Sober Living and Recovery Centre

27/02/2024

Signs of substance use at work

There will typically be symptoms be shown by an employee who is misusing drugs, leading to formal questioning. Signs to look out for would include
- Variable work performance
- Continual minor accidents or mistakes
- Drops in punctuality and adherence to deadlines
- Sudden unexplained disappearance
- Aggressive confrontational behavior
- Abrupt change in appearance
- Becoming lethargic or slow

23/02/2024

14/07/2023

12 Steps Simplified!

1. There's a power that will kill me. (Booze or other drug)

2. There's a power that wants me to live. (God as you understand him/her. Higher Power)

3. Which do I want? (If you want to die, stop here. If you want to live, go on.)

4. Using examples from your own life, understand that selfishness, dishonesty, resentment,
and fear control your actions.

5. Tell all your private, embarrassing secrets to another person.

6. Decide whether or not you want to live that way any more.

7. If you want your life to change, ask a power greater than yourself to change it for you. (If you could have changed it yourself, you would have long ago.)

8. Figure out how to make right all the things you did wrong.

9. Fix what you can without causing more trouble in the process.

10. Understand that making mistakes is part of being human (When you make a mistake, fix it, immediately if you can.)

11. Ask for help to treat yourself and others the way you want your higher power to treat you.

12. Don't stop doing 1 through 11, and Pass It On!!

~ Author Unknown

15/01/2023

Saying goodbye to you seems like the hardest thing I’ll ever have to do. You’ve been around for quite some time now, and I thought you’d never leave.

I remember when you first came into my life. I thought you would ease the pain of my youth and make my present pain go away. But I was wrong. You brought more pain and suffering and became the neediest relationship I’ve ever had.

All you ever did was take and take, but you never gave. Actually, I take that back – you did give. You gave me heartaches and burned bridges. You gave me sorrow and torn-apart relationships.

You told me everything would be just fine if I would let you control my life.

You’re a liar, a thief, and a cruel master. When things began to look up, you grabbed me by the ankles and pulled me right back into the mess. When I wanted to change for the better, you told me I couldn’t live without you. You made me into the person I said I would never become. You became the nightmare. You made me do things I never thought I would be capable of doing. You made me what I hated most.

I tried to leave you, but you just came back even stronger and harder than before. You physically and mentally made me sick, and yet I still kept you around. People thought I loved you more, but that was far from the truth.

I hated you and what you had done to me, but I was too scared to leave. I was scared of what life would be like without you. I watched you dig my grave as the days went by, but never once did I try to fill it back up.

Then, one day, you pushed me into that grave and began covering me up. You thought you would be saying the goodbye. But you were wrong.

With the help, love, and support of God, as well as my family, I crawled out of the dirt and fought back.

It’s been quite some time now since I left you and that grave, I still hate you; I still hate what you’ve done to me and what you made me do to the people I loved.The silver lining to our relationship is that I am stronger than I’ve ever been.

Goodbye Addiction

09/10/2022

The difference between Spirituality and Religion

Spirituality is about our relationship to the transcendent , and ultimately to the Supreme being , God.This relationship connects us not only to God but also to ourselselves,other people and nature .It gives meaning to who we are and enables us to search for the ultimate good.
Religion is the system which is concerned with morals and beliefs and the organization ofof the worship of the Almighty.Religion expresses itself through different setsof beliefs and practices and over time , these have resulted in a number of world religion such as Christianity ,Islamism,Judaism , Hinduism and Buddhism.Religion offers the means by which people can express their innate sense of the spiritual .One may ,nevertheless ,meet people who are very religious but not very spiritual , and others who are deep ly spiritual but do not follow any particular religious belief or worship.God as as the Supreme Being has the the attributes of Beauty,Truth and Love,and threfore those experiences of life which bring us closer to Goodness,Beauty,Truth and Love can bring us closer to God.

26/09/2022

Self Image Becomes A Golden Key To Living A Better Life

All your actions, feelings, behavior, and even your abilities are always consistent with this self-image.
You ‘act like’ the sort of person you consider yourself to be. You literally cannot act otherwise, in spite of all your conscious efforts or will power.
The man who conceives himself to be a ‘failure type’ will find some way to fail, in spite of all his good intentions or his will power, even if opportunity is literally dumped on his lap.
The person who conceives himself to be a victim of injustice, one ‘who was meant to suffer’, will invariably find circumstances to verify his opinion.
A schoolboy who sees himself as a ‘F’ type student will invariably find that his report card bears him out. He then has proof.
Because of the objective ‘proof’, it very seldom occurs to a person that his trouble lies in his self-image or his own evaluation of himself.
The self-image can be changed. Numerous case histories have shown that one is never too young or too old to change his self-image and thereby start to live a new life.
It has seemed difficult for a person to change his habits, his personality, or his way of life because nearly all his efforts have been directed to the circumference of the SELF rather than the center.

25/08/2022

Wacha nikwambie a FACT. Nothing in life is easy. You just have to choose your hard and give it your all. Being an employee is hard. Running a business is harder. Being single is not easy if you're above the age of 25, but being married is also hard. Having and raising kids is hard, being barren is even harder. Some 'hard' you can choose, some 'hard' is thrown at you by life. Nothing is easy. It may look like other people have it easy, but until you know the sacrifices that people have made to be where they are, never say they had it easy.

Being broke is hard, having and maintaining a lot of money is not easy, it's hard. You just have to choose your hard. That's all. Being a nobody is hard, and building a reputable name for yourself is also hard. Choose your kind of hard and give it your all.😊

22/06/2022

Stages of addiction:
1: Experimental use - curiosity, peer pressure, in a social setting etc.
2. Circumstantial/occasional use - to achieve a desired effect eg as a way of coping with some circumstances like stress.
3. Intensified/ Regular use - daily or almost daily use, at this stage one is motivated by the need to get a regular relief from an ongoing problem eg depression, anxiety etc.
4. Complusive/ Addictive use - high doses needed daily to achieve the desired psychogical or physical effect or to avoid the withdrawals.

Prevention is the better than cure. There is a very thin line between social use and the progression to addiction.

05/06/2022

Lifted
MARRIAGE DOES NOT NEED LOVE - DR MYLES MUNROE
A successful marriage has little to do with love.
Love is not the qualification for marriage.
Love is a dangerous thing.
Love can make you think you can make it. Every divorce person was first in love with the person they divorce. So, don't tell me love keeps you together.
Love does not guarantee success in marriage.
Love brings happiness but doesn't bring what it takes to make marriage work. The only thing that makes marriage work, is knowledge.
You feel like you love someone, but you better get knowledge on how to live with them. And we are such a feeling culture that our insanity takes us to the alter, making commitments we know we can't keep. Marriage is not protected by love, Marriage is protected by knowledge.