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Linda Aklundh Therapist, Sliema (2026)

29/04/2026

I have met many who are like me; the home situation growing up meant that we had to learn how to take care of ourselves early in life.
This in turn made some of us great planners and organisers who are always scanning our surroundings for what needs to be done next. And while these habits are often useful in adult life, it did mean that time that was meant for play and creativity was spent making sure we survived.

When I look at my family, particularly on my mothers side, I see the same patterns.
My mum, the oldest of six, had to look after her siblings before the age of five and by the start of teenage, they all worked in the family business.
And this is how it was in Sweden (and I’m sure in many places) until recently. Young kids had to help out with the family and house tasks. I myself didn’t learn how to ”play” until my granddaughter came along. At the tender age of 55 I’m at last finding playfulness and creativity, and very interestingly, joy in playing.

Breaking these old habits that run so deep in us and in our family history is not always easy. I found that constellation work did wonders for me and gave me space to choose new ways.
As the cream, cherry, sprinkles and a sparkler on top, my granddaughter has been a great teacher in the art of play. Thankfully, she’s is growing up beautifully care-free.

02/02/2026

This is the it’s-better-to-be-Very-late-than-never THANK YOU note.
On the 4th of January, we had a very beautiful constellation workshop and I want to thank all of you who came and made it into the warm, holding, caring space it was. 🙏

We had some veterans, a newbie and a sceptic (I love sceptics because they always leave with a new concept in their lives). It was a great combination and we managed to set up 4 constellations. One of the themes for the day was fear, particularly from mothers. Fear about not being able to care for the children enough, fear about loss & grief, fear regarding lost opportunities for connection and so on.

In the constellation work it becomes very obvious when fear is present. The family system freezes and members find it hard to move in any direction. Often a member’s break from being frozen is quite strong and turns into disconnection with the family. Disconnection leads to more fear. And so the cycle continues.

In my experience, perpetual fear is one of the most destructive forces if not taken care of because fear induces contraction; our bodies contract; our movements contract; our thinking contracts; our emotional range contracts; and our ability to connect contracts. All of which leads to various forms of struggles such as anxiety, uncertainty, overcompensating, or discontentment. And the problem is not to feel fear - it’s to not know how to get out of it once it’s there.

Thankfully there are tools and we continue to grow and learn and find our own ways to move forward and move out of old and inherited patterns. 💞

22/12/2025

We are headed towards lighter days.

Yesterday was winter solstice and having grown up in Sweden, the returning of the light and longer days was always noticed and celebrated.
Having been through many experiences in life where things seems to turn only when the outlook is the darkest, once it turns, I can now recognise and be grateful for the returning light.

But many times I have been unable to imagine light before the turn and I have at times fallen into a well of despair. In my deepest moments of darkness, it has been hard to reach for and grasp gratitude and compassion; my two most trusted companions towards finding my turning point.

Thankfully I have learned over the years that switching on my lights on the way down will help me find my way home faster and most times, I manage to do it. I can find the light switches and reach out in the form of family & friends, good TV show’s, or favourite food. Those are the times when the darkness isn’t frightening but rather an enveloping friend that makes my world comfy cozy while I wait for light to return.

I have also lived long enough to know that the light will arrive, even if I can’t always see it. ✨

❤️ If you need support during the holidays, you can fine someone to talk to on
Malta: Supportline 179
Sweden: https://www.jourhavande-medmanniska.se/

05/05/2025

This is Margot, she’s my only grandchild, she’s 3 years old and she is the greatest joy in my life bar none❣️
In this picture she’s jumping up and down, making little poses while singing on top of her lungs.

Now see, this is how (at least many of us) we used to be - free to express ourselves without any self consciousness, moving our bodies in ways that was fun and felt good and creating our own happy little moments whenever we could. We instinctively knew what movement felt good, both in our bodies and in our feelings. We naturally sought out ways of being that increased our wellbeing, like a flower following the sun. But at some point, many of us stopped doing that.

We got busy with life, such as work, family, friends, hobbies and home care obligations. We started adulting and paid much more attention to what was happening outside of us rather than what’s happening inside of us. On top of that, we may have had experiences that were so painful that we needed to block them out and the older we got, we have many more of those.

And this is where it gets tricky: blocking out painful events is a very useful and fairly easy tool to use and it has been immensely useful as we continue to adult. The other side of that coin however, is firstly; it’s not an easy on/off switch. The blocking-things-out becomes a semi permanent state that takes conscious effort to get out off. Secondly, when we block things off, we actually don’t know how we are doing, because, you know, we are blocking things out. So we think we’re ok but truthfully, we don’t know because we cant feel it. 🤷‍♀️

In family constellations we see this all the time. And it is so obvious when a system is frozen because the representatives in the constellation literally can’t move. It’s like they are stuck in the position they’re in. This always always happens because there has been a great tragedy at some point and the grief & trauma that follows renders the members unable to move. They are frozen in time.
So even if the person didn’t actually experience the tragedy, they still carry part of that frozeness as children and later on as adults while adding their own “new & improved” blockages to their bodies.

