31/05/2025
The importance of conflict resolution for health
A Self-Devaluation Conflict is a shocking moment that catches you off guard when your psyche perceives…
“I can’t do it”
“I’m not capable”
“I’m no good”
“I’m not ____ enough”
“Something is wrong with me”
The experience of incapability is biologically linked to the tissues in your body that perform functions that make you able to do a task, your connective tissues- muscles, bones, ligaments, blood vessels, lymph, fat, etc.
Depending on the situation and what you are perceiving yourself as not capable of doing, the specific areas of the body involved will begin to adapt according to their biological function.
During the active conflict there is loss of tissue.
As you actively feel “not enough” your tissues become thinner, there is necrosis of tissue, weakening of the area, decalcification, osteoporosis, osteopenia, anemia, etc.
This necrosis persists as long as the conflict is active.
Ongoing active self-devaluation of a particular tissue predisposes this area to injury and a normal movement or activity that wouldn’t usually cause a problem could result in a fracture or rupture.
The intensity of the self-devaluation determines which layer of connective tissue will be affected:
Light Devaluation = Fat, Blood Vessels
Moderate Self-Devaluation = Lymph, Cartilage, Ligaments
Severe Self-Devaluation = Bones
When this conflict is active you will have compulsive thinking about the thing you are feeling incapable of doing, the thing you feel stupid about, the situation that is unjust, the thing you can’t get a handle on etc.
BUT THEN as soon as you resolve the conflict the body immediately begins building back better than before and the involved tissue becomes thicker, bigger, stronger, and more capable after the biological program is complete.
Thats the whole point of this biological adaptation = stronger after resolution!
Following conflict resolution the tissue begins at once to repair and rebuild. When this repair process is taking place the tissue is swollen, tender, warm, tense, stiff, sore, etc.
Remember: PAIN is an indication of HEALING
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