DR. Bakari Psychologist.

31/12/2023

ADVICE TO ALL EMPLOYEES :

1. Build a home earlier. Be it rural home or urban home. Building a house at 50 is not an achievement. Don't get used to government houses. This comfort is so dangerous. Let all your family have good time in your house.

2. Go home. Don't stick at work all the year. You are not the pillar of your department. If you drop dead today, you will be replaced immediately and operations will continue. Make your family a priority.

3. Don't chase promotions. Master your skills and be excellent at what you do. If they want to promote you, that's fine if they don't, stay positive to your personal.
development.

4. Avoid office or work gossip. Avoid things that tarnish your name or reputation. Don't join the bandwagon that backbites your bosses and colleagues. Stay away from negative gatherings that have only people as their agenda.

5. Don't ever compete with your bosses. You will burn your fingers. Don't compete with your colleagues, you will fry your brain.

6. Ensure you have a side business. Your salary will not sustain your needs in the long run.

7. Save some money. Let it be deducted automatically from your payslip.

8. Borrow a loan to invest in a business or to change a situation not to buy luxury. Buy luxury from your profit.

9. Keep your life,marriage and family private. Let them stay away from your work. This is very important.

10. Be loyal to yourself and believe in your work. Hanging around your boss will alienate you from your colleagues and your boss may finally dump you when he leaves.

11. Retire early. The best way to plan for your exit was when you received the employment letter. The other best time is today. By 40 to 50 be out.

12. Join work welfare and be an active member always. It will help you a lot when any eventuality occurs.

13.Take leave days utilize them by developing yr future home or projects..usually what you do during yr leave days is a reflection of how you'll live after retirement..

04/08/2022

CHILDREN OF TODAY DON'T EVEN KNOW THAT IN OUR DAYS YOU COULD BE BEATEN FOR ANY OF THE FOLLOWING REASONS:

1. Crying too long after being beaten
2. Not crying after being beaten
3. Crying without being beaten
4. Standing where elders are sitting
5. Sitting while elders are standing
6. Walking around aimlessly where elders are seated
7. Eating food prepared for visitors
8. Refusing to eat
9. Coming back home after sunset
10. Eating at the neighbour's home
11. Generally being too moody
12. Generally being too excited
13. Losing a fight with older age mate
14. Winning a fight with your age mate
15. Eating too slowly
16. Eating too quickly
17. Eating too much
18. Not finishing your food
19. Finishing your food and scraping your plate
20. Eating and talking
21. Sleeping while the elders in the house have already woken up
22. Looking at the visitors while they are eating
23. Stumbling and falling when walking
24. Looking at an elder eye ball to eye ball
25. When an elder is talking to you and you blink
26. When an elder is talking to you and you stare and not blink
27. When you look at an elder through the corner of your eye
28. When your mates are playing street football and you join them
29. When your mates are playing and you don’t join them
30. When you don't wash your dish after eating
31. When you wash your dish improperly
32. When you almost break your dish
33. When you break your dish
34. When you bite your nails.
34.. When you don't bath.
35. When you bath too quickly
36. When you take too long to bath.
37. When you’re beaten in school for misbehaving
38. When a car almost knocks you down
39. When a car knocks you down and you don’t die.
40. For not answering when spoken to
41. For answering back when spoken to.
42 Beaten for going to Church or Mosque late.
43. Beaten for borrowing shoe/wears from friends.
44. Giving salt or needle to neighbors without their permission.

Some of these reasons for beating a child may appear farfetched today but they sure did happen and they were the norms that shaped a Child to grow in a Responsible manner.

P.W.

