and your-own-self as well.

"Your Happiness is in your control"

30/05/2025

Classroom modification is required to address the child's sensory needs !!

26/05/2025

Put the Chain on Me Too, Dad

A story that speaks to every parent’s heart

Once there was a little boy who lived with his father.
Every morning at home was rushed and tense.

“Wake up!”
“Why are you so slow?”
“Fix your hair!”
“Take your juice, and don’t spill it!”

But the boy often spilled it.
And every time, his father shouted,
“You never listen! You never do anything right!”

The boy didn’t talk back.
He just stayed quiet, picked up his things, and left for school.
But inside, he felt sad… and a little scared.

At school, he didn’t laugh much.
He watched other kids smile and wondered why he didn’t feel like that.
He wasn’t naughty. He wasn’t loud.
He just stayed in his corner, quiet and alone.

One day, his teacher asked the class,
“What does your father do for work?”

The boy didn’t know what to say.

That evening, he gathered courage and asked his dad,
“What do you do at work?”

His father replied,
“I train dogs.”

The boy thought for a moment.
“What do you teach them?”

His father answered,
“I teach them to obey. To stay calm. To protect people. To guide the blind. To be loyal, brave, and patient.”

“Wow,” said the boy softly. “And how do you teach all that?”

“I put a little chain on them,” his father said.
“I walk beside them. I correct them gently. I speak softly. And after that, I give them love so they don’t feel scared. It takes a lot of patience.”

The boy’s eyes filled with tears.
He looked at his father and said,
“Then… put the chain on me too, Dad.
Teach me like that.
Be patient with me.
Don’t shout.
Correct me gently.
Hug me afterward so I know you still love me.
I’ll learn. I’ll be better.
And one day, if you can’t see… I’ll be your eyes.”

His father didn’t say a word.
He just pulled the boy into a hug. A real one.
And in that moment, something changed.
Not through yelling.
Not through rules.
But through love.

Moral of the story:
Children don’t need to be shouted at to learn.
They need patience, kindness, and love.
Correct them gently.
Show them they are safe, even when they make mistakes.
Because love isn’t loud… it’s shown in small moments.