Peter Owame

15/10/2023

We have all hurt someone tremendously, whether by intent or accident. We have all loved someone tremendously, whether by intent or accident. It is an intrinsic human trait, and a deep responsibility, I think, to be an organ and a blade. But, learning to forgive ourselves and others because we have not chosen wisely is what makes us most human. We make horrible mistakes. It’s how we learn. We breathe love. It’s how we learn. And it is inevitable.
~Nayyirah Waheed

15/10/2023

20/09/2023

Two emotionally available people who are invested in each other can discuss their feelings, the future, and problems that need to be resolved. They aim to build a bridge between each other, not create distance!

What's your role ? 🤔

18/09/2023

Sometimes when people are sharing their problems with you they are not looking for you to fix them. Just listen, understand and be supportive. The world could use better listeners...✍️

08/09/2023

Could these👇 be some of the reasons🤔

1. You are ever complaining

If you see no good about life or others and are ever negative you will drain people emotionally and they will keep off. As a professional counselor, I'll handle this differently.

2. You are constantly talking about your problems

If every time someone wants to spend time with you, all you talk about are your problems and how life is unfair to you, you will ruin your friendships and relationships. Yes, lean on people when you are going through a tough time, but also learn to lift yourself up and value quality time with others. Your troubles will be over soon, but will you have worried people out of your life?

3. You are a gossip

If you itch to talk about others, mature people will get tired of you. They will even avoid you thinking that you gossip about them with others. A gossiper has no boundaries!

4. You love to judge others

If you rarely take time to understand people and because of your cultural / religious stance, prejudice or self-righteous views you conclude on people too easily and label them, you will be avoided. People want to be understood.

5. You don't allow people to miss you 😂🤣

If you are constantly in people's faces and inviting yourself into their schedule, they might grow weary of you. Have your own personal pursuits, be absent sometimes so that people miss the good times they have with you.

6. You borrow too much

Prone to drama, people who want peace and stability will insulate themselves from you.

7. You abandon people then want them back

If you make it a habit to drop people, accuse them, talk bad at them and say you don't need them then change your mind and want them back, they will get tired of your games and let you be. Human connections are very delicate.

8. You are one sided

If you are those people who only focusses on spiritual issues, or for you, all you are about is money, or all you talk about is sports, you might easily turn people off because human relations are holistic. Be balanced. Learn to also talk about other facets of life.

9. You have a low self-esteem

It is difficult to relate with you when you don't love or believe in yourself, you are giving people so much work to uplift you. You will lack friends when you are not your own true friend. Self loves makes you attractive 💪.

10. You are not friendly

If you always wait for people to look for you and show interest in you but you make no effort to be friendly, people will hold back, feeling it is not mutual. Whoever wants friends must be friendly, no shortcuts.

11. You associate with the wrong crowd

Some people want to be close to you but they notice your inner circle is full of people with no good intentions. They keep off you to protect themselves as they wish you valued constructive connections more.

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06/09/2023

Fix yourself! You need to understand that sometimes you are the problem too.

01/09/2023

Return to yourself!
Nothing heals the soul like a person's return to himself.

31/08/2023

Self-worth is so vital to our happiness. If we don't feel good about ourselves, it's hard to feel good about anything else.

Simple techniques that may help us feel better about ourselves are:-

•Recognising what we are good at.
•Building positive relationships.
•Being kind to ourselves.
•Learning how to be assertive.
•Starting to say "no" whenever possible.
•Giving ourselves a challenge.

28/08/2023

When anger arises, think of the consequences and act wisely.

26/08/2023

Toxic people love playing the victim. What's even more crazy is how they're So good at manipulating people into thinking you're the bad guy.

The only way to win with a toxic person is not to play.

15/08/2023

A simple reminder for you today - you will make mistakes, and that’s alright.
Try to erase them out, and continue writing your story.

14/08/2023

The remarkable capacity of humans to learn, unlearn, and relearn skills and knowledge allows us to become life-long learners.

14/08/2023

“Don’t worry about speed, direction is more important. I would rather be moving slowly in the right direction than fast in the wrong one.”
- Steven Bartlett

09/08/2023

Explore unmet needs when dealing with conflict by:

1️⃣ Active Listening
2️⃣ Open Questions
3️⃣ Reflective Listening
4️⃣ Empathy
5️⃣ Perspective Taking
6️⃣ Problem Solving Approach
7️⃣ Creating a Safe Environment

09/08/2023

02/08/2023

Contact us for Mental health care and Mediation services.