15/11/2025
*Life will give you what you ask of it.*
(An-Extract from☝️)
Our discussion for tonight.
Pls Read.
Chapter 5:
*Stop Complaining, Start Acting*
(“Life Will Give You What You Ask of It”)
*“Do everything without complaining or arguing,* so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.”
— Philippians 2:14–15
Complaining is one of the most dangerous habits a person can develop.
It drains your faith, blinds your perspective, and steals your energy for change.
When you complain, you give your power away. You shift responsibility from yourself to others—your boss, your government, your family, or even God. But here’s the truth: *life will always mirror your mindset*.
*If you focus on what’s wrong, you’ll keep finding more wrong things.*
Faith, on the other hand, looks for solutions. It acts. It believes. It moves.
1. *Complaining Changes Nothing*
*You can’t build your dream by talking about your problems.* Words shape worlds. Every time you speak defeat, you build walls around your potential. Every time you speak faith, you open doors for new possibilities.
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue.” — Proverbs 18:21
Ask yourself honestly:
Has complaining ever solved any of your problems?
Has blaming others ever moved your life forward?
Has self-pity ever produced results?
Complaining feeds weakness, not progress. It’s time to stop giving energy to what drains you.
Don’t Let Complaining Cloud Your Vision
Complainers often allow their minds to play tricks on them.
A negative attitude magnifies problems and sees dangers that don’t even exist. Fear becomes their lens, and soon every challenge looks impossible.
The Bible captures this mindset perfectly:
“The lazy person claims, ‘There’s a lion out there! If I go outside, I might be killed!’” — Proverbs 22:13 (NLT)
In other words, negativity exaggerates danger. It imagines lions in the streets when none are there. It convinces you to stay where it’s “safe,” when in reality, you’re missing your opportunity.
When you keep complaining, your mind begins to create invisible barriers — excuses that sound like reasons.
“I can’t start that business; the economy is bad.”
“I can’t go back to school; I’m too old.”
“I can’t forgive; they’ll just hurt me again.”
But faith sees differently.
Faith says, “Yes, there may be obstacles — but God is with me.”
Faith sees possibilities where fear sees danger.
So instead of saying, “There’s a lion in the street,” say,
“The Lord is my Shepherd — even if there’s a lion, He’ll help me slay it.”
2. *Gratitude Activates Growth*
The opposite of complaining is gratitude. Gratitude is faith in action—it says, “God, I may not have everything I want, but I thank You for what I have, and I trust You for what’s coming.”
When you’re grateful, your mind shifts from scarcity to abundance. You begin to notice doors that were always there but hidden behind frustration.
Start small. Thank God for the breath you have, for another sunrise, for the opportunities you can still create. Gratitude opens your eyes to what’s working, so you can build on it.
“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” — 1 Thessalonians 5:18
Gratitude Builds Vision
While complaining blinds you to opportunity, gratitude builds vision.
A thankful heart sees beyond the problem — it sees possibility.
Where negativity sees a wall, gratitude sees a way to climb it.
The Bible says,
“With your help I can advance against a troop; with my God I can scale a wall.” — Psalm 18:29 (NIV)
Gratitude lifts your eyes from what you’ve lost to what God can still do.
It fuels courage, faith, and creativity.
When you’re thankful, your perspective changes — you stop seeing barriers as final and start seeing them as challenges God will help you overcome.
And here’s the beauty of it:
When you live with gratitude and faith, even your enemies can’t stand against you.
“The LORD will cause your enemies who rise against you to be defeated before you. They shall come out against you one way and flee before you seven ways.” — Deuteronomy 28:7 (NKJV)
Gratitude doesn’t just change your attitude — it changes your altitude.
It strengthens your spirit, clarifies your vision, and releases divine favor.
So instead of saying, “It’s too hard,” say,
“With God, I can scale this wall.”
Instead of fearing what’s coming against you, declare,
“The Lord is fighting for me — what came in one way will flee in seven.”
Gratitude turns obstacles into opportunities, and battles into breakthroughs.
