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12/02/2023

Healing & Wellness Women's Retreat, March 11th - 12th. WhatsApp to book your spot.

19/01/2023

➡️ Hard truth....toxic parents believed in criticising you to "help" you, but it only "helped" you develop a loud inner critic, and a sense that you're not good enough.

➡️ If you didn't like the criticism growing up, why are you doing it to yourself now? Would you speak to a 5 year old with the same inner voice that you currently have? If the answer is no, then you're being too hard on yourself.

➡️ Focus on building a compassionate inner voice. One that gives you constant praise....because you are good enough. You don't have to chase achievements to prove your worth, you just have to acknowledge that you are worthy.

18/01/2023

➡️ Your beliefs affect your thought. Your thoughts affect your emotions. Your emotions affect how your body feels. How your body feels affects your actions. If you keep replaying the saaaaaaaame harmful things daily, you will never heal.

➡️ If you want to heal, start challenging every harmful thought. Bring your awareness to your thoughts by setting an alarm to go off every hour with the question "What's on your mind?"

➡️ Be consistent in redirecting your harmful thoughts to more desirable thoughts. The more you do this, the easier it gets. If you never start, you'll never make any progress

3️⃣ coping skills I frequently use:

1️⃣ 3-3-3 I identify 3 things I can see, describe the texture of 3 things I can touch, and identify 3 things I can hear.

2️⃣ Journaling

3️⃣ Deep breathing (if you find it hard to concentrate, you can run an ice cube up and down your arm as you focus on taking in deep, slow breaths).

17/01/2023

➡️ Everytime you don't set a boundary because you're scared, you make it harder for your future self to set boundaries.

➡️ Everytime you say "yes" when you want to say "no", you make it harder for yourself to trust yourself.

➡️ Everytime you go out of your way to keep the peace, you end up falling into people-pleasing behavior, and fear any form of conflict.

➡️ Step out of your comfort zone. Challenge yourself. Grow. Say "no". Put yourself first. Set boundaries. If people don't like it, they can do fly a kite (you can post one to them via Shopee or send them a link ✌🏻).

16/01/2023

➡️ There's a difference between "gaslighting" and a person who isn't willing to take responsibility for sh*t that isn't theirs.

➡️ You don't have to take responsibility for things that are not yours. You can empathize, but you don't want to enable undesirable behavior.

➡️ Some people have to do their own inner work. They won't be able to take accountability for their role in certain things until they do the work. This is because they're still in victim mindset - they will blame you for what's being triggered within them, but they didn't pause to ask "What work do I need to do for this trigger?"

15/01/2023

➡️ Sometimes your partner is the toxic one, sometimes it's you. What are you going to do about it? The answer to that question determines if your future will be different from your past, or if you're signing up to experience the saaaaaaaame thing.

14/01/2023

➡️ If you make a list of everything that you absolutely hated of your parents mannerisms, I wonder how many you would realize you also have.

➡️ If you didn't like that they yelled at you, learn new ways to communicate that doesn't involve yelling.

➡️ If you felt that they only knew how to spend money on you, but didn't know how to be emotional, check yourself on your own emotional valve. Can you easily express your emotions or do you have a tendency to speak via materialistic things?

➡️ Everything within you comes from your family line....you have to bring your awareness to it to ask if it's a pattern of trauma or healing?

13/01/2023

➡️ Unhealed childhood wounds indicate that you have a wounded inner child. If you don't acknowledge the wounded inner child, you can't heal (the symptoms don't go away).

➡️ Your wounded inner child holds onto all of your harmful beliefs. This is why you think people can't be trusted, the world is a dangerous place, you'll end up alone and you're unlovable. Something happened in your childhood, and you started to believe the above.

➡️ To heal the inner child, you have to acknowledge the pain that you felt. Next, step into the role of a parent, and have a dialogue with your inner child (basically, tell him/her what you would have wanted to hear at that point). If you don't know what to say to your inner child, you can start with "I love you."

➡️ Running away from your inner child only leaves you feeling abandoned and unable to trust yourself.

➡️ You need to feel it to heal it.

12/01/2023

➡️ I'll be the first to admit it....I have trust issues. It's really difficult for me to be vulnerable with someone. I've been hurt in the past, and it left me feeling like letting people into my life is a recipe for disaster....because once they're in, they can hurt me....but if I never let them in, then they can never hurt me.

➡️ The thing is, it gets tiring living when you constantly think someone is going to hurt you. So instead of doing that, I started to focus on good traits in a person (instead of looking for flaws).

➡️ If you see a red flag, run....but don't spend the entire time you're getting to know someone having an interview to look for the red flags. If they exist, you'll find out. If they're healthy for you (green flags), you'll also find out.

➡️ Well, I gtg now....these 500 word essays aren't going to read themselves! 😅

11/01/2023

➡️ Have standards. Set them high. Not everyone can afford a Lamborghini, but I don't see Lambo giving out any "buy 1, free 1" vouchers.

➡️ The relationships in your life reflect how you view yourself. If you put up with crappy behavior, you don't hold yourself in high regard (if you did, you wouldn't allow yourself to be disrespected).

➡️ It's better to be alone than to be with someone who disrespects you.

➡️ Instead of chasing a relationship, focus on building one with yourself. Love yourself first.

10/01/2023

➡️ You grew up learning that you couldn't rely on others. It was always you giving, and there wasn't a balance when it came to you receiving. So you've learnt that you have to do it all by yourself. You're scared to lean on people because they've always let you down. You've gotten really good at being self-sufficient.....but when are you going to stop living in survival mode?

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Monday	09:00 - 17:00
Tuesday	09:00 - 17:00
Wednesday	09:00 - 17:00
Thursday	09:00 - 17:00
Friday	09:00 - 17:00
Saturday	08:30 - 13:00

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