Musarrat Seekdaur • EMDR Therapy

03/06/2025

“Love it, saved my life,” the Grammy winner told The New York Times in a new interview.

05/05/2025

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01/03/2025

Allow me to wish you all a blessed Ramadan!

During this month, please remember to be considerate towards those who are unable to fast due to mental illness and those who struggle to pray as much due to poor mental health.

In true Ramadan spirit, avoid judgment and promote support and understanding. Ask your loved ones about the kind of help or assistance that they need during the month.

Most importantly, refrain from asking people to stop or change their medication so that they can fast without proper guidance and advice from a doctor. Remember that God and rewards sincerity and effort ans shows mercy by exempting the sick of fasting.

26/02/2025

Many survivors of narcissistic abuse end up feeling that a lot of focus is placed on demystifying the narcissist’s behaviour. While this can help make the victim understand and make sense of the abuser’s behaviour, too much focus draws attention away from the survivor’s plight.
The survivor has a story to tell and has already been subjected to gaslighting, manipulation and emotional blackmail. They need a safe space where they can speak their truth and most importantly be heard and trusted!

18/02/2025

Survivors of narcissistic abuse often try to make sense of their partner’s incredibly high standards. From minor tasks like doing the dishes to monitoring their weight, survivors recall feeling the pressure to always do better and once it seemed that they were about to meet the standard, the finish line was shifted to make them run more each time.
What’s going on here? The narcissist’s power lies in making people believe that they are inferior to them. They will often study their partner’s insecurities, and excel in that field (for example if they notice that their partner is insecure about their body, they will make sure to highlight that they are themselves quite fit.)
They often pretend to help their partner overcome their problems, but all the way create impossibly high expectations. This means that each time their partner will feel that they are not meeting the standards, they are not worthy of their partner’s affection. This creates a cycle of dependency as the victim tries to do everything to become worthy of their partner’s love without ever earning the validation that they crave.

17/02/2025

If a friend or loved one comes to you saying that they are going through abuse, you may automatically begin to look for signs and proof… except that narcissists leave next to none.
Narcissists are often appreciated by not only their own friends and family, but also their partner’s. They are helpful members of their community, many are even law abiding and seemingly God fearing too, being active at their place of worship.
Survivors of narcissistic abuse often have a hard time finding support from their own because of the image that their partner has managed to create.
Before you dismiss a loved one who says that they have been abused, take a moment to read about narcissistic abuse. If you don’t know how to help, always redirect them towards professional help or services which can provide support.

07/02/2025

Feeling safe with your therapist is essential for you to be able to open up. Building a healthy therapeutic alliance is about trust, creating a space where you can be open, honest, and vulnerable—without fear of judgment.
For many people who have gone through trauma or still face daily distress, therapy can be their only safe space where they can let down their guard.

04/02/2025

Depending on your personal circumstances, therapy can require your full focus for a considerable amount of time. This means that it is preferable, as much as possible, not to schedule therapy at a time where you have to focus on other events that may get in the way. For instance travelling, work commitments, weddings etc.
This is because therapy can be emotionally charged, exhausting at times, and you may need time to practice what you learn as well.
However, if you have a very busy schedule, it should not stop you from seeking help! Many therapists are accustomed to working with busy clients and will work with you to find an appropriate treatment plan.