18/12/2025
As we move into the Christmas period, I want to gently acknowledge something that often goes unspoken.
Not everyone experiences this season as joyful, comforting, or safe, and that is completely valid.
For some, Christmas can reopen grief after losing a loved one. For others, it may stir memories of difficult childhoods, family conflict, loneliness, illness, financial strain, or simply a deep sense of emotional fatigue. Sometimes there isn’t a single clear reason at all, just a quiet heaviness that doesn’t match the noise around it.
You do not owe anyone enthusiasm, celebration, or participation to make them feel comfortable.
This time of year can amplify emotions because it carries expectation; to be happy, grateful, social, connected. When our internal reality doesn’t match those expectations, the pressure alone can be exhausting. Choosing to honour your emotional truth rather than performing joy is self-respect.
If your need this season is rest, distance, simplicity, silence, or being with your pain rather than escaping it; that need matters. You are not difficult, ungrateful, or “negative.” You are responding to your life as it truly is.
At the same time, those who genuinely love this festive season are free to celebrate fully; joy and grief can coexist in the same world. What matters is respect. Respect for different nervous systems, different histories, different capacities.
This season doesn’t require you to shrink, pretend, or accommodate others at the cost of yourself. Sometimes the most compassionate thing you can do is accommodate you.
Wherever you find yourself this Christmas; celebrating, grieving, resting, or simply getting through... you are relevant, allowed, and enough exactly as you are.
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