Counsels on Courtship and Marriage/ Motivate and Inspire

20/10/2024

Dear fellow Kenyans,

On this glorious Mashujaa Day, my heart swells with pride and joy as I join you in celebrating the spirit of our nation's heroes. Today, we honour those who, through their courage, sacrifice, and dedication, fought for the freedoms we now enjoy. Their bravery and resilience continue to inspire us every day.

Mashujaa Day is more than a remembrance—it's a call to reflect on the strength that lives within us. We celebrate not only the historical heroes, but the everyday champions who make Kenya thrive. From the mothers who nurture our future leaders, to the young innovators shaping tomorrow, each of us has the potential to be a shujaa in our own way.

As we come together, may our hearts overflow with gratitude for the blessings of freedom, unity, and peace. Let us carry forward the legacy of our heroes by embodying their values—through love for our country, service to one another, and a commitment to build a brighter future for all.

From my heart to yours, I wish you all a happy, blessed, and joyful Mashujaa Day. Let us honour our heroes by continuing to stand strong as one people, one nation.

With love and pride,
Calvince Okumu

14/04/2024

SIMPLE TRUTHS YOU SIMPLY NEED TO KNOW ABOUT S*X.

1. S*x is sweet, no doubt.

2. Both males and females are made to enjoy s*x

3. Men achieve or**sm with ease, women need at least 20 minutes in foreplay to achieve or**sm

4. Women are easily turned on by men who give them affection, attention and money.

5. Men are easily turned on by women who respect, honour, cherish, adore them and have the kind of body shape and figure that turn them on.

6. S*x is an ACT; love making is an ART.

7. First time s*x for virgins doesn't have to be painful.

8. S*x is sweeter if your partner is your spec

9. S*x is sweetest if your partner is your soul mate.

10. You can marry as a virgin and become a s*x pro with at least 4 different s*x styles in 3 months.

11. Traditional knowledge on s*x won't help your marriage.

12. A good s*x life is learnt (You need to enrol for our s*x class for May edition. Its very affordable).

13. Reading a godly book on s*x can get you eager and turned on enough to achieve roof breaking or**sm

14. Romantic guys easily give women or**sm. Women chase, run after and get easily turned on by romantic guys

15. Men are easily turned by women with good feminine body)

16. A good, s*xy hair style on a woman can be a s*x trigger for some men.

17. Breasts, thighs and buttocks set men's testosterone on fire!.

18. Guys who listen to cool music or are musical are very romantic.

19. Women are easily attracted to men who use perfume.

20. Your s*xual phobia must be destroyed before marriage or you will never enjoy s*x.

21. You can be circumcised as a woman and enjoy s*x. There are sweet s*xual positions absolutely made for you.

22. You can be enjoying hot, passionate love making with your spouse and make heaven when the trumpet sounds! God is happy when you scream your partners name in bed! Your absolute pleasure gives him joy!

Don't endure s*xual frustrations in ignorance, get as much knowledge as you can. We have classes and books that will help.

Singles should get books that will help them choose the right partner for their lives. Once that is done, trust me! You will want, desire, love to have s*x as many times as you desire in marriage. It will be fun, sweet and totally pleasurable and your marriage will be nothing short of heaven on earth.

May your marriage be sweet for life!

© Seun Oladele,.

09/09/2023

Don’t wait for your needs to be met before attempting to meet your spouse’s needs.

05/08/2023

Become a ghost for few months
Make difficult things possible
Find the beast within you
Discover your inner skills
Cut out all the excuses
Remove toxic patterns
Go all in on yourself
Train like a warrior
Work like a robot
Reject vices
Transform
Upgrade
Be royal
Create
Thrive
Win

23/07/2023

19/05/2023

*Past Relationship Wounds*

Most people are prone to bring past relationship wounds into their current relationships. These wounds are particularly destructive because your current partner has no idea what you are talking about or where you are coming from. So for instance, if your spouse was cheated on in the past, he/she will often distrust a future spouse. Conversely, the wounded person needs to pause and remember that the person he or she is currently with did not perform the act (or say the words) that created the wound. Much like our criminal justice system, that person should be considered innocent until proven guilty—they should be given the benefit of the doubt. Likewise when a person has been wounded by a mother or father while growing up, it is difficult not to reflect that behavior in future relationships. In these circumstances trust and truthfulness are important factors in helping your spouse understand your wounds and how best to deal with them.

