Vivian Correia - Holistic Psychologist

29/09/2025

When the world around me feels chaotic and overwhelming, I turn to zazen. Sitting in silence may look simple, but it is the most powerful act I can offer myself. In those moments, I am not trying to escape reality—I am learning to breathe with it, to soften into it, and to find clarity within it.

Through conscious meditation, I discover patience. I notice how thoughts arise, how emotions try to take over, and how quickly the mind wants to react. But with every breath, I remind myself that I don’t need to be pulled into the storm. I can remain still, grounded, and present.

In a world that pushes me to rush, to consume, to constantly move, my practice of zazen becomes an anchor. It teaches me to pause, to listen deeply, and to respond with kindness instead of haste. For me, calmness is not about escaping chaos—it is about meeting it with an open heart and steady mind.

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The notion that a beautiful woman cannot also be intelligent is one of the most persistent and damaging cultural prejudices. Freud observed that beauty has a privileged position in the unconscious, often provoking projections of desire, fantasy, or suspicion. Carl Jung, meanwhile, explained how archetypes such as the anima have long confined the feminine to symbolic roles, stripping women of their individuality and intellectual recognition. These theories illuminate why, across centuries, beauty and intellect have been falsely cast as opposites.

Intelligence is not determined by appearance but by the orchestration of memory, creativity, problem-solving, and emotional regulation within the brain’s intricate networks. Medicine and psychology affirm that cognition is not diminished by physical aesthetics. Yet socially, beauty becomes paradoxical: it grants visibility while also inviting dismissal, envy, or ridicule.

When people—including men and, sadly, other women—assume that beauty excludes intellectual capacity, they reproduce a subtle but corrosive form of misogyny. This is more than sexism; it is an epistemic injustice, where credibility is denied not by evidence but by prejudice.

History offers powerful examples. Marie Curie, the first woman to win a Nobel Prize, transformed science yet endured judgment about her personal life and appearance. Hypatia of Alexandria, philosopher and mathematician, was violently silenced because her brilliance threatened patriarchal order. In our own age, Jane Goodall and Malala Yousafzai embody the union of intellect and presence, yet still confront reductive stereotypes. Even in the arts, women like Natalie Portman, a Harvard graduate, and Emma Watson, a UN ambassador for gender equality, are often seen as “too beautiful” to be taken seriously—proof that the prejudice persists even in modern culture.

This reveals humanity’s fear of wholeness. The union of beauty and intellect in the feminine embodies completeness—radiance and wisdom fused together. Jung would call this the archetype of the Self: the sacred reconciliation of opposites. To recognize such wholeness requires maturity; to deny it is to cling to fear.

For me, living this truth is painful. To be underestimated—treated as though beauty invalidates thought—is to bear a prejudice that silences my voice before it is heard. It is lamentable, for it diminishes not only me but also society’s progress. True intelligence, however, is never threatened by beauty. On the contrary, it embraces beauty as another dimension of truth, where wisdom shines not in spite of radiance, but through it!

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Carrie-Anne Moss (best known for her role as Trinity in The Matrix) once said: "People tell you the world looks a certain way. Parents tell you how to think. Schools tell you how to think. TV. Religion. And then at a certain point, if you're lucky, you realize you can make up your own mind. Nobody sets the rules but you. You can design your own life."

29/09/2025

The closer we look at reality, the more it melts away beneath our fingertips. Matter isn’t solid at all deep down, everything dissolves into pure energy, endlessly vibrating.

Zoom in on an atom and you won’t find hard, tiny balls. Instead, you’ll see vast spaces, shimmering with charged fields, and the ghostly presence of particles that are really just ripples in an invisible sea.

In the world of quantum mechanics, electrons don’t orbit like planets and protons aren’t miniature marbles. They’re disturbances in underlying fields pulses of energy appearing and disappearing with every tick of time. Even what we call “mass” is an illusion, a brief moment where energy gathers and dances, creating the structure of the world as we experience it.

It’s as if the universe is an endless symphony, with everything from your skin to the farthest stars woven from resonating patterns of energy. Nothing is ever truly still. The deeper we go, the more reality looks like music: a projection of invisible rules, an ocean of motion shaped by quantum laws not by solid bricks.

