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17/11/2025
In a few weeks time you may see lots of posts from people who will be sharing how much they have achieved this year. And this will be awesome to see and celebrate! So let’s celebrate anyone who has achieved what they needed and wanted. 🙌 🥳🤩🫶
And if someone reading this didn’t achieve what they wanted to for one reason or another; please remember how awesome you are for just making it through. 🥳🫶🤩 Affirm to yourself that you will have more opportunities next year and you are celebrated too.
Have a beautiful Magic Monday!
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13/11/2025
Loving this post by Blcksmth….and I will borrow his caption on this one too…”so you’re saying there is a chance” 😮💨😅
Please don’t rush into anything because of the holidays…there is sometimes a fear around being on your own, but remember when you rush towards things, you lose sight of what’s important to you. And whilst settling down is ok…settling for anything you are given is not ok. Also, love built on panic (or love bombing) is not love, let space be space, because love that comes in steady is safe.
Have a gorgeous day.
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11/11/2025
Shoes 👞 👟🥿👠🥾👢👡🩰⛸️🎿🛼🩴
People.
Stick to your size. 🫶
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10/11/2025
It’s another Magic Monday and today I am sharing a post about how the people around you can influence you, your growth and even your stagnation. If you are looking to grow, be a better version of yourself or accomplish your ambitions, take a look at your circle. The idea that "you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with," famously stated by Jim Rohn, suggests that your environment influences your habits, mindset, values, and overall quality of life. While some research suggests the influence is more dispersed, the principle remains that your closest relationships significantly shape who you are, making it important and worth considering to choose your social circle wisely.
Have a gorgeous day ahead and an amazing start to the week.
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05/11/2025
Ever tried to escape your responsibilities? This duck 🦆 with its head in the water is a great analogy. While its head is in the water all is bliss and it’s like every responsibility went away, however when it resurfaces the responsibilities are still there. Avoiding things will not make them go away, however if you keep avoiding a person enough they will eventually walk away. In partnership, if your partner no longer complains about you doing things they were asking you to do, do not take this as a good sign. Love usually fades when neglect takes over. And if you have to keep proving yourself to a person, respect usually goes out the window too. Avoidance is one solid way of loosing out on something good, so don’t trade short-term comfort for long term discomfort.
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04/11/2025
Just sending out a kind reminder today that it’s totally ok if you still live with your parents; maybe it’s by choice or you are in the process of going through a set back and working your way up to get back on your feet. It’s also ok if you are not always productive, because there are some days that are needed just to rest and have a day. It’s also ok if you haven’t figured things out yet, keep working towards your ambitions and you will. And it’s totally ok if you are not married and even divorced; you may have not found the right person or walked away from the wrong one. And it’s definitely ok, that you don’t have kids whether it is by choice, haven’t met someone that you want to have a child with or because your body hasn’t been able to carry a child. None of these things mean that you are failing. So keep going.
Have a day or a great day, depending on how you are feeling.
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03/11/2025
It’s another Magic Monday in beautiful Nairobi 🇰🇪 and today I am sharing a post about things we can do, to get to know someone better. Often, we meet people in social spaces and feel that we have known them all our lives….we even say, “we just click”! We may even have history with them, and the familiarity around this can feel nostalgic and exciting. While there might be some truth to this, everyone is determined to show the best side of themselves in the beginning and it can take a few months to understand their patterns of behavior and their true character. So, take things slow and do some data collection and observation before you commit yourself.
Have a beautiful day.
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30/10/2025
Ah, how times have changed…was this you at 13? Sharing this for a bit of laughs today as we end the week and enter the weekend tomorrow. Adulting can be interesting. 😂😮💨
Have an awesome day.
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29/10/2025
Possible trigger alert 🚨 Not everyone we meet or have in our lives will treat us with kindness, and there are some people that we will meet and get to know that will not be good for us. Learn how to recognize patterns and peoples actions, then limit your time with them or walk away all together.
Here are 8 Toxic Personalities You'll Face
(And what to do with them):
1. The Narcissist
↳ Makes everything about them and puts down your wins.
How to deal: Set firm boundaries and don't seek their approval.
2. The Gaslighter
↳ Twists facts until you doubt what you know is true.
How to deal: Keep notes of events and trust your memory over their version.
3. The Energy Vampire
↳ Leaves you tired and drained after every talk with their endless problems.
How to deal: Limit time together and exit when you feel your energy drop.
