13/12/2025
No one teaches us how to listen to a partner’s nervous system.
When someone you love has experienced sexual trauma, safety isn’t always something they can explain or reason through.
It’s a bodily experience — and one they may still be learning to recognise themselves.
Because of this, communication doesn’t always come through words.
It often comes through the body.
Supporting someone after a safety violation isn’t about reassurance, fixing, or pushing for clarity.
It’s about recognising when the body is communicating a limit — and responding in ways that don’t increase pressure.
This post is about helping partners recognise those cues,
so connection doesn’t unintentionally become another place where safety is lost.