This astonishing perspective, revealed by quantum mechanics and quantum field theory, flips our entire view of the cosmos. We are not built from particles, but from the patterns of energy waves in an endless, silent dance.

📸 Credit: Modern quantum mechanics, quantum electrodynamics (QED), the Standard Model of particle physics, and quantum field theory interpretations.

29/09/2025

29/09/2025

“People give flowers as present because flowers contain true meaning of love. Anyone who tries to posses a flower will have to watch its beauty fading. But if you simply look at a flower in the field, you'll keep it forever.
That is what the forest taught me. That you will never be mine, and that is why i will never lose you.” ❤

― Paulo Coelho, Brida

29/09/2025

~On Not Being "The Good Girl" in This World~

To live in this world is to constantly face expectations — expectations to smile, to please, to soften one’s own voice so others feel comfortable. Women, in particular, are often taught that being "good" means being silent, accommodating, and endlessly patient. Yet, there is a hidden cost to this script: the loss of authenticity, the suppression of desire, and the quiet erosion of one’s own soul.

To not be “the good girl” is not to choose cruelty, but to choose truth. It is the act of reclaiming one’s boundaries, of speaking when silence would wound, of walking away when staying would destroy. It is an act of self-respect, not rebellion.

Being firm, saying "no," demanding fairness — these are not flaws, but forms of integrity. When a woman dares to prioritize her own well-being, she disrupts the cycle of invisibility that generations before her endured.

This world does not need more "good girls." It needs women who are whole, aware, and courageous enough to stand in their power — women who know that their worth is not measured by compliance, but by authenticity.

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29/09/2025

~The Power of NO~

In a world that often glorifies constant availability, the word “No” becomes an act of profound self-preservation. From a psychological perspective, saying No establishes healthy boundaries, protecting mental well-being from the consequences of overcommitment, such as burnout, stress, and emotional fatigue. Neuroscience suggests that every decision we make consumes cognitive resources; therefore, declining what does not serve our values allows the brain to conserve energy for what truly matters.

Philosophically, No is not merely rejection, but affirmation of the self. It is the refusal to betray one’s essence for the sake of pleasing others. To say No is to declare sovereignty over one’s time, body, and mind. It transforms the individual from a passive participant in life into an active architect of their own existence.

From a scientific perspective, studies in behavioral psychology demonstrate that individuals who practice assertiveness—expressing No without guilt—tend to exhibit higher levels of self-esteem and healthier interpersonal relationships. This is because No filters out distractions and creates space for authentic connections and meaningful pursuits.

Thus, No is not an absence, but a presence. It is the presence of courage, clarity, and integrity. To master the art of No is to embrace freedom—not the freedom of doing everything, but the deeper freedom of choosing what truly aligns with one’s truth!

Remember: Saying NO is LIBERATING!

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29/09/2025

Codependent Relationships:

A Gentle Reflection by Vivian Correia

A codependent relationship is not about weakness, but about a pattern where love and identity become entangled. From a psychological view, codependency often emerges when one’s sense of worth depends on meeting another’s needs, sometimes at the cost of their own boundaries.

Philosophically, it reminds us of the paradox of love: while connection is vital, true love cannot thrive without individuality. When we dissolve too much of ourselves, we risk losing the very essence that makes us lovable.

From a scientific and neurological perspective, the brain reinforces these dynamics through reward pathways. Acts of care, approval, or sacrifice trigger dopamine and oxytocin, creating a cycle that feels safe yet may limit growth. Over time, the nervous system learns to equate self-sacrifice with security.

Empathetically, it is important to see codependency not as a flaw, but as a survival strategy learned in early environments where love may have felt conditional. Healing begins not with blame, but with awareness, self-compassion, and the gentle reclaiming of one’s own needs and voice.

I know this journey personally — I once lived in codependency, confusing sacrifice with love. But through awareness, therapy, and compassion, I learned to love myself first. Today, I can say that healing is possible, and that love becomes more beautiful when it is chosen freely, not out of fear or dependence.

In essence, love flourishes most when two individuals meet as whole beings, sharing freely rather than depending entirely. A healthy relationship is not about completing each other, but about walking side by side — whole, yet connected.

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- Vivian Correia - Holistic Psychologist

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29/09/2025

Trust yourself enough to listen to that whisper inside—the one that doesn’t scream, but softly reminds you of who you are.

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