KinTSou Therapy

KinTSou Therapy KintSou Therapy is the brainchild of Souyenne Hackshaw a licensed therapist in St Lucia

The Cost of Being Easy - A Somatic Perspective Many of us learned that being easy was a form of safety.Easy to please.
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17/01/2026

The Cost of Being Easy - A Somatic Perspective

Many of us learned that being easy was a form of safety.

Easy to please.
Easy to be around.
Easy to love.

But the body keeps track of the cost.

When we repeatedly abandon our own signals to fit in,
something vital gets muted: sensation, desire, aliveness.

From a somatic perspective, this isn’t about self-esteem or mindset.

It’s about what happens when the body learns that staying connected to others requires disconnecting from itself.

That kind of “safety” asks for self-erasure.
And the body knows that isn’t safety at all.

Aliveness returns when we no longer have to disappear to belong.

The Cost of Being Easy - A Somatic Perspective Many women have been rewarded for being low-maintenance, agreeable, and e...
17/01/2026

The Cost of Being Easy - A Somatic Perspective

Many women have been rewarded for being low-maintenance, agreeable, and easy.

From a somatic lens, these patterns often develop as ways to stay safe, especially in relationships or environments where needs, emotions, or boundaries were not welcome.

The body adapts by prioritizing connection over authenticity.

But over time, that adaptation comes with a cost.

When safety requires self-erasure, the nervous system may stay regulated, but aliveness, pleasure, and agency often diminish.

This isn’t a failure of character. It’s the body doing what it had to do.

Healing doesn’t come from becoming more demanding.

It comes from creating relationships and conditions where the body no longer has to disappear to stay connected.

16/01/2026

Desire is Responsive

Responsive desire doesn’t start with wanting.
It starts with contact.

With sensation.
With attention.
With being present enough to notice what’s happening.

A responsive system doesn’t arrive ready.
It warms.
It tracks.
It responds after something is felt.

This is why desire often shows up later than we expect,
after we slow down,
after the body has time to orient,
after there’s something to respond to.

Nothing is wrong if desire doesn’t appear on cue.
It may simply be waiting for conditions that allow it to engage.

Less performance.
More listening.

✨ CONSCIOUS MOVEMENT — TOMORROW ✨Just a gentle reminder that your body is invited to move tomorrow evening 💛No fixing. N...
16/01/2026

✨ CONSCIOUS MOVEMENT — TOMORROW ✨

Just a gentle reminder that your body is invited to move tomorrow evening 💛

No fixing. No forcing. No “doing it right.”

Conscious Movement is a slow, guided movement class where you get to breathe, soften, and let your body lead, even if all it wants to do is sway, stretch, or rest.

Think:
• less effort
• more listening
• a nervous system exhale

📍 Sol Sanctum
⏰ 5:00 – 6:00 PM
💰 EC$35

If your shoulders just dropped a little reading this, that’s probably your cue 😉

To book, message me or reach out to Sol Sanctum or 📞 724-9991

Come as you are. Move how you need. Leave a little more you.

16/01/2026

✨ CONSCIOUS MOVEMENT — TOMORROW ✨

Just a gentle reminder that your body is invited to move tomorrow evening 💛

No fixing. No forcing. No “doing it right.”

Conscious Movement is a slow, guided movement class where you get to breathe, soften, and let your body lead, even if all it wants to do is sway, stretch, or rest.

Think:
• less effort
• more listening
• a nervous system exhale

📍 Sol Sanctum
⏰ 5:00 – 6:00 PM
💰 EC$35

If your shoulders just dropped a little reading this, that’s probably your cue 😉

To book, message me or reach out to Sol Sanctum
📞 724-9991

Come as you are.
Move how you need.
Leave a little more you.

16/01/2026

How Threat Shapes Responsiveness

There are moments when the body doesn’t respond the way we expect.

Not because something is wrong, but because the nervous system is protecting.

When threat is present (even quietly), the body shifts away from sensation, openness, and responsiveness.

This isn’t resistance.
It’s the nervous system doing it’s job.

Pressure doesn’t restore responsiveness.
Safety does.

And safety begins when we slow down enough
to notice what the body is already communicating.