With God on your side, there is no wall too high, no enemy too strong, no situation too impossible.
3. *Action Transforms Faith into Reality*
Faith is not wishful thinking. Faith is movement.
Belief without action is like a car with no fuel—it looks good, but it’s going nowhere.
If you want to change your life, change your actions.
Pray, yes—but also plan.
Believe, yes—but also build.
Stop saying “one day” and make that day today.
Stop waiting for motivation; start working, and motivation will find you on the way.
When you take one small step of faith, God multiplies it. He won’t move until you do.
“Faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead.” — James 2:17
Action Transforms Faith into Reality
Faith without action is just intention.
You can believe all you want, but until you move, your faith remains an idea — not a reality.
Action is what turns faith into manifestation.
Abraham is the perfect example. When God called him, he didn’t have a map, a plan, or a full explanation. Yet he obeyed.
“By faith Abraham, when called to go to a place he would later receive as his inheritance, obeyed and went, even though he did not know where he was going.” — Hebrews 11:8 (NIV)
Abraham didn’t need to see the whole picture — he trusted the One who painted it.
He walked by faith, not by sight.
That’s what active faith looks like. It doesn’t wait for proof — it acts on promise.
It doesn’t need to understand everything — it simply trusts that God knows best.
Faith listens to the Spirit’s call and follows the manual of life — the Word of God.
Every instruction, every principle, every promise in Scripture is meant to be lived out, not just read about.
When you act in faith, heaven responds.
Doors begin to open, strength begins to rise, and the impossible begins to shift.
Like Abraham, you may not know the full destination, but if God said “Go,” your only response should be “Yes, Lord.”
Each step of obedience becomes a bridge to the miracle you’ve been praying for.
Faith says, “God will do it.”
Action says, “Because I believe, I will move.”
And together — faith and action — turn unseen promises into visible reality.
4. *Take Responsibility*
Responsibility is simply being “response-able” — having the ability to respond with wisdom.
True responsibility isn’t just about reacting; it’s about responding with discernment, grace, and understanding. The wiser your response, the stronger your growth.
Taking responsibility doesn’t mean blaming yourself — it means empowering yourself.
It means realizing that you are the driver of your destiny. You can’t control everything that happens to you, but you can always control how you respond.
In life, the good, the bad, and the ugly will all come your way. Sometimes it’s easier to blame your situation on culture, economy, tradition, or other people. But you cannot change what you have not acknowledged. The moment you take ownership — that’s the moment transformation begins.
If you are poor, sick, single, divorced, or struggling — it’s not your final story.
But it will remain your story if you keep rehearsing it instead of rewriting it.
When you refuse to take responsibility, life feels stuck. Excuses become your comfort zone. You start seeing obstacles everywhere, and opportunities nowhere. You begin waiting for others to change what only you can decide to change.
But when you take ownership of your attitude, actions, and growth, something shifts.
The same life that once felt filled with thorns begins to open into a highway.
“A lazy person’s way is blocked with thorns,
but the path of the upright is a highway.” — Proverbs 15:19 (NLT)
The Bible paints another picture of what happens when fear and excuses take over:
“The sluggard says, ‘There is a lion outside! I will be slain in the streets!’” — Proverbs 22:13
“The sluggard says, ‘There’s a lion in the road, a fierce lion roaming the streets!’” — Proverbs 26:13
These verses reveal the mindset of those who choose excuses over effort. Instead of moving forward, they imagine danger in every direction. The “lion” represents fear — that inner voice that says, “It’s too risky,” “It’s too late,” “I can’t do it.”
But here’s the truth:
The lion you fear is often guarding the future you need.
Responsibility is not a burden — it’s a bridge.
It moves you from victimhood to victory, from excuses to ex*****on.
When you take responsibility, you begin to live with clarity and direction. You stop waiting for someone else to fix your life, and instead, you partner with God to build it.
Remember: God blesses movement, not stagnation.
Take the first step — even if it’s small.
Own your choices.
Learn from your failures.
Keep walking forward.
Your path may start rough, but with responsibility and faith, it becomes a highway of purpose.
