28/08/2025
Are you familiar with this situation?
Your child is asked to redo a simple correction, and instead of complying, he bursts into tears, shouts at the parents/teachers, and refuses to listen. He/she will be frustrated over tiny little things such as: losing a game, being told to turn off the TV, or being asked to tidy up. The entire household begins to feel like they are “walking on eggshells,” never knowing when the next explosion might come.
For many families, the daily stress of raising a child with ADHD is not just about inattention or hyperactivity. What causes the greatest strain is often the emotional dysregulation — the sudden mood swings, irritability, and explosive reactions. Unfortunately, this aspect of ADHD is frequently misunderstood. Instead of being recognized as part of the condition, children are sometimes labeled as “spoiled,” “defiant,” or “disrespectful.”
Understanding the link between ADHD and emotional dysregulation is vital. It not only validates parents’ struggles but also points the way to effective strategies — from teaching children how to recognize and label their feelings, to equipping families with coping tools that can reduce stress at home.
Recommendations/guidelines/diagnostic criteria:
-5 & -11: emotional dysregulation is not a diagnostic criterion but recognized as common in ADHD.
& guidelines: highlight the importance of assessing and managing it, often overlapping with oppositional defiant disorder, Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder, anxiety, or mood disorders.
Apart from treating the hyperactive/inactivity symptoms of ADHD with medication, it is also very important to address the emotional dysregulation component. This is where clinical psychologist comes into play. One of the first steps in cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is teaching the child to recognize and label emotions. By learning to name feelings — “I am angry,” “I feel disappointed,” “I am frustrated because I lost the game” — children begin to create a pause between the feeling and the reaction.