Sexual Health

26/03/2025

Beware; relationships can be tricky.......
It took me 25 years to realize why so many women get attached to unhealthy relationships—it’s because we don’t DATE properly. We don’t take the time to truly observe a man before committing. We don’t pause to ask ourselves:
Is this a man I can wake up to every day?
Does he have hoe tendencies?
How does he react when he’s mad?
Can I tolerate his lifestyle long-term?
Instead, we move too fast. We have s*x early, and then suddenly, we don’t want to feel played—so we convince ourselves, “Well, we go together now.”
But the truth is, 9 times out of 10, he played his cards right. He knew exactly what to say, how to move, and how to get you comfortable. We’re human, so we fall for the attention, the conversations, the fun moments, and before we know it, we’re emotionally invested. Then we get intimate, and boom—now we’re bonded. Not because he’s the right one, but because we skipped the part where we actually got to know him first.
Ladies, slow down. Talk. Observe. Date with intention. Because once emotions and physical attachment take over, it’s harder to walk away—even when you should.

10/12/2024

Issues with Intimacy in Relationships

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04/10/2024

TEN SNEAKY WAYS PEOPLE MANIPULATE YOU.

1. LOVE BOMBING: flooding with affection to gain control.

2. GASLIGHTING: Making your doubt your reality.

3. SILENT TREATMENT: Ignoring you to make you feel guilty.

4. GUILT TRIPPING: Making you feel responsible for their emotions.

5. PLAYING THE VICTIM: Always being the one who is wronged.

6. FUTURE FAKING: Promising a future that never comes.

7. TRIANGULATION: Using others to make you jealous.

8. BLAME SHIFTING: Turning the table to make you the problem.

9. WITHHOLDING AFFECTION: Using love as a weapon.

10. MINIMIZING FEELINGS: Dismissing your reactions as over reacting.

Be mindful of manipulative people who paint themselves as victims, blame others, and refuse to take any responsibility for their wrongdoing. Don’t buy into their stories. Showing sympathy for them plays into their hand.. 🖐🏽

26/09/2024

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20/08/2024

"TEN THINGS YOU MUST ALWAYS DO :

1. Take a bath, Even if you don't want to do it, and it's more comfortable for you to stay in bed, get up and get under the shower. You will free yourself from all the negative energy accumulated during the day.

2. Put on your best perfume and don't forget the lipstick. This will give you confidence.

3. Wear the best clothes. Don't wait for a more important occasion to wear what makes you feel good and in harmony with your inner state.

4. Leave your house regardless if you have no one to visit.
Put the dog on the leash and go outside. Don't you have a dog ? It's okay, grab a book and head to the nearest park. Or simply stand in silence and bless passers-by. This will raise the vibration of your body

5. Smile every day, little by little you will do it without realizing it and you will feel much better. And those who surround you will always answer you with a smile. It's the simplest way to make your day more beautiful.

6. Treat yourself to a good, delicious treat. Treat yourself. A craving won't kill anyone.

7. Love yourself!!! Sounds easy, I know. Look in the mirror with respect and serenity. If you don't have anything nice to say, keep quiet. Remember that your inner voice is speaking to you and .. speak to yourself with love and gentleness.
If you don't learn to respect your excess weight, height, bust size, stretch marks, cellulite, it's easy for someone to hurt you in your privacy.

8. Remember that everything passes. Nothing lasts forever. Let your tears flow but don't stay in pain. Don't stay anchored in suffering. Tomorrow you will begin to see how despite the wounds, you will heal.

9. Remove from your life anyone who has hurt you or made you feel bad. Don't depend on them completely and if it affects your mood, learn to say NO and get out of line.

10. Stay with those who make you dream, who drive you to improve, who see the magic in you and who make you happy. "

~Source Bianka Luz

19/08/2024

When a woman leaves a long term relationship, the man's first thoughts are often, "She found someone else" or "How could she do this?"

What men don't consider are the times she felt terrible because she caught him talking to other women or when he disrespected her and called her names.

Women don't just wake up one day and decide to leave.

A man's actions and words build up over time, and eventually, she can't carry the weight anymore.

When she stops venting, getting on you, and trying to get you to see things her way, it's because she's preparing her escape from your toxic ways.

She didn't leave to find someone else, she left to find herself.

Fellas, appreciate your woman while you have her, before she becomes what you had.

