13/07/2022
Never stay in a Toxic Relationship for your Children !
Never stay in a Toxic Relationship for your Children.
It is easier said than done, but you have to think of the future consequences that you are subjecting a whole generation too because of the choices you are making.
There are many long-term effects of staying in a toxic relationship, and your children will end up attaining particular tendencies that include learning negative patterns, withdrawal, depression and isolation.
If you are staying in a bad relationship for your children, as admirable as it might feel, it might not be the best for either of you in the long run.
When children see mom and dad unable to maintain a healthy relationship, often with mom crying or dad yelling, they may fear getting close to others. This often starts with isolation behavior in social scenarios with peers and can grow into a fear of intimacy.
Children coming from toxic relationships will view intimacy as a way that people get hurt. In order to protect themselves, they reject any form of a close relationship.
Even when they desperately want to be loved and in love, they will engage in relationships extremely guarded. As the relationship continues, they may replay what they say mom and dad do in arguments.
Children develop habits based on what they see. Boys and girls see dad belittling or even physically harming mom will learn that this is the normal way couples interact.
Kids who see mom cowering at the sound of dad’s keys in the door will feel they need to hide from those who supposedly love them.
These patterns are developed subconsciously and take a lot of work to undo.
As a single mom raising a boy, the last thing you want is for him to raise his hand to you when he is getting punished.
As a single mom of a girl, you want your daughter to feel strong enough to stand up for her feelings, safety, and happiness.
This is extremely difficult, if not impossible, to accomplish when staying in a toxic relationship so you need to do what's right for you and your children's life before it's too late.
So take my advice and ...Choose an environment that best serves your children and the generations that follow.
Break the cycle of abuse.
No child deserves that.