4. The Constant Critic
↳ Finds fault with everything you do, slowly breaking your self-trust.
How to deal: Ask if their feedback is actually helpful or just mean.
5. The Guilt Tripper
↳ Makes you feel bad to get you to do what they want.
How to deal: Recognize when guilt doesn't fit the situation.
6. The Green-Eyed Monster
↳ Gets so jealous of your success they might try to ruin it.
How to deal: Keep your wins and plans private around them.
7. The Gossip
↳ Shares others' secrets to gain power and stir up trouble.
How to deal: Share nothing you wouldn't want repeated.
8. The Passive-Aggressive Person
↳ Shows anger through hints and fake compliments instead of honest talk.
How to deal: Ask directly what they mean when they speak vague.
How do you handle toxic people?
Post credit goes to: Daniel Caputo
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28/10/2025
Today I am sharing a post about time and how sometimes things come when you least expect them to.
I was so excited to find my pineapple that I have been growing for the last five years, finally flowering. Started off in a glass of water, to a pot and eventually in the ground. I don’t know how many times people told me that it wouldn’t flower and it was a good way to pass time, but what I can say is that if you believe in something strongly, do it any way. I had my doubts too, but cared for it either way and thought that even though it didn’t flower, I would try again.
The worst thing that can happen, is that whatever it is doesn’t work out. And you loose nothing by trying. Because you can try again and succeed next time round. But how will you know, if you don’t try? So whatever you would like to do, have or accomplish; start now, believe that you can do it and keep going for as long as you can.
I know it’s just a pineapple 🍍 but to me it’s much more than that. So if it is love, financial independence, a dream home, job or family; dream big and work towards what you would like.
What’s your pineapple? 🍍
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27/10/2025
I like to see intimacy as Into-Me-You-See and when I speak to people about it I realize that a lot of us think this word is leaning into seggs or being seggsual. There are many ways you can connect with someone you care about in a non-seggsual way that will allow you to build on the other types of intimacy and here is a great post that shows you how you can do this. Remember what happens with your “clothes on”, often determines what happens when your “clothes are off”. Be mindful of this, especially if you find your other half is avoiding seggs with you all together. Take a pause and look at how you are treating them…and if in doubt reach out to a professional who can help you figure this out.
Have an amazing Magic Monday!
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23/10/2025
Just a kind reminder today that noticing what needs to be done in the home, without waiting to be asked is a basic life skill not a gender role. When people choose to live together it becomes a collective responsibility to notice, care and be involved in what is happening or needed in that joint space. We may have grown up with gender roles being in the forefront however as adults we may find that other people didn’t grow up in the same way. Learn to understand that how you grew up is not necessarily how the world works as an adult. Be present and find ways to adjust your thinking and behavior around what you are presented with in the here and now. The ability to learn, unlearn and relearn is a skill that we would benefit from picking up, especially as we move through time and the world progresses.
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About Cathy Holden and the Almond Tree Wellness Center, Kenya
Before I went to University; I started out not knowing what my life’s purpose would be, but knew it had to do with helping people be their very best version of themselves. I was fortunate enough to study in the United Kingdom and pursued two degrees; back to back; a BSc in Psychology and an MSc in Occupational and Organizational Psychology. I then ended up working in Human Resources in the UK and then moved back to Kenya after 15 years. I carried on working in Human Resources and by 2018 (after 13 years in HR practice) I felt that I needed a change so that I can impact more people by helping them directly. I then took on a new post graduate degree to be a certified S*x Therapist (Therapy Certification Association, based in Miami, Florida).
S*x is in integral part of any relationship and human s*xuality is vast; Do we always know what to do with our s*xuality? Do we know enough about it? These are all questions I kept asking myself for many years, which led to me opening a new business in 2019 - The Almond Tree Wellness Center based in Nairobi, with my office in Doctor’s Park, on 3rd Parklands Avenue, about 100 meters from Aga Khan Hospital.
S*x Therapy is not a new field but while I was growing up, s*x was not something that people talked about freely and I have made it my purpose to help people understand what s*x therapy is about, what a s*x therapist does (and does not do) and how it can help you and/or your partner. There is much more to say on this type of therapy and I am looking forward to sharing my knowledge and expertise with all of you.
I am a member of the Kenya Counselling and Psychological Association and the British Psychological Society. I provide a range of counselling and s*x therapy services and looking forward to meeting and helping as many people as possible.