10/08/2024

Forwarded :
WHAT MEN NEED TO KNOW (HUSBAND)

1. Intimacy in your marriage will suffer if you keep coming home late

2. Your wife doesn't find you s*xy because you buy her expensive gifts, she finds you s*xy because of how you attend to her emotions

3. Your wife will struggle to give you her body if she suspects you are entertaining another woman/women. Faithfulness makes you s*xy

4. Don't avoid your wife the whole day then expect her to be turned on for you at night

5. Women make love with their emotions, for them, the feeling of being loved is important. If you hurt her, she won't desire to make love

6. If she doesn't feel ready to make love tonight, find out if there is an issue and address it.

But if she is genuinely tired or not in the mood, it is not the end of the world. How you treat her today, will determine how love making will be tomorrow

7. If you realize you are demanding conjugal rights, know that you are no longer having intimacy but s*xual perversion and coercion. Intimacy is not demanded, intimacy is invited and mutually celebrated

8. Sometimes all she needs from you is not your p***s, but your arms to hold and cuddle her.

Good and Healthy S*x Life makes you Complete and truely HAPPY

21/07/2024

A FORWARDED POST

LADIES, PLEASE LISTEN......

1. Do not marry EMPTY HANDED.

It takes two hands to wash a cloth clean. Every promising young man is looking for a helper. If you do not add any value to your home other than s*x, you have become a l***r.
Before you get married, go and learn money making skills. Don't let the load be too heavy for the man. This also boosts your confidence psychologically. Insults come when you are not capable. While waiting to get married, get busy with financial stuff.

2. Do not marry EMPTY HEADED.
Go to school. There are a lot of part time and weekend courses. There are uncountable online courses if situations around you are not favourable to attend a regular school.
It will help your psyche in a marriage. We have seen a lot of broken marriages where the man left because to him, the woman was no more a good image maker for him.

3. Do not marry into a culture you do not understand.
Marry with a sound mind making sound judgments. Know where you are going before you head for it. Don't get married and begin to fight every cultural demands from your in laws. Shine your eyes before you enter.

4. Do not give birth to the number of children you cannot take care off.
Some children have become psychological misfits courtesy of their parents inability to care for them. Ladies, times have changed. Take responsibility for the number of children you can handle with the help of God. That adage..... it is God that takes care of children is no more Internet compliant. It is now offline. No data!

Go and do family planning before you become a ridicule among your peers. We had a gateman who had 7 children and when his wife delivered the 8th one, he was excited telling everyone. I shook my head. Feeding eight children with 30k salary?
I heard of this young girl who married an 'okada' rider who already had 23 children. The guy died at the age of 31 leaving behind wives who had no jobs, no education.

5. Do not love without your glasses on.
Love is no more blind. Love now uses a thick lens glasses. Be real in your time of courtship. No loose ends please. Before I got married, my husband and I sat down to thrash out a lot of cultural and faith issues. We agreed on where we would live, how involved the extended family will be, number of children we would have. Everything was written down, after all, God put all His thoughts in writing. (All our plans are still subject to the will of God but you must have a projection. Not having a plan is outright carelessness that leaves us as prey to the enemy).

The time of courtship is not the time to be cracking chicken thigh all around in eateries.
What killed your Dad?
What killed your mum?
What caused their divorce?
Do you have a child anywhere in the universe?
How many women did you jilt?
Were you in a cult in school?
What are your goals in life?
Do you believe in tithing?
Will you take another wife after me?
What are the things we should do to avoid divorce?
These are the so many questions you should ask, for you to know what to pray about and what to pray against.
My husband and I got married on the 2nd of November and we fasted for 15 days in October before the D-day.
Marriage is a serious business. It must not be handled carelessly. Marriage should be a union between two intelligent people not two emotional Bollywood actors.

6. Do not blame anyone for your choice.
You have every right to marry or remain unmarried. If you have chosen to be married, you must take responsibility for your choice.
My father asked me serious questions when I told him I wanted to get married at age 29. He asked..... in 5 years time, will this poor looking young man still be your choice? I said Yes, Dad.
He asked again..... in 20 years time, will he still be your choice? He went on and I kept replying in the affirmative but my heart was pounding and I was sweating profusely because I was not sure anymore. But this triggered some adrenaline in me that there was no turning back.

