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BirthInk HypnoBirthing Malaysia, No 16-1 Kedai Kelumpuk Merpati A Jalan 4/5Keramat, Wilayah Persekutuan Kuala Lumpur6 AU3 WP, Kuala Lumpur (2025)

18/08/2025

Last Friday

As promised to see her. Online student drives down to KL for a visit, the happy mother's and upset kid who was told to stop playing with toysand baby who's just had enough of lack of attention ❤️ let's pray for her successful smooth gentle and awesome VBAC

Food for thought.
What if you were told your body could not give birth naturally, but the truth was something more sinister? That it had nothing to do with your perfectly designed body, but rather a system that disconnects you from nature and empowerment? A system that is about protecting, but rather than protecting you, it protects them.

With over 90% of mothers being induced, one might wonder if women truly have the capabilities to give birth, naturally, without barbaric tools and methods. However only the few are willing to step outside of this thinking, to go down the road of finding out.

My experiences have taught me that birth is supposed to be a very wonderful, inviting experience. That our bodies are more capable than possibly imaginable. That birth is the beginning of a bigger journey, and that it should be protected for the wellbeing of mothers and babies.

❤️

07/08/2025

What would you tell a mom who comes to you late in her third trimester, asking you if she can birth at home for her second child when her first was an emergency cesarean at 32weeks?

And even a few years later the memory is etched in their lives as a momentous wonderful celebration.

Too often we tarnish birth to be something it is not intended to be > screaming, suffering, scary.

And when the message comes from a dad, it's a double win for me. Woman to woman, it's easier to connect and feel all these emotional side. But when a dad looks back, reflecting this beautiful cherished moment, and feels the need to share that memory with me.

P.s
1. It was their decision, I don't decide, I merely show them how
2. There's always risks in the things we do, to treat birth as no risk (wherever and whatever you choose) is to be ignorant, it comes down to knowing how to weigh the risks and managing the risks (whether outsourced or inherently knowing how to)
3. I am NOT a midwife, I don't "do" things (medically) for or to you. How these parents achieve such a Beautiful homebirth without as much as a Vaginal exam, needing stitches, Fetal HR check - and on their terms is because, I do impart knowledge on them, and it is important for them to know and understand the extent of situations as much as possible. KNOWLEDGE is the key to it, I can only work with my Doula clients when they have birth knowledge with them.
4. You can have your opinion and/or disagree - but please do it mindfully & respectfully. I'm not the one who syiok sendiri here, and it's not just one happy couple.
5. Birth is not merely luck. If we can influence and choose genders, why do you still think it's luck to have an awesome birth?
6. Don't come to me last minute - honestly I dislike last minute situations, if you stumbled upon this early and desire it, start early, don't wait wait wait. There's a lot to do.
7. Yes you deserve a beautiful birth, too many people focus on the birth they don't want, why not focus on the birth you DO want.

03/08/2025

Here's something we rarely see or appreciate, the life source of our children while they float around in a cosmic space filled with water.

This placenta decided to detach 2 days after birth, lotus birth is when the placenta is NOT CUT to allow for nature/baby to decide when to let go. What's the evidence behind this? Perhaps it will take another 100 yrs to finally discover this. Allopathy may not be able to realize this ever. This is not just a dead organ, and against all the misinformation of how it will be disgusting, smelly and rotting there as some (those who probably lack the experience in this) there's a way to take care of this process. Herbs are used to keep the placenta dry, and no it doesn't lead to infections or flies when done correctly.

While currently lacking the evidence (doesn't mean there isn't any, we just don't know yet) I believe there to be a spiritual component in this process. They say babies are calmer, they say releasing the placenta this way is voiding the unnecessary trauma that the baby can have with severing the cord early, they call this the angel sibling, or the TREE OF LIFE. There have been observations that the placenta can still pulsate even 5 days after birth.

I began appreciating this miracle organ more after reading The Forgotten Chakra by Ibu Robin Lim. Truly the placenta is medicinal and spiritually linked. Placentas are also clues to the pregnancy, at least it is for me, for they are formed from the nutrition the parents consumed pre and during pregnancy and they develop according to how well parents take care of themselves. So it's always best to be mindful of what's going in. After all this will be the one that supports your growing child, so love it, care for it, value it, and honour it's presence for it has done a tremendous job.

19/07/2025

Support.
What does that look like?
In the presence of birth, I am not there to dictate ANYTHING, I am merely there to support.
Support can be in the form of me hiding in the corner, while I observe things unfolding, where there is intimacy felt in the room, my presence should not be disruptive of the oxytocin.

Support can be me filling in for Gorilla, while gorilla takes on another task he deems more important , my hands to replace his for a moment, but not to replace his presence.

Support can be carrying the mom, when her legs can only drag her down, to be the crutches that breathes with her

Support can be knowing when to do nothing, to let her feel her own POWER so she knows that she is innately capable

Support is also to know when to steal her attention, if she shall forget the flow so that she may be eased back into her zone

Support is not to narrow her options, but to let her know what is possible, and happily walk by her in the choices SHE makes.