You are free to choose — but not free from the consequences of your choices.
So start making choices that align with your faith, not your fear.
Because in the end, it all depends on you — and what you’re willing to take responsibility for.
5. *Learn from the Ants*
Once again, the Bible points us to wisdom in the smallest of creatures:
“Go to the ant, you sluggard; consider its ways and be wise!
It has no commander, no overseer or ruler,
yet it stores its provisions in summer and gathers its food at harvest.” — Proverbs 6:6–8 (NIV)
The ant doesn’t wait for permission to move — it acts.
It doesn’t complain about the weather or the soil — it adjusts.
It doesn’t wait for someone to motivate it — it understands the assignment.
The ant’s wisdom lies in initiative, discipline, and preparation.
It doesn’t need constant supervision to do what must be done. It works diligently today for the needs of tomorrow.
While many wait for “the right time,” the ant uses this time.
While some waste energy complaining about conditions, the ant keeps building, carrying, and preparing — one grain at a time.
That’s how breakthroughs happen: not all at once, but through steady, faithful action.
*Be like the ant:*
*Self-driven — don’t wait to be pushed;* push yourself.
Focused — stay consistent even when no one is watching.
Faithful — trust that your daily effort, though small, will lead to abundance in due season.
The ant teaches us that small steps, taken consistently, lead to great success.
Its strength is not in size, but in steadfastness.
So instead of waiting for the perfect opportunity, start where you are.
Plant, build, and prepare.
Because when the harvest comes, only those who worked in summer will rejoice in the fall.
6. *The Power of Initiative*
Everything great begins with initiative.
The people who change their world are not the ones who complain about what’s wrong — they’re the ones who act to make it right.
They see a problem and create a product.
They see confusion and offer clarity.
They see pain and build healing solutions.
It all begins with one decision:
“I will stop complaining and start acting.”
When you make that decision, heaven begins to align with your determination. God honors movement. He blesses action rooted in faith.
The Bible says:
“Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might.” — Ecclesiastes 9:10 (NIV)
*That’s an initiative doing what you can, where you are,* with what you have.
Nehemiah saw the walls of Jerusalem broken down and didn’t wait for someone else to fix them. He prayed, planned, and acted. Because of one man’s initiative, an entire city was rebuilt.
David didn’t wait for Goliath to go away — he ran toward the giant, trusting God to give him victory.
Ruth didn’t sit idle in sorrow — she went to work in the fields, and God positioned her for destiny.
When you take initiative, God releases grace.
When you move, He multiplies.
When you act, He adds favor.
Don’t wait for conditions to be perfect — start where you are.
Faith doesn’t need everything to be clear before moving forward; it just needs courage to take the first step.
Remember: Heaven doesn’t respond to hesitation — it responds to faith in action.
So whatever God has placed in your heart — begin.
Take initiative.
Move forward.
Your obedience may be the spark that ignites someone else’s breakthrough.
*Coach’s Reflection*
*Many people pray for open doors, yet refuse to turn the handle.*
You cannot keep asking God for opportunities if you’re not prepared to walk through them when they appear.
Faith is the courage to move before the crowd applauds, before you see results, before it feels easy.
If you’re waiting for the perfect moment, it will never come. The best time to start is now—right where you are, with what you have.
*Action Steps*
1. Write down three things you’ve been complaining about.
Then list one action you can take this week to change each situation.
2. Start a gratitude journal.
Every morning, write five things you are thankful for.
Watch how your mindset transforms.
3. Do one small thing daily that moves you toward your dream—send the email, make the call, write the paragraph, save the money. Small steps count.
AFFIRMATION:
“I am done complaining. I take responsibility for my life. I move in faith, act with courage, and trust that every step I take brings me closer to God’s purpose for me.”
Coach’s Note:
Don’t wait for perfect conditions—create them.
Life will give you what you ask of it, but only when your words, your faith, and your actions agree.
*Remember, life will give you what you ask for.*
Book written
By Coach Owidi
Meeting link:
https://meet.google.com/exp-wbkx-ekh
7:30pm meeting