18/07/2022

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26/10/2021

RULES FOR COUPLES FOR BEING MAD

1. Be mad at me, but don't insult me. Anger is not a ticket to speak carelessly

2. Be mad at me, but tell me why you are mad. Don't assume I know

3. Be mad at me, but don't broadcast it to others. Cover me

4. Be mad at me, but don't forget the many good things about me. Be objective and fair

5. Be mad at me, but also remember the many other times I have forgiven you

6. Be mad at me, but don't give me silent treatment. Keep the communication lines open

7. Be mad at me, but don't use it as an excuse to cheat on me

8. Be mad at me, but don't hurt me to even the score. Love doesn't revenge

9. Be mad at me, but don't stay mad for long. Let's sort this out quickly

10. Be mad at me, but don't stop praying for me. I still need your prayers

11. Be mad at me, but don't threaten to quit what we have. Ending it is not the solution

12. Be mad at me, but don't punish me using s*x. Let's keep intimacy special, don't weaponize it

13. Be mad at me, but don't keep reminding me of things you said you forgave me for

14. Be mad at me, but don't develop a bad attitude or view of yourself. I take responsibility for offending you, let's make us work

I REMAIN your s*x coach and relationship COUNSELOR IKEMSINACHI JOHN.

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28/08/2021

Now Tips To Treat/ Prevent Sagging Breast
1. Exercise
Try to exercise so as to burn out the excess fat. Anything in excess is bad though, and so is excessive exercising. Also since breasts are made up of fat, not muscle—technically there’s nothing to tighten or tone. But chest exercises can help improve the appearance of your pectoral area by strengthening surrounding ligaments, some exercises that can effectively lift up and firm sagging breasts are– chest presses and pulls, arm raises, round-about push-ups, and dumbbell flies, wear comfortable sports bra while exercising. The easiest and most popular exercise to add firmness to breasts is to do push-ups, which strengthen the pectoral muscles beneath the breasts.

2. Maintain a stable weight
By exercising regularly and eating a balanced diet you can maintain a stable weight. Since weight gain can also cause stretching of the breast tissue.

Weight fluctuations such as gaining and losing weight regularly can cause stretching out of the skin tissues. The stretching and shrinking that accompanies weight fluctuations adds to the strain on your skin and ligaments (like stretch marks), so it’s best to steer clear of fatty foods and unhealthy diets.

Do you know a very good s*x Burns calories and helps you maintain a lovely weight.

3. Wear good quality and uplifting bra
One of the most common reasons for sagging breasts is an ill-fitted bra. It is very crucial to pick a correct size bra, as it keeps the breast in shape and enhances your overall appearance. While trying on a bra, make sure that your breasts are not bouncy or spilling out. And do not wear your bra for more than 12 hours, so before you sleep remove your bra.

4. Massage
Moisturize your breast daily to keep your curvy bosoms in shape. It will keep the skin supple and help your breasts retain their elasticity. Also, gently massage your breasts in a circular motion from upside down and vice versa.
Do this for at least 10 minutes every day.

28/08/2021

HURTING TRUTHS ABOUT RELATIONSHIP...

Your va**na may be sweet; but it means very little if your words to your husband are bitter and harsh.

Your p***s may be good and take your wife to or***ms; but it means very little if you don't lead her to God.

Your lips lady may be delightful to kiss; but it means very little if your presence is disrespectful.

Your p***s may be really hard when erected; but it means very little if you can't stand by your wife during hard times.

Your butt may be nice to touch dear lady; but it means very little if you don't touch your husband's heart with your gentle love.

Your tongue might drive your wife's cl****is wild; but it means very little if with the same tongue you tell her hurtful and insulting things.

Your hips may look s*xy when you walk; but it means very little if your mood swings make your husband lack peace because you are full of drama.

Your er****on can last a long while; but it means very little if your good treatment towards her doesn't last beyond the s*x.

Your breasts may be exciting to squeeze; but it means very little if you keep putting your husband through stress and pressure.

Your fingers may be skillful at playing with her ni***es and skin; but it means very little if you play with her emotions and hurt her.

There is more to marriage than s*x. Don't just be s*xy; be caring too. Don't just think about s*xual needs; think about emotional, spiritual and financial needs too. Don't just be great at s*x; be great at loving too.