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Punguza Stress kijana, Nairobi (2026)

26/04/2023

IN OLIVIA'S EYES
When you carefully look at her eyes.What comes to your mind?Rage and anger.Why is she alive?how can she stab her own daughter and feast on her body parts?she is satanic, infact illuminati,infact devil worshiper.We are all annoyed but at the same time scared.
Most of us parents cannot dare watch that disturbing video.It will haunt your emotions and even cause night mares and panic attack.We all opt for avoidance.We leave the matter at the mercy of the court and lawyers then we gladly forget until the next incident happens.
When I look at those eyes as a psychologist I ask myself, how many Olivia's are within us and only waiting for the opportunity to hit?It gives me a memory of Kinuthia the boy who hacked a girl in eldoret,what about the other body staffed in a suitcase,what about the doctor in Nakuru who poisoned the children and himself.The list is endless.
Her talking about LOW SELF-ESTEEM brings me closer home.She has always viewed herself as worthless and this might also be enhanced by close people around her.Consequently her misserable lifestyle affected the child and she wished she could not be alive.
I have always talked about stress on my pages,(PUNGUZA STRESS KIJANA).But today I want to address the practical stress without necessarily pe***ng it on theory.
As our sister Olivia heard people begging her on the window she got the courage to end it all.The sub concious mind told her they are here as witnesses,you have the right opportunity to reinstate your esteem and revenge on them and also release the child to heaven.
This explains why she stubbed the baby severally while singing a hymn.It gave her short term satisfaction.But after the baby has died she was not satisfied,that's why she went ahead to swallow the internal organs...............(psychiatric case)
Within this context you realize that most Kenyans are quietly suffering from Distress (negative stress).Social life challenges are escalating with a don't care society.
Come to think about it.what can be the immediate solution to any kind of stress?
1.Talk about it to somebody.
A problem shared is half solved
2.Reduce most of your life expectations
This doesn't mean you don't become ambitious
3.Learn to come out of different situations and forge ahead for new adventures and challenges
4.Let people, situations, environment not define who you are and where you are going
5.Have a strong social support system
These are people who you can talk to anytime, anywhere.

The solution is not to condemn, rather to give empathy and dig at the root cause .

CPM.Ian Sheri
Counseling Psychologist,Mentor,Therapist,Court Mediator.

07/04/2023

Good morning my good people.If it is not working WALK AWAY.harming someone is not a solution.

16/03/2023

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03/12/2022

PILLARS OF AN EFFECTIVE RELATIONSHIP.
By Ian Sheri
Our life rotates around social support systems.The idealism and perception towards you being human, loved or hated falls into your inner being known as YOU.
Therefore before you entered into a relationship you had a relationship with yourself.The challenges people face in relationships are always projection of their frustrations out of poor handling of self.
Through my career journey I have handled issues in relationships like,
-communication breakdown
-Lack of respect
-Cheating in relationships
-Chatting with the opposite s*x
-Poor phone management practices
-Family interference
-Boys and girls clubs
-Mismanagement of finances
-Unmatched hobbies and visions
-Childlessness
-Hygiene
-Sexual disorders eg ma********ng, lesbianism etc
The list is endless.What is the solution to most of these issues?Most people say it will end naturally without knowing,that is suppression of feelings which always reoccurs after sometime and a person will be reminding you what you did to him or her in the next episode of argument.
From my little knowledge on psychology we need to solve our inner issues first inorder to be at peace with our partners.For instance you can not hate yourself and love another person.
Tips on loving yourself
Real Self -what you truly is
Self Concept -persons view of self
Ideal Self-desired self image
We should always know that we have the real us,what we perceive to be and what we wish to be.This are the pillars that control our thinking in these relationships.
It is wise to understand that what you wish to be in your partner might not be and vice versa but it is possible to have an agreement of some sort on some issues.
We might dictate appearance but not intelligence or possessions but not personalities etc
Note:
Men are always led by EGO and will always do everything to upheld and maintain their ego.If you interfere with a man's ego then forget about peace.

On the flip side Women are protected by high SELF ESTEEM .They will always make sure no body looks down on their personalities,beauty, capabilities and even intelligence.Any action that tend to lower or look down upon women then it will be a recipe for disaster.
I conclude by saying always effective communication saves a relationship.
Get my next article as I discuss on the don'ts in a relationship tomorrow.
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26/11/2022

These are the most common types of mood disorders:

Major depression. Having less interest in normal activities, feeling sad or hopeless, and other symptoms for at least 2 weeks may mean depression.

Dysthymia. This is an ongoing (chronic), low-grade, depressed, or irritable mood that lasts for at least 2 years.

Bipolar disorder. With this condition a person has times of depression alternating with times of mania or a higher mood.