Nothing to force.
Nothing to fix.
Just conditions to soften.

You’re allowed to arrive slowly.

How Threat Shapes ResponsivenessWhen the nervous system detects threat, the body moves into protection.That protection c...
16/01/2026

How Threat Shapes Responsiveness

When the nervous system detects threat, the body moves into protection.

That protection can show up as tension, numbness, urgency, or a quieting of pleasure and responsiveness.

This isn’t dysfunction. It’s physiology.

The nervous system isn’t withholding; it’s doing its job.

Change doesn’t come from pushing past this response. It comes from changing the conditions around it.

Less demand. More choice. Enough safety for the body to soften.

Responsiveness follows safety, not the other way around.

15/01/2026

When Desire Feels Like Pressure

There is a quiet kind of pressure that can show up in intimacy.
Not always spoken.
Often internal.

“I should want this.”
“My body needs to respond.”
“Why isn’t this working?”

When intimacy becomes a demand, the body doesn’t fail.
It protects.

Somatic s*x therapy invites us to notice something different:
desire doesn’t open through pressure.
It opens through safety.

Through choice.
Slowness.
Permission to pause.

If you paused with this reel, even for a moment, that pause is the work.

Nothing is required right now.
And often, that’s when something begins to soften.




When Desire Feels Like PressureIn intimate moments, many of us carry quiet expectations, to want, to respond, to feel a ...
15/01/2026

When Desire Feels Like Pressure

In intimate moments, many of us carry quiet expectations, to want, to respond, to feel a certain way.

When intimacy turns into pressure, the body often tightens or goes quiet.
This isn’t a flaw.
It’s the nervous system protecting you.

Somatic s*x therapy helps us shift from demand to invitation, from “I should” to “I’m allowed to notice.”

When the body feels safe, desire doesn’t need to be forced. It emerges in its own timing.

If this resonated, you might gently ask yourself: What changes in my body when nothing is required?

✨ CONSCIOUS MOVEMENT ✨
Move. Breathe. Reconnect.I’m really happy to share that Conscious Movement is continuing in Janua...
13/01/2026

✨ CONSCIOUS MOVEMENT ✨

Move. Breathe. Reconnect.

I’m really happy to share that Conscious Movement is continuing in January, now with a new evening time at Sol Sanctum.

This is a gentle, guided movement class for anyone wanting to come back into their body without pressure. We move slowly, with curiosity and care, focusing on breath, sensation, and listening rather than pushing or performing.

There’s no “right way” to move here.
Just space to notice what your body needs, release some of the tension you’ve been carrying, and leave feeling a little more grounded and at ease.

✨ January Sessions:
🗓 Jan 3, 17, 24 & 31
⏰ 5:00 – 6:00 PM
📍 Sol Sanctum
💰 EC$35 per session

✨ To book:
You can reach out to Sol Sanctum or message/call me at 724-9991.

If you’ve been feeling tense, disconnected, or like your body just needs a softer kind of movement, you’re very welcome here.

13/01/2026

When the Body No Longer Has to Push

Before reading anything else, notice your body.

Is there a place that’s working a little harder than it needs to?
Your jaw. Your shoulders. Your breath.

That effort didn’t come from nowhere.
It was learned.

This carousel isn’t asking you to fix it.
Just to notice what happens when you stop pushing, even briefly.

The practice at the end is there if you want it.

When the Body No Longer Has to PushSometimes we don’t realize how much we’re pushing until we pause.Not pushing to achie...
13/01/2026

When the Body No Longer Has to Push

Sometimes we don’t realize how much we’re pushing until we pause.

Not pushing to achieve, but pushing to stay regulated, to stay connected, to stay afloat.

This pattern isn’t a flaw.

It’s something the body learned in response to its environment.

This post is an invitation to notice where effort lives in your body today without trying to change it.

There’s a short somatic practice at the end if that feels supportive.

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Rodney Bay
Gros Islet

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Tuesday 09:00 - 17:00
Wednesday 09:00 - 17:00
Thursday 09:00 - 17:00
Friday 09:00 - 14:30
Saturday 08:30 - 13:00

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