Thankfully, there are many things that can be done to change this. Constellation workshops, therapy, yoga, breathing exercises and all the other stuff we nowadays have access too. Then there is also this; reaching in and embracing that little child in us that knows how to move our bodies in ways that makes us feel good.
Do it today - make your Margot moment. ❤️

04/04/2025

✨ My husband often tells his employees “If you’re not making mistakes, you’re not trying hard enough”. What he means is, “Don’t be afraid to try”.
I really like this way of looking at mistakes. It gives the space and opportunity to be creative, to test things out, to sometimes do things that didn’t turn out so well but which most of the time can be modified or apologised for. It really opens up life to freedom of options and opportunity. There can be no creativity without courage.

For many years, starting in my early preteens, I walked around feeling that I could never make a mistake. That making a mistake made me a failure. I had the belief that I should know everything before I had even tried it or learned it, I should just be smart enough to know immediately. It was very shameful. 💔

I still remember the therapy session where I realised that a mistake did not make me a failure, because failures and mistakes are not the same thing. By separating the two, I stepped from shame to empowerment. I was not a failure (not good enough, smart enough etc) but a person who not only could recognise what wasn’t working but someone who also had the capacity for change, resourcefulness, and imagination to find new ways forward. I thankfully also know now, that if my mistakes have repercussions, I have tools and support to manage the outcome.

The shame of failure or mistakes runs deep in my family. Reflecting upon it, I can see where some mistakes have had painful and long lasting consequences and where support has been less than desirable. After my years doing family constellations, I can find the place in my body where I used to carry this shame for those mistakes. It is now a place of love & compassion for my family and my self. I have held my held my family’s pain and cried and I have released their struggles from my life. 🌺

01/03/2025

Grief. It affects us all, whether we have experienced it first hand or through those around us who we love and care for. It is a force of emotions that time and time again has revealed it self a gargantuan situation to endure. James Patterson describes it well; “The weird, weird thing about devastating loss is that life actually goes on. When you're faced with a tragedy, a loss so huge that you have no idea how you can live through it, somehow, the world keeps turning, the seconds keep ticking.”

And this is the thing. When a family experiences loss, they still need to take care of those who remains and comes after. There is no pause button to press because food needs to be put on the table, work has to be done, our home needs to be cleaned, and life continues. We do our best to survive/go on/function/engage in relationships while being deeply wounded. Wounds that may heal part ways over time but as some of us knows, rarely fully.

🙏 I want to Thank all of You who came to our workshop last Sunday and so compassionately and gracefully held our clients and the constellations through the devastating moments of grief. It is an oft recurring theme in our workshops and is a keen reminder that with life comes death and with love comes grief. Thankfully we also share laughter, curiosity, openness and appreciation, or these workshops would be hard to bear. I am grateful and humbled by your presence.

14/02/2025

“While our infant attachment pattern are not a diagnosis or traits that are eternally set in stone, most people continue their early childhood attachment patterns into their teen and adulthood attachments and then unintentionally pass those patterns on to the next generation as well. Unless there is someone in the family system ready to heal and change the pattern.”
- Eli Harwood, Raising Securely Attached Kids

… and as we know from family constellation theory and epigenetic research, these patters are highly influenced not only by our parents, but our greater family system. Trauma moves through the generations until we become aware of it and change our ways.

And yes, it only takes ONE person to change❣️

🌻 Our next workshop is on February 23rd. Come, participate and envelop yourself in the generously caring and supportive group we create.

Welcome 🙏

06/02/2025

Hi All❣️

I have (when I say I, I mean my friend who is helping me with this kind of stuff 😂) set up a WhatsApp group/community for those who wish to receive news that way. In this group I will post the workshops as soon as they have been put up on my FB page. This may be advantageous to those who wants to be clients as these slots are often filled within a couple of days. Remember, it’s a first come, first serve arrangement.

Also, we still have some participant slots open for the workshop on February 23rd. 😃

Welcome 🙏

24/01/2025

Our first Family Constellation workshop of the year is out! I so look forward to meeting everyone who comes and work with our clients constellations. We already have a client eager to work, it’s fantastic. 😍

There is a small change this year; we will only set up 3 constellations per workshop. I felt that we were stretching ourselves a bit too far by squeezing in four in one day. This way we will have plenty of time for chats and questions, longer breaks and a slower tempo. I think it’ll be great!

Find the event below and contact me if you have questions.

Welcome❣️

18/01/2025

It’s (almost) a miracle!

I have managed (I hope) to find a way to join our community on WhatsApp. This is designed so I can send out the workshop information as soon as the event is created. 😃

Click on the link below to join us.

Welcome ❣️🙏

https://chat.whatsapp.com/D7p26YeuCMRFgayhzXEEZN

15/01/2025

Happy New Year Everyone! 🥳

I have bravely started upon the task of creating the “Announcements group” on WhatsApp that I promised a while back. It’s not going great as it is not as easy as I hoped it would be, plus I suck at admin stuff. 🫣

So I’m again asking for your help!
Those of you who would like to be part of this group and have NOT received a message from the group ✨Family Constellations Workshops, please contact me again with your mobile number.

I also have the number for many of you but can’t add you to the group for some reason, so please check if there is a setting of accepting requests from groups that may preventing this (this is a complete guess on my part so if it’s not that, let me know).

I’m also happy to announce that this years first workshop will soon be announced. 🥰 Looking forward!

Ps. The pic is representing/an inspiration to how calm I would like to be when I’m doing admin

Linda Aklundh Therapist

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