27/10/2025
It's been a little over a week since we got hit with the news of the tragic death of a teenager in school from stabbing by a fellow student. It made the episode from "Adolescence" not just a scary plausibility but a heartbreaking reality. Too close to home.
As parents, there are so many deep questions we need to ask ourselves in response to what happened but the most immediate response I got from parents was that the first thing they did was to give their kids tighter and longer hugs that day. š„¹ My oldest schools nearby and so, I too was concerned about what my boy had heard and how he was processing it.
Having a clear and calm strategy, it gave me an opportunity to have a meaningful conversation with my son - to objectively assess how he was or wasnt affected, see his perspective and answer his questions. As tempted as I was, it wasn't the time to jump straight into nagging about screen time or online games - these issues matter, but not just yet. It was a time to get a pulse on his mental and emotional health and have a deeper conversation depending on how HE steered the dialogue.
My only goal was this - to let him know he is safe with me and that he can talk to me about difficult things openly and honestly with me.
Here's a step-by-step guide to help us talk about violence and tragedy with our kids. Save and share it - only God knows when we may need it again in the future.
Sources:
National Association of School Psychologists (NASP)
American Academy if Child and Adolescent Psychiatry
PS: It was inspired by a conversation kit released by the children's ministry of my local church which included some biblical guidance to help bring some comfort and faith. If you'd like a copy of it, do DM me.
PPS: Have you spoken with your child about recent tragic happenings in schools?