Awaken Love Kenya

03/05/2026

What the Church needs to know about emotional avoidance.
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James 3:17 AMP
[17] But the wisdom from above is first pure [morally and spiritually undefiled], then peace-loving [courteous, considerate], gentle, reasonable [and willing to listen], full of compassion and good fruits. It is unwavering, without [self-righteous] hypocrisy [and self-serving guile].

Spiritual maturity cannot be separated from emotional intelligence.

Somewhere along the way, maturity got confused with emotional avoidance.
If someone doesn't break during adversity we term it as "being strong"
Emotional numbing = "being strong"
Facing life alone and glorifying isolation = "haki he/she is matured"!

True maturity is marked by wisdom, and wisdom is where truth, love, thoughts and emotions come into intergration.

Christian Counseling Psychologist
awakenlove.co.ke

03/05/2026

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02/05/2026

Things we call nothing but they are cheating and destroys a relationship.
✅ Texting someone you're attracted to everyday but saying we're just friends. 🫢 Watch out.
✅ Deleting chats so that your spouse wouldn't misunderstand them. Why hide it? 🤔
✅ Telling someone else things that you haven't even told your partner. That emotional closeness, it matters.
✅ Keeping your ex close "just incase" That's not closure, that is back up plan.
✅ Flirting for fun when you are already committed. You may call it harmless, but your partner won't.
✅ Running to someone else when you are upset instead of your partner, that is how emotional bonds shift quietly.
✅ Liking, commenting and engaging a little too much with one specific person, that is not random.
✅ Hiding a friendship because you know your partner will not approve, that is your conscience speaking.
✅ Imagining a life with someone else while you are still committed to someone else, that's where detachment begins.
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Cheating doesn't start with small s*x, it starts with small secrets, small lies and quiet connections.

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02/05/2026

02/05/2026

Romans 12:2 AMP
[2] And do not be conformed to this world [any longer with its superficial values and customs], but be transformed and progressively changed [as you mature spiritually] by the renewing of your mind [focusing on godly values and ethical attitudes], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His plan and purpose for you].

We have become *head heavy" Christians reducing mind renewal to just changing our thoughts .

But in scriptures, the mind was never just cognitive; it included the heart and the body.

Neuroscience now confirms that it's difficult to renew your mind when your body feels unsafe or your emotions haven't been articulated.

Christian Counseling Psychologist
awakenlove.co.ke

01/05/2026

What the Church needs to know about emotional avoidance. 👇👇

✅ Not everything we feel needs to be prayed away. Sometimes God is inviting us to process.

Emotions are not spiritual problems, they are signals often revealing unmet needs.

When we label everything as warfare we bypass the very place God wants to bring healing and restore safety.

Psalms 62:8 AMP
[8] Trust [confidently] in Him at all times, O people; Pour out your heart before Him. God is a refuge for us. Selah.

Christian Counseling Psychologist
awakenlove.co.ke

30/04/2026

What the Church needs to know about emotional avoidance.

✅ Disconnecting from emotions is in many ways disconnecting from the soul. The make up of man has the body, soul, spirit and carnal nature. The soul carries emotions, will and mind. Therefore shutting emotions is shutting down part of the soul.

Where the spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. 2 cor 5:17.

When believers live in emotional avoidance, mistaking it for spirituality, we end up compartmentalizing our emotions and limiting the Lord’s spirit invitation to heal, integrate and renew every part of us.

⁉️ Question? Can you identify situations or statements that portray emotional avoidance in the church?
Christian Counseling Psychologist
awakenlove.co.ke

27/04/2026

27/04/2026

Building Blocks of an affair.
✅ Intimate personal conversations. ~ how are you doing, how was your night, did you cook super, what did you cook, how did you spend your time, what will you be doing tomorrow. Sometimes these questions are innocent with lots of care. But watch out because you are letting another person into your life who closely comes to know how you feel, react, act and plan your day.
✅ Time. ~ those quick WhatsApp messages soon escalate to a continuous chat. Prolonged ones that can keep you on the phone even 2hrs. A short phone call now changes to 2hr call. 👂 This is not your spouse. A rush of dopamine now kicks in when the phone rings. And if there is no communication, anxiety sets in.
✅ Anonymity ~ soon the texts conversation and call logs start to be deleted. If it is a meet up, it becomes a secluded location where both parties think nobody knows them. An air bnb maybe 🤷‍♀️
✅ Money ~ sometimes there may be no much money. But even the little that is spent is towards winning off the other person. The workplace secret Santa's, the innocent church team buildings, and well sometimes cost getaways.
✅ Touch ~ After all is said and done, the simple touch that feels electrifying and one desires more.
Longing for that hug 🫂, and well, well, before you know it, there is a s*xual encounter.

Is this what is happening to you at your workplace, church hangouts, maybe with your neighbor yet you are married?

And affair is brewing. Flee from s*xual sin.sio Njugush na Celeste alone. Iko Kila mahali.

26/04/2026

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