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KinTSou Therapy KintSou Therapy is the brainchild of Souyenne Hackshaw a licensed therapist in St Lucia

01/12/2025

What Your Slower Pace is Telling You

When a nervous system starts to feel safer, even in small pockets, it shifts out of survival speed.
The urgency softens.

The compulsive productivity eases.
Your body finally gets to do the quiet housekeeping it couldn’t do when everything felt overwhelming.

That slowing, that deceleration, isn’t a problem.
It’s part of the healing mechanism itself.

Think of how a wound closes.
Or how inflammation drops once the threat is gone.
Your system is doing the same thing.

It’s not regression.
It’s not collapse.
It’s recalibration.

This is why a slower pace can be a sign of repair, not failure.
Your body knows what it’s doing long before your mind catches up.

What Your Slower Pace is Telling YouA lot of people panic when they start slowing down.They think they’re losing momentu...
01/12/2025

What Your Slower Pace is Telling You

A lot of people panic when they start slowing down.
They think they’re losing momentum or “going backwards.”

But here’s what actually happens during healing:

When a nervous system starts to feel safer, even in tiny moments, it naturally shifts out of survival speed.
The urgency drops.
The over-functioning eases.

And the body finally gets to do the quiet internal repair it couldn’t do before.

That slowing, that deceleration, is a feature of healing, not a flaw.

It’s the same way your body closes a wound, or how inflammation eases once the threat is gone.
It’s not regression.
It’s not collapse.
It’s recalibration.

Your pace is changing because your system is adjusting.

And that’s good news.

01/12/2025

Questions for a Body Learning Safety Again

Your body always tells the story first.
Most of us just got really good at talking over it.

This week we’re centering safety repair, the slow rebuilding of trust between you and your body.

These Sunday prompts help you notice what you’ve been overriding, carrying quietly, or ignoring because life kept moving.

You don’t have to fix anything today.
Just listen long enough to hear what’s been waiting for you.



Questions for a Body Learning Safety AgainA lot of us move through life without pausing to ask what our body has been tr...
01/12/2025

Questions for a Body Learning Safety Again

A lot of us move through life without pausing to ask what our body has been trying to communicate.

This week, we’re focusing on repairing safety, not the big, dramatic kind, but the quiet kind that happens when you start paying attention again.

These journal prompts offer a simple check-in:

Where do I need to slow down?
What am I carrying that I haven’t named?
What does safety feel like in me right now?

It’s not about getting the “right” answer.

It’s about reconnecting with the part of you that’s been waiting to be heard.

30/11/2025

HOH - New Room Opening - 13th December - Hearth Room

The name might sound a little mysterious, but the feeling is simple:
the Hearth Room is a warm space to come back to yourself.

Some women joined earlier rooms this year, some didn’t, and honestly, it doesn’t matter.

This one stands on its own.

It’s for anyone who’s been feeling the end-of-year shift , that mix of “I’m tired,” “I’ve changed,” and, “I want to enter the next chapter a little steadier than I am right now.”

The Hearth Room gives you that pause.
A place to settle the parts of you that have been moving.
A quiet moment to feel grounded before the new year pulls your attention forward again.

You don’t need to know anything.
You don’t need to be anything.
You just get to arrive.

Dec 13th | 3:30–6PM
Sol Sanctum | EC$60

30/11/2025

HOH - New Room Opening - 13th December - Hearth Room

The name might sound a little mysterious, but the feeling is simple:�the Hearth Room is a warm space to come back to yourself.

Some women joined earlier rooms this year, some didn’t, and honestly, it doesn’t matter.

This one stands on its own.

It’s for anyone who’s been feeling the end-of-year shift , that mix of “I’m tired,” “I’ve changed,” and, “I want to enter the next chapter a little steadier than I am right now.”

The Hearth Room gives you that pause.�A place to settle the parts of you that have been moving.�A quiet moment to feel grounded before the new year pulls your attention forward again.

You don’t need to know anything.�You don’t need to be anything.�You just get to arrive.

Dec 13th | 3:30–6PM�Sol Sanctum | EC$60

30/11/2025

What Your Nervous System is Really Trying to Tell You!!

Your body doesn’t respond in one single way.
It shifts between three states, each one trying to protect you.

You’ve felt them, even if you didn’t have the words:

Ventral Vagal — when you feel safe enough to stay.

There’s steadiness.
Your thoughts make sense.
Your words land the way you intend.
Repair and connection actually feel possible.

2. Sympathetic — when you want connection, but something feels off.

This is the “push–pull” state.
You’re alert, fast, maybe a little guarded.
You might please, appease, over-explain, or over-function.
You want closeness, but you don’t fully trust it.

3. Dorsal Vagal — when the body taps out to protect you.

Everything goes quiet.
You feel flat, numb, far away.
It’s not that you don’t care; your body just isn’t sure it’s safe to stay engaged.

