Regina Nthenya Mulili

05/09/2025

18/08/2025

Are you looking to heal? You are in the right place.

18/08/2025

Practice saying No until it becomes a habit.

05/08/2025

Trauma is not the event but what happened to you because of the event.

The beating is not the trauma, it is what happened to you because of the beating like people pleasing to avoid pain.

The neglect is not the trauma but your need to chase unemotionally available partners.

The poverty ain't the trauma but the need to hoard clothes because of the scarcity that follows you.

13/06/2025

A simple presentation of some mental struggles

11/06/2025

Why Kujipenda is the Hardest Love Story You’ll Ever Write

Ever tried loving yourself in a world that profits from your self-doubt? Kujipenda isn’t just a buzzword—it’s a daily fight. I once looked in the mirror and saw only my flaws, mpaka nilichoka (until I got tired). But healing (uponyaji) starts the moment you choose yourself, fiercely. Don’t wait for the world to clap for you. Clap for yourself, sasa hivi (right now).

Self-love is a radical act. Start your journey today, unapologetically.

10/06/2025

🚨 Tired of Constant Fights Between Your Kids? Here's What Every Parent Should Know About Sibling Rivalry! 👇

Sibling rivalry—it’s more than just bickering. It’s the jealousy, competition, and conflict that can create chaos in your home and tension in your family. 😫

But here’s the good news: It can be managed—and even transformed into a healthy sibling bond. ❤️

🔍 Why Does Sibling Rivalry Happen?
It often starts with something simple—like sharing toys or wanting mom’s attention. But deeper issues like age gaps, personality clashes, or big family changes (think divorce or a new baby) can turn small squabbles into full-blown battles.

💥 The Hidden Impact on Your Kids
Unchecked rivalry can lead to anxiety, low self-esteem, and emotional distance—not just between siblings but in the whole family. 😢

✅ 5 Parent-Tested Hacks to End the Rivalry:

🎯 Treat each child fairly—not equally. They’re individuals.

🤝 Promote teamwork. Let them build together, not compete.

❌ Ditch comparisons. “Why can’t you be like your sister?” = 🚫

🧠 Teach emotional smarts. Help them resolve conflicts peacefully.

⏰ One-on-one time. Kids crave your attention. Give it.

💡 Final Thought:
Sibling rivalry isn’t a monster under the bed—it’s a call for connection. With love, patience, and a solid strategy, you can help your kids grow closer instead of apart. Let’s raise siblings who fight less and love more. 💞

🔁 Share this with a fellow parent who needs a little peace at home!

10/06/2025

Why Loving Yourself is the Real Bag (Sio Mapenzi ya Kawaida!)

First, let me tell you—kupenda nafsi yako is not selfish, it’s survival. After years of toxic love, I learned that healing starts with you. No one will hand you happiness on a silver platter. You must choose yourself, every single day. That’s the only way you’ll ever find true abundance.

Self-love is the foundation for all other forms of love. What’s one thing you do to show yourself love? Let’s talk in the comments! 💬

10/06/2025

The First 3 Years: Where Trust (or Betrayal) is Born – Wazazi, Sikiza!

Listen, mama na baba, the first three years of your mtoto’s life are not just about diapers and lullabies. Hapa ndipo trust inajengwa—ama inavunjika. If you’re too busy chasing pesa and forget to hold, love, and reassure your child, you’re planting seeds of doubt that will haunt them for life. Usidharau hii stage!

A fierce, culturally grounded post about the critical importance of the first three years of a child's life, urging parents to prioritize emotional security over material pursuits. Ends with a hard truth about the lifelong impact of early childhood experiences.

10/06/2025

HOOK: "Ushawahi jiuliza kwa nini tunapenda shortcuts?"

MICRO-STORY: Growing up, I watched my auntie hustle from dawn to dusk, selling mboga in the market. She never took shortcuts, even when mafisi wa mtaa offered her 'easy deals.' She taught me: "Haraka haraka haina baraka."

INSIGHT: Today, social media inatufundisha kuwa success ni instant—flashy cars, soft life, pesa pap! But behind every real legacy is grit, patience, na kujitoa.

PUNCH: If you want your story to outlive you, stop chasing quick wins. Build something your watoto will be proud of. Legacy si mchezo—ni vita ya akili na moyo.

09/06/2025

Unasema Unapenda? Lakini Hii Ndio Sababu Mapenzi Yako Hayadumu!

Watu wengi wanalia kuhusu mapenzi, lakini ukweli ni kwamba wengi wetu hatujawahi jifunza kupenda bila masharti. Niliona mama mmoja Gikomba akimwambia binti yake, 'Usimpe moyo wako kwa mtu ambaye hajajipa moyo wake mwenyewe.' Mapenzi ya kweli ni kujitoa, lakini pia kujilinda. Leo, jiulize: unapenda kwa sababu ya upweke au kwa sababu ya kweli? Usikubali moyo wako uwe playground ya watu wasio na nia. Mapenzi si mchezo wa pata potea. Jifunze kusema hapana, jifunze kujipenda kwanza. Hii ndio siri ya mapenzi yanayodumu.