Couple's Counseling Montego Bay

02/05/2025

What they don’t tell you about marriage.. 💍
(.. after 15 years of marriage)

1. It’s a journey, not a sprint. Laugh, breathe and enjoy the journey.
2. Ain’t nobody like your spouse so don’t compare them to anyone else.
3. All of your issues while dating will be amplified in marriage.
4. For better or for worse will get tested. EVERY marriage has a struggle at some point. Some struggles are worse than others. These struggles will either ruin the marriage or build it stronger.
5. There’s seasons in your marriage where you just don’t have the time for each other. You have to MAKE it. You will both be tired, exhausted and not feel like dating, connecting or being intentional. It happens.
6. You can’t change ya spouse so let it go, let it go. 🎶
7. S*x is good and healthy for your marriage. If you withhold it or don’t make time for it, it will hurt your marriage. So have s*x a lot. Figure it out.
8. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Figure out a way to source outside help if you’re stressed all the time. Laundry a headache? Outsource it.
9. You’re not the same person you married and neither are they. Give your person a change to evolve, change and grow. Dont give the devil an inch in your marriage. He will try it.
10. Find a good therapist for you. You can’t share your business with everyone. They can twist it and use it against you later.
Bonus: plan time away with each other, even if it’s a staycation to reconnect. 💕

22/02/2025

08/02/2025

Clarifying facts does not resolve conflicts—because sometimes, the heart speaks a different language than logic.

And because conflict rarely involves only facts, logic, and reason.

Nearly every conflict, whether you recognize it or not, is a mix of facts (what happened), emotions (how you feel about what happened), and identity (who you think you are in response to what happened).

Conflict resolution often deteriorates when two people begin to argue over their interpretations of the facts. This frequently results in increased hurt feelings and negative judgments about yourself (am I crazy?), your spouse (you’re crazy?), and your relationship (is our relationship any good?).

However, effective conflict resolution always reverses that order.

It begins with affirming every identity involved through statements of affirmation such as, “I love you, and I believe we can work through this together.”

Then, it involves two people trying to understand how the conflict impacted both spouses. This is followed by empathy and full accountability from both sides.

Then, if needed—and often, this step is unnecessary—a healthy discussion of the facts can occur.

Effective conflict resolution considers the three components of a conflict in the proper sequence: identity, emotion, then logic.

Resolving conflict isn’t just about figuring out who is right. It’s ultimately about understanding and connecting to make the relationship right.

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WOW! This hits me hard.

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