Katinka Zahra Lehtonen - Counsellor

08/12/2024

Recently there have been some conversations around the idea of what's happening with relationships nowadays. Which does bring quite a lot of questions. Here's an interesting read about how the theory of interdependence may be playing a role on how couples may decide to remain in a relationship, even when deeply unhappy, similarly why some break up, but also which are the ones that remain strong.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talking-apes/201705/why-so-many-miserable-couples-stay-together?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost&fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAR3_qaC7LJSxAh4AhfxgxlpYu-xmgqLJQdZQVgYyO-1fNusFJABBH9SIgxA_aem_AsOd_Ff1TSebsmUjbdMuLA

There's a key calculation these partners make.

15/07/2024

This a good explanation of how one would use NVC - non violent communication to help resolve conflict situations in a supportive way.

https://www.facebook.com/share/v/Taj54fNUtx2eJkWd/

13/04/2024

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2024/04/carl-jung-pillars-life-happiness/678009/

28/12/2023

A good explanation of the physiological effects loneliness can have on us.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/darwin-does-dating/202311/not-just-a-feeling-the-physical-consequences-of-loneliness?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost&fbclid=IwAR2Xz6FzO5OYskSqUX_pSSiVNIfLeJfbXIc3VRGs_p2n4ikQGw6ns4ZmBSg

Lack of connection and poor health choices may be linked.

07/12/2023

How 10 minutes of positive daydreaming can help turn your ruminating around...

Take a breath, imagine better times, and move ahead.

24/11/2023

Some food for thought
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/202107/how-our-parents-relationships-can-shape-our-own?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost&fbclid=IwAR3tOXTZsbBKECrWXz-59Aj9FzcMyrE1w1gjYY6RPLSLB0kkgOBYV4lZiSY

13/02/2023

"...sometimes the wind needs to blow really, really hard to blow away the autumn leaves that are on the ground..."

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We've all been there… "If I just move, get a new job, find new friends… then my life will be perfect.” While these changes may give you a fresh start, before...

05/02/2023

A little love out to all ❤️

05/02/2023

Communication, patience and understanding that we are all human, can be the key ingredients to keep in mind.

Patience, communication, and time-outs are three keys to a healthy relationship.

01/02/2023

I'm a firm believer that we need to take care of ourselves in a holistic manner, where we link mind, body and soul and take care of each in the best possible way. As they say we really are what we eat, so, besides the need to make sure the environment you live in promotes good health, you also need to take care of the environment inside of you.
Here's some food for thought (pun intended 😉)

30/01/2023

A good article that can help shed light about how we can be affected by what we've experienced in our childhood. We all experience things differently, and react to them differently, however, on etching we have in common is the need to be cared for and to have someone show us empathy.

Being conditioned as a child to see toxic relationships as almost normal can prevent an adult make loving connections