My father went on. He said..... you know the marriage vow says, in sickness and in health, in poverty and in prosperity till death do us part? He asked if I was ready! I got more confused. I said Yes, I was ready. At this point, he stood up and shook my hand and said.... Go ahead, I will stand by you?
My mother took off from here accusing my father of wanting me to marry a poor man.
My conclusion in all these is that MARRIAGE IS ALL BY FAITH. You just believe it shall be well. May Jehovah help you to weather the storms. All is by faith. Your faith will not fail.
Take responsibility for your choice. Don't be stupid saying you regret marrying the person. It was your choice.
Marriage is a bed of roses with plenty of thorns. Do not let the thorns deform the beauty of the Rose.

7. Do not leave God out of every step you take.
Let God have all the details from the point of accepting the man's proposal to the courtship, to the wedding, to the marriage proper.
Let the fear of God be the motive behind every action you take. Do not engage in s*x before marriage saying after all, he is still the one I will marry. It is like cheating ahead of the exam.
Do not do anything that will blaspheme the name of the Lord. From your wedding gown to your punctuality to the Church Service. Dressing half naked on your wedding is not healthy for you. Coming late for the wedding because the tailor disappointed or the make up artist did not finish on time is all a show of lack of fear of God. Don't start your marriage on a faulty foundation.

8. Do not borrow to marry.
This 'pandemic' is a blessing in disguise for those who got married during this season. No irrational expenses.
I warned one of my young ladies to cut her coat according to her cloth not even according to her size but she never listened. The first 5 years of her marriage was turbulent. They almost beat each other to death because all the people they borrowed money from, kept knocking at their door at ungodly hours. This put them under so much tension that she lost two pregnancies.

You are weak, that is why you want to impress people. If you start your marriage with borrowing, you will pay dearly for it.
Do not move into a house you and your husband cannot pay for.

The Lord bless you as you take heed to counsel before you miss your way.
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16/07/2024

💔𝗪𝗵𝘆 𝗯𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗸𝘂𝗽 𝗼𝗿 𝗱𝗶𝘃𝗼𝗿𝗰𝗲 𝗵𝘂𝗿𝘁𝘀?💔

🔥𝗦𝗮𝗱𝗵𝗴𝘂𝗿𝘂🔥: You need to understand this: what you call as myself right now is a huge volume of memory. Your body is the way it is simply because of the genetic memory that it carries. What you call as ‘my mind’ is 100% memory right now. What you see, what you hear, what you smell, what you taste, what you touch, of all these five different ways of gathering memory, what you see and what you touch are the deepest forms of memory.

Now, two people who have shared their emotion, their body, their sensations, and their living spaces, because two memories have merged in many ways, ripping it apart is almost like tearing yourself apart. You want to keep the baggage aside, but you find the baggage is something that compulsively sticks to you.

Whatever sticks to you compulsively, if you try to rip it off, there will be pain. It hurts, simply because you’re trying to rip out a memory which is you. Because you are a bundle of memory, memory has built up about your spouse. You can’t just get rid of it just like that. It is not just an emotional and psychological process, it is a very physical process.

Now that you’ve chosen to divorce, for whatever reasons which I don’t want to delve into, you need to understand this, that divorce essentially means, you have chosen to kill something which is a part of you. Now, how to conduct this gracefully?

💥𝗗𝗶𝘃𝗼𝗿𝗰𝗲 𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗰𝗲𝗳𝘂𝗹𝗹𝘆💥
Most people think the best way to conduct a divorce is, immediately jump into another relationship. No, you will cause much more struggle and turmoil within the system by doing that. It’s extremely important the body has enough time to keep the memory at a certain distance, otherwise you will render yourself to a space where to make yourself peaceful and joyful will become an extremely hard thing to do. So, conducting this process gracefully and well is important.

You’re only divorcing your spouse, you need not divorce yourself. But you need to understand this, you have already divorced yourself. Your existence has been nurtured by making a bond, a partnership to make yourself feel whole in some way. Most partnerships of this nature are made because by yourself you would feel insufficient, incomplete.

💥𝗔 𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗽𝗼𝗶𝗻𝘁💥
It is time to turn inward and see. You’re anyway going through one divorce which could have been avoided, but it’s happening. So, you at least don’t divorce yourself from yourself. You as an existence, you as a being, don’t remain divorced from that. It is time you discover that this being is a complete being, it does not need any external assistance to be the way it is.

To conduct our life in a society we are interdependent, but the fundamental existence of this, the balance of what this is, the space of what this is, the possibility of what this is, is a complete process by itself. Our interdependence is only according to our external requirements, but our inner existence is complete by itself. You’re divorcing your spouse, which is bad enough; do not divorce yourself from yourself.

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