15/12/2025
I recently had an acquaintances father pass away who was a physician. She came back to Japan to work side by side with him to help with his practice.
I'm sharing this with you because she wrote a beautiful tribute to honor her father's outlook on life at 87 years old.
So when you are down, not sure what to do with your life and sad about aging read this and hopefully it gives you a different perspective.
1. Do what you love.
My father practiced medicine for over 60 years. Until just a few weeks before he passed, he was still coming to the office almost every day. Seeing patients was his ikigai—his reason to get up in the morning.
2. Always be kind and caring.
People often said, “Dr. Abe is too nice.” He spent extra time and care with his patients and went far beyond what was expected. He used to say, “You never know how goodness may return to you.”
3. First, do no harm.
His specialties evolved from open-heart surgery to cardiac catheterization, and later to cancer treatments using a patient’s own immune cells. Always with the same thought: patient care first—how to help in the least invasive, most respectful way for each individual.
4. Have a hobby.
He loved nurturing plants and took real joy in watching seedlings grow. Going through his papers recently, I discovered he had just signed up for saxophone lessons. Even in his late 80s, he was still planning things that would bring him joy.
5. Never stop learning.
His motto was: 「吾、生涯一医学生」—“All my life, I am a medical student.” He never stopped going to conferences, reading, and finding out about the newest treatments.
6. Age is only a number.
He often said, “I still feel like I’m 70. And I plan on living until 120.” He didn’t deny the reality of aging, but he refused to let the number decide his curiosity or his contributions.
7. Exercise your brain.
In his pocket, he kept a little list of everyday three-kanji words (rarer than (rarer than the four-character idioms), and he loved pulling it out to add new ones. It was a small, playful way of keeping his mind curious and active.
8. Have short-term and long-term goals.
A next birthday, a family dinner, a trip to an onsen—he always had something to look forward to. His large collection of medical historical rarities fed his dream of creating a digital museum. There was always “the next thing” on his horizon.
9. Respect rest.
When I was little, I only saw him on Sundays, and he slept through most of the day. I used to think, “Daddy is so lazy!” Now I understand: he was simply exhausted from working so hard for his patients and our family—and he allowed himself to sleep whenever he could, even on a 5-minute cab ride.
10. Live with gratitude.
Despite the many challenges he faced in life, he always had a heart full of gratitude. He cherished his family, his patients, his colleagues, and the work he loved.
I know that his legacy continues here, the patients he cared for, the medicine he helped shape, and the people he inspired.
Thank you for letting me share this with you and go out and have a blessed week.