29/05/2020
Talking about self efficacy the whole week, and I’m going sum it up in this post. The words in this one are so powerful, and so important for us to remember them!
We see so many sports parents getting agitated with their kids for losing. I wonder whether it occurs to them how the kids must be feeling? Was it necessary to make winning so important that you could break your own kid for that? Well, that’s your kid who’s lost. You should be the one making her understand how to get past her limitations to make a come back. If you can’t make your child at least don’t break your child!
As a psychologist I often tell parents it’s not your words the kids will focus on first, it’ll be the tone of your voice! Your pitch! For example the words ‘Oh Please!’ . We all say them in so many different tones, and I’m sure you all are mumbling them in various pitch as you read it! The words are the same, though each time we use a different pitch we mean different things.
Now imagine the confusion when your own kid is at the receiving end of that tone! And when the person who she thinks the world of, thinks so poorly of her! Will it really help her trust herself again? Probably not!
We are responsible for the generation after us and it’s our choice how we parent them. To all parents, coaches, mentors, teachers out there, be solid with your kids, be strict, teach them discipline but watch your tone while doing that. We always have a choice to respond to situation than to react to it! You are wiser one, choose wisely!! Words are going to make an impact on your kid..