If you’ve ever experienced abuse or dysfunction in the past, you know fear makes you believe that the next relationship may be worse, that you may be hurt more and loved less. Those are false voices based on your wounds and the evil ones who wish to see you tortured. Fear and distrust are the enemies of intimacy in a relationship. Shine light on those fears by sharing them and they become less destructive.

People who have past relationship wounds are often dependent on their partner for their happiness. They receive validation and contentment by how their spouse treats them or the attitude their spouse displays. This dependency makes it very difficult for either spouse to maintain a healthy attitude.

But partners who do not depend on their spouse for validation can remain intimate even during times of stress and conflict. They use each other’s strengths to fuel their relationship instead of allowing their weaknesses to destroy it. When we allow another person to validate our worth, we give them the control to manipulate our lives. Unfortunately, the more emotionally unhealthy a person is, the more apt they are to engage in highly dependent relationships. Because these people don’t handle anxiety well (they aren’t able to comfort themselves), every time their partner becomes upset, they do as well. And since they are dependent upon their partner for reinforcement, they then spend vast amounts of energy trying to control their partner and the relationship in order to get control of themselves.

A lot of emotional energy is expended in a generally frustrating and often fruitless cause.

14/03/2023

S*x is an important element in marriage and until there is s*xual in*******se between a husband and a wife, the marriage is not yet spiritually recognized. This shows how important s*x is in marriage.
When you look at how aggressive men are towards s*x you may think that what a man needs from a woman is s*x. Of course, if he has not married you yet or he does not really intend to marry you what he will need from you is nothing above your body. But if he really intends to marry you or if you guys are already married s*x is never what he needs from you - maybe let me say it better; "WHAT A MAN NEEDS MOST FROM A WOMAN IS NOT S*X."
Many young girls think because they are s*xually active and experience they will easily be married and have their husbands loving them. And when a man approaches for marriage they think the greatest asset they have to show the man is s*x. Others also think once they are giving out their bodies it means they are giving out the best for which reason they will be chosen above all.
There is this young girl who is very beautiful and s*xually active. Due to that she thought s*x is all that matters to a man. Ironically, she struggled for long before finally getting married. Her s*xual dexterity could not win her the heart of a man until out of the blue and reason beyond imagination a very handsome good man married her. The wedding was grand and her tears were now gone. Unfortunately only a year after the wedding the marriage fell on rocks. Within five years three different men came her way but none could stay.
The problem was simple. She thought s*x was all that matters so she would never submit. But submission is what men need, not s*x. It is time for our young ladies to know that when a man is ready to marry he will not look out for a woman who will satisfy his s*x drive but a woman who will submit herself to him. Excuse my language, "every woman has s*x organ but not every woman has humility." So when you are a humble woman, you are an expensive jewelry. And a man of integrity will fear to lose you.
What does the holy say, "wife, submit to your husband." The reason is that a man's true love goes out only for a woman who is submissive. Your beauty cannot make another woman ugly but your humility can let him love you above all other women.
Sadly, many young ladies in our days call submission as "control." And you will hear them saying in tiny romantic voices, "As for me I don't want any man to control me oh." If you don't want to submit don't think of marriage because no man in his right sense will offer his love to a woman whose heart is higher than his height, no matter how short he may be.
When a woman bows her knee before a man, the man will automatically bow his heart before her love. And love her sincerely. There are, of course, recalcitrant men who will not value women of humility but I tell you that every true man does not need s*x, but submission. It is submission that truly makes you a romantic wife. So be the QUEEN you want to be but when it comes to dealing with your husband, play the role of a humble maid. Don't forget that it is the spirit of humility that has caused many maids to hijack their mistresses' husbands. Be your man's queen and also be his maid.
I wish you all the best as you submit in your relationship and marriage. May God bless you with good marriage, my dear.

11/03/2023

God is the maker of marriage. I’ve not seen a marriage where the wife is disrespectful & not submissive work. I’ve not seen a marriage where the husband is not loving work. The two are dependent on each other for a marriage to work. You can’t be wiser than God. Eph 5:22-25

09/02/2023

Once you argue with a woman, you lose

09/02/2023

Marriage does not kill romance, laziness does. Don't become so comfortable in your marriage that you start living as roommates ... instead work hard to continue to be soulmates.

25/11/2022

If you're paying attention marriage can teach you how to be your best self.

It's up to you to be humble enough to see when it's time to change.