None of these states are wrong.
They are adaptive; the body does the best it can with the information it has.

As you move through the carousel, notice if your body recognizes itself in one of these states. Not to judge. Not to fix.
Just to understand what it’s been trying to communicate all along.

Because repair doesn’t begin with forcing yourself back into connection.
It begins with being present with the state you’re in.

Your body isn’t the problem.
It’s the messenger.

What Your Nervous System is Really Trying to Tell You!!Most of us were never taught that our nervous system has its own ...
30/11/2025

What Your Nervous System is Really Trying to Tell You!!

Most of us were never taught that our nervous system has its own language.

We were taught to “push through,” “be strong,” “don’t make it a big deal,” or “just get over it.”

But your body never signed that contract.

When your body and your voice drift apart, even slightly, your nervous system feels the mismatch; those subtle shifts your body makes to keep you safe, even when you don’t consciously notice it.

Ventral: when trust is possible.
Sympathetic: when you want connection but feel unsettled.
Dorsal: when the body starts to withdraw because it doesn’t feel heard.

None of these states are wrong, they are intelligent, protective adaptations.

If you see yourself in any of these states, try not to judge.

Try instead to get curious:
What is my body trying to protect me from?
What signal have I been overriding?
Where is the mismatch between my truth and my actions?

Healing sits in the quiet space between awareness and choice, not forcing, not rushing, just pacing yourself back into safety.

Your body doesn’t need perfection. It needs partnership.

Repair + Relearning the Body“Your body was never the problem. It was adapting.”We talk as if listening to our bodies is ...
29/11/2025

Repair + Relearning the Body

“Your body was never the problem. It was adapting.”

We talk as if listening to our bodies is a skill some people have and others missed.
But that’s not how the nervous system works.

Polyvagal Theory reminds us that the body is always communicating through tightening, softening, pulling back, and opening.

It tells the truth long before our minds catch up.

Pleasure Activism says the same thing in a different way: your body is shaped by what it had to survive, and also by what it was never allowed to feel.

Struggling to hear your cues, or noticing your desire is quiet, or that you can’t tell the difference between discomfort and shutdown; is your bodies familiar way of responding.

Your body learned to mute itself in rooms where speaking up wasn’t safe. It learned to disconnect as a survival strategy. And survival strategies are intelligent, not broken.

So this season of repair isn’t about learning something new. It’s about relearning something ancient. Something you were born with. Something that’s been waiting for safer conditions.

“Listening to your body is not a skill you missed; it’s one you’re relearning.”

Let that take the pressure off. You’re not behind.

You’re just rebuilding trust with a system that’s been protecting you for a long time.

28/11/2025

Boundaries + Desire

Most people think their desire is broken.
But what’s actually broken is the relationship between your body and your choices.

Desire shuts down in places where you’ve taught your body that its signals don’t matter.

You don’t do this on purpose.

It happens slowly:

• saying yes when your whole body whispered no
• telling yourself “don’t make it a big deal”
• pushing down discomfort because you didn’t want an argument
• performing intimacy instead of feeling it

Each of those moments teaches the nervous system one lesson: “You’re not safe enough to relax.”

Desire cannot coexist with bracing.

This isn’t about your libido; it’s about your trust relationship with your body.

Your body wants to want.
It just can’t want if it believes you’ll put it second.

When you begin to gently and consistently honor and hold your boundaries, your body begins to notice.

It unclenches. It stops scanning. And for the first time in a long time, it begins to believe you might not override it again.

This allows the desire to start flickering back.

Not because you forced it, but because you repaired the rupture.



26/11/2025

Rebuilding Erotic Safety Post A Body Shut-Down

A lot of people think their desire “disappeared,” but most of the time it’s just that their mind, body, and environment aren’t on the same page.

That’s what congruence is: everything saying yes at the same time.

The erotic needs a few basic things to even show up: 1) Presence, 2) Safety, 3) Time/Predictability, and 4) A body that isn’t bracing.

If your body is tense, distracted, rushing, or running old scripts, desire goes offline. Not permanently. Just until the signals make sense again.

Those five steps are ways to help your system settle:

1. Check the context, how present are you?
If you’re half in, half out, your body won’t give you a green light. That’s normal.

2. Look at what your body is doing.
Shutdown isn’t always numbness. It can be speed, silence, or overthinking.

3. Give your body a “no expectation” moment.
Pressure kills erotic energy faster than anything else.

4. Try touch that doesn’t require a reaction.
Your system needs space to notice what feels okay.

5. Use simple, clear language.
Short cues help your body trust what’s coming next.

And yeah, it can be hard. Especially if you’re used to performing, people-pleasing, or rushing your own needs.

But this isn’t an overnight change; it’s a nervous system shift.

You practice it, you get better at it, and eventually your body stops panicking when intimacy enters the room.

You’re not broken. You’re recalibrating.



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