Shalom Counselling & Wellness Consultancy

25/05/2024

27/02/2024

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50 GOLDEN RULES FOR LIFE.
1. Never shake hands at anyone without standing up.
2. In a negotiation, never make the first offer.
3. If they trust you with a secret, keep it.
4. If they lend you a car, return it with a full tank.
5. Do things with passion or don't do it at all.
6. When you shake your hand make it firm and look that person in the eye.
7. Live the experience of traveling alone.
8. Never turn down a peppermint pill, the reasons are obvious.
9. Take advice if you want to grow old.
10. Come eat with the new person at school/office.
11. When you text someone and you're angry: finish, read it, delete it, and rewrite the message.
12. At the table you don't talk about work, politics, or religion.
13. Write your goals, and work on them.
14. Defend your point of view but be tolerant and respectful to others.
15. Call and visit your relatives.
16. Never regret anything, learn from everything
17. Honor and loyalty must be present in your personality.
18. Don't lend money to someone you know won't pay you back.
19. Believe in something.
20. Tend your bed when you wake up in the mornings.
21. Sing in the shower.
22. Care for a plant or a garden.
23. Keep an eye on the sky every chance you get.
24. Discover your skills and exploit them.
25. Love your job or leave it.
26. Ask for help when you need it.
27. Teach someone a value, preferably a small one.
28. Appreciate and thank the one who extends your hand.
29. Be kind to your neighbors.
30. Make someone's day happier, it will make you happier too.
31. Compete with yourself.
32 Treat yourself at least once a year
33. Take care of your health.
34. Always greet with a smile.
35. Think fast but speak slow.
36. Don't talk with a mouth full.
37. Polish your shoes, cut your nails, and always keep a good look.
38. Don't put your opinion on issues you don't know.
39. Never mistreat anyone.
40. Live your life as if it were the last day of it.
41. Never miss a wonderful opportunity to remain quiet.
42. Recognize someone for their effort.
43. Be humble, even though not all the time.
44. Never forget your roots.
45. Travel when you can.
46. Give up the step.
47 Dance in the rain.
48. Seek your success without giving up.
49. Be fair, stand up for those who need you.
50. Learn to enjoy moments of loneliness.

13/01/2024

https://shalomcounseling.co.ke/2024/01/13/the-4-benefits-of-rejection-in-a-relationship/

Many of us are socially miserable because we are terrified of being rejected. However, rejection can have benefits which improve and clarify the relationship.

30/10/2023

Bring back the thrill and happiness to your relationship/marriage by inviting us to provide the needed professional support.

27/10/2023

If you observe the following signs, it's about time to take a mental health break and seek psychological and emotional support.

13/05/2023

Dealing with Rejection

As we grow older, one thing we must contend with is that people can dislike and reject you for no good reason and that's okay.

When you face rejection, it's not always about what you did or didn't do. Far from it, at times, someone will dislike you for very minute reasons which may be beyond your control.

For instance, someone can dislike you because of your height. They probably prefer shorter or taller people because of fickle reasons only known to them. Sadly, not many people will have the grit to tell you outright. They'll prefer to act disinterested or be mean to you thus pushing you away.

Some people don't like your energy. They may consider you too boisterous. Other may label you boring because of your calm and reserved demeanor.

Some people don't like your scent. Interestingly, someone could find you attractive at face value yet they sideline you down the road because of your scent and rarely will they tell you. Their energy towards you will just change.

Other people don't like your sense of fashion. While you feel comfortable in oversize tops, others may take offense with that.

In essence, my point is that people can dislike you for insignificant reasons hence reject you and its perfectly fine.

In the face of rejection, never demonize yourself. Also, don't try to change yourself because you think people will accept the new version you are becoming. You may change one aspect only for them to demand more from you afterwards which may be grueling and unsustainable.

Always remind yourself that rejection from people does not point to inadequacy on your part. Rather, rejection simply suggests that the person has a different preference and it's okay.
Avoid the fallacy that if one specific person accepts you your life will change tremendously. Not at all. If you are rejected by one person, move on and try your lack elsewhere.

We are almost 8 billion people in the world. Why should you allow 1 person to ruin your self-worth and curtail your happiness. Go to where you are wanted and appreciated.

11/05/2023

The Cardinal Rule of Friendship

Go to where you are wanted. Only go to places you are invited to. Stop trying to fit in or to force issues. It drains you emotionally.

Appreciate and keep close the people who value you. When you succeed in life, always remember those that stood by you when you didn’t have anything. Those are your real friends because they treasure the person you are rather than what you have.

They may not have much to offer materially but trust me, nothing beats the warmth, company, encouragement you get from a true friendship.

Stop forcing relationships because you think you’ll benefit in one way or another from them. You will not. In many cases, help always comes from people you least expected would come through for you.

Friendships are beautiful when they are mutual. Nurture a few healthy relationships with people that wish you well. Pray and support each other.

Take note that with healthy and supportive relationships, one can surmount almost anything. Conversely, toxic, and parasitic friendships drain you emotionally and materially. They also deter your growth as a person.

Be wise with who you invite into your circle and with whom you invest your time, emotions, and energy.