27/08/2025
When I look back and realize how many precious years of my life were lost to staying in or being stuck in terrible situations I had no business being in, I also see how each time I wanted to leave, I was gaslight by all kinds of people, from "well meaning "friends and family, to spiritual bypassing based healers, entire institutions and even qualified therapists. The gaslighting had a powerful impact: It either shamed me into believing I was the problem, or it gave me false hope that the situation would get better. OfCourse it never did, and of course the "personal failing "narrative was a load of BS.Thats why validation is so important for abuse survivors. Had I known then I what I know now, to trust my inner compass and leave, things may have turned out differently. If you are in a situation which your gut is telling you to leave and the advice you receive is either shaming you into staying or supporting delusional hope, consider that you may be being gaslighted by, either people who don't know better or purposely want to harm you. I know it's very hard but get determined to look for and find supportive people who validate your inner compass and make a safe plan to get out. It's never too late, even if you have been stuck for years. Your Life is precious, and you deserve the best at any age.