Mood disorder linked to another health condition. Many health conditions (including cancer, injuries, infections, and chronic illnesses) can trigger

26/11/2022

symptoms of a mood disorder:

Ongoing sad, anxious, or “empty” mood
Feeling hopeless or helpless
Having low self-esteem
Feeling inadequate or worthless
Excessive guilt
Not interested in normal activities or activities that were once enjoyed, including s*x
Relationship problems
Trouble sleeping or sleeping too much
Changes in appetite or weight
Decreased energy
Trouble focusing
Less able to make decisions
Frequent physical complaints (for example, headache, stomachache, or tiredness) that don’t get better with treatment
Running away or threats of running away from home
Very sensitive to failure or rejection
Irritability, hostility, or aggression
Repeated thoughts of death or su***de, planning for death, or wishing to die

29/09/2022

HOPES HIGH
By Ian Sheri
The pinnacles of impossibilities should not overide the shadow of possibilities and prosperity even if seen in the acme of the horizon.
Always strive to fly above the turbulence without parching like the eagle of the air.Moreover allow positive vibes to raise your imagination since your decisions and consequences are dependable on your perception of issues and circumstances.
The colossal stagnation of critical reasoning over feelings can only be achieved through objective normative assessment of needs and wants.
Barack Obama viewed that a free mans life runs on a continuum full of work in progress.Thats why the great marathoner of all times Eliud Kipchoge acknowledges that state of the mind is necessary and No man is Limited.
The Art of War by Sun Tzu primarily adopts the fact that water takes shape depending on the surface of it's base.Moreover he confirms that life stressors should always be put down through clever coping mechanism just like water always flows to the lowest side of mother earth.
John F.Kennedy the great states that "Do not ask what the government can do for you but rather what you can do for the government"

18/09/2022

Am imagining how my great grandparent were surviving in their marriages and what type of madness they used to undergo in 1850.
Imagine you are walking with your wife and a curvey little creature inform of a girl is Infront of you.You know how these girls dress.Something equivalent to an handkerchief or maybe the material was not enough.In some countries they are shy but in this country of the lord Kenya they look straight in your eyes as if asking you,"will you propose?"
You can imagine how I was assuming to be blind,deaf and dumb.
My better half keenly reading my body language.Then boom the question came."mbona unapretend hujaona huyo" my answer "nani?"
You can imagine how the conversation continued.
Now am just quietly thinking under this tree after taking my porridge from a guard given to me by my late grand mother.
How did our great grand parents used to survive when they mate with their friends and all of them were naked.keep in mind people are created differently 🤔

18/09/2022

MACHOZI YA ULAYA
By Ian Sheri
The stories of girls undergoing slavery and the worst treatment in the middle east is allover.A day rarely passes without a new story coming up.Yesterday as a young girl was thrown from a balcony to her miserable death,another young Kenyan was being starved and locked in a room in the same Saudi Arabia.
I feel sad for them but scrolling my Twitter pages the same hour I see someone posting almost twenty young Kenyans in JKIA eagerly waiting for their flight to the same country and the same job.
Wonders shall never seize in this beautiful country I don't know if I should feel sad for these girls ama watu wakule kiburi Yao.
Ask these girls why they should not look for employment in Kenya and they say,"Heri kulia Kwa ndege kuliko kucheka Kwa bodaboda" Even Satan himself hatakua na swali ingine hapa.
Have done my research and am learning that our beautiful daughters are only paid a salary of around 30 to 40k but end up risking their lives.What is your take in this story🤔

15/09/2022

MUM I AM A CHILD
by Ian Sheri
A story is told of a school mate of mine who we really admired back then in high school.Lets call him Kombo.From form one to form four he used to be position one in all his exams.
I felt so desparate whenever he took all the money during the academic meetings ment for present in all the eight subjects.He also came back to be position one overally.I remember one day while in church I questioned God why I was not as bright as Kombo.I pitied myself and this took me all the four years with stress and anxiety.
it is soo nice as a parent when you have such excellence in your house but before you celebrate let me cut your excitement short.Most parents have concentrated on the academic excellence of their children at the expense of their feelings,welfare and mental state.
it is saddening to get the other side of Kombos story.while he was the top brains in our school he never received his gift without punishment.This boy was very dirty.he used not to shower,brush his teeth nor wear shoes.he owned no book nor pen in his desk and to make matters worse our hero had no desk mate or friends.
As much as he could understand all that was taught without much struggles of writing and cramming, his social life was pathetic.The teachers never realized that this boy had some serious abnormalities when it came to his social life.His background was very humble and maybe he suffered childhood trauma.
That is the sad reality facing our society today.We have put soo much pressure to succeed at the expense of this young soul's future and well being.
I sincerely urge all of us to take keen interest at the life of our children,their feelings, thoughts and mental health.
As fate would dictate we found ourselves in the same university.As usual with my humble C+ I took education while Kombo our best candidate with. straight A was admitted to take Civil Engineering.wow!The admiration continued as we were many from the same high school and we felt belitled by our humble achievement.As I grew up and came to realize and understood my self worth, I appreciated myself.Alah! I saw my self better than Kombo.He was very shaggy, a drug addict and I never saw him sober even a single day.Personally I even saved him one day while he was totally drunk and taking a nap in the toilet.I felt shocked and very sombre for my brother Kombo.We carried him to his room.
God works miraculous.With all these challenges he proved to be the best engineer that university as ever admitted with straight A's.
kindly let's be close to our brothers and sisters and advise where necessary.I feel pain as I write this story since Kombo was burried eight years ago in his father's compound back in Western.Unfortunately he was knocked down by a speeding motor vihicle in Nairobi while crossing a busy highway while very drunk.May his soul rest in peace as we live with this sad memories.

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