Support is being by her side, even when it's difficult, not just difficult for her but difficult for me, when she puts me out of my comfort zone or chooses something that my heart screams loud against, to support and RESPECT and honour her wishes

Support can be sticking by, even when your gut says "this is going to get messy, you can save yourself the trouble, this is going to turn around and bite you" - yes even when the blame will be turned to me, I still support her.

Support is letting her story, her version be heard, understood and validated, even though you hear the other end of things and that didn't quite match her story, her story is important and of value.

And honestly, what I can say is that rarely do mothers get GENUINE SUPPORT, in a world where we know so much the impact of mental wellness, rarely are birthing mothers fully supported.

My ask of you, is if you are her support person, if she trusted you to share what she wanted to do, support her wholly.

14/07/2025

This magical soul was sent to me five years ago to "merasmikan" a role I only dreamt of filling at that time. With her first baby she entrusted me to be a witness to the beautiful experience that unfolded in the comfort of their home. How can I forget that fateful day we spent, 40 weeks on the dot seeing yet another care provider, one that is supportive. It was like a date, a date with a family who was soon expanding from two to three. We spent the whole day together, seeing Dr, running errands, enjoying the chats and endless slices of lamb.

By night fall, she was sleepy and feeling something, but with all that feel good vibes it felt just like another awesome day. The next morning after sunrise, I got a text asking for me to be there, Moe said, "Shal is asking for you Ru", time to make my way, just about 2hrs after my arrival, we see his appearance and I told Moe, who looked a little frozen at that time "There's your baby, look at him, see he is twitching his eyes and mouth" and the rest was history.

This is the woman who opened her womb to allow me in her space, her home for the home birth of her son, first born, my first Doula-Homebirth experience. The start of a wonderful journey. Till today she always welcomes me warmly.

I say what I said again, Thank you for the trust. The trust you had learned to gain in your own ability.

09/07/2025

Two similar situations but different experience
1. "I cannot push, I felt like it but there was just no opening"
A. after pushing on my back being dilated 10cm, they said baby pemakan najis and wheeled me in for a cesarean
B. after fearing the pain, they told me to walk and squat, and gave me encouragement, energy and support, I could feel the progress and finally he came
2. "I told them I am cold"
A. they directed the Aircon at me, and when I asked my husband to put the Aircon down they scolded and said I'm having a fever.
B. they blanket me, kept me warm with a heating pad, gave me warm drinks and nourished me until I felt better

After having a traumatic emergency cesarean, they wanted to be able to have that natural birth experience. In some sense she got to rewind and redo things this round, but on her terms.

Planning for that birth, is also waiting and respecting it for when it comes. She texts me "Hello Ru, today is 41w+3days... baby moving as usual... So wait lagi?"

You see baby had planned to wait for Godmother to be ready, and for good timing. Who are we to deny their innate intelligence?

So this round she got to heal from that experience, she got to redo and did things the way it could have gone.

I believe every women HAS the opportunity to experience this kind of birth. It's not about the place, but about the support. And my hope is that the system navigates to provide care that matters to each and every mom and baby. Stop giving excuse about how there's not enough resources and misrepresenting risks.

05/07/2025

These are big wins for me, one mother at a time.

How you give birth is not dependent on some random luck, and no 30% cesarean rate is not normal or low, it's super freaking high. Too high that its risk doesn't outweigh the benefits. It's damaging moms and babies.

And no, a vaginal birth is not the same as a cesarean. Now you can have a gentle positive cesarean which is much easier for you and recovery but its still a striking difference from a vaginal birth, what more from a well prepared natural (ahem HypnoBirthing) vaginal birth.

It's not the cesarean that I have a problem with, it's the coercion and the misinformation that corners women to birth in ways that don't support their wellbeing way more often than it should that bugs me. And that birth is so beautiful the way nature intended, if more women realised this they wouldn't fear it, esp not the "pain" of it.

Prevent the first cesarean, but if you missed the boat (well because a lot of times as a first time parent most still have that doubt) then PREVENT THE SECOND CESAREAN. It doesn't matter if you will be having more kids or not, your body deserves it, and so does your baby. I say this, while acknowledging how difficult it is to do it in our society since our system isn't set up to encourage healthy natural births. I say this knowing that you will need and deserve a heck lot of support to achieve this.

22/06/2025

From Raub to PJ

"Last Tuesday mommy took me for a drive to Raub to visit a client, with my siblings. There I pooped twice and held her to look at me long enough before allowing her to engage in social activities, my siblings had yummy fried meehoon with juicy sweet pineapple, but nah I only wanted milk. I could hear them talk about farming and dodol but I preferred to be in Mama's arms. Then we rushed home for a pit stop, it was a pleasant journey for me as I got to sleep the WHOLE way. Another diaper change was evident because which baby can hold their poo? Icky. Then we went to visit another of her client. This one was in a roaring phase, it was like white noise (music) to my ears. Apparently they said I slept through the whole ordeal, except for when I was famished, mama says I'm a hungry b**b monster, but she doesn't seem to run away from me, I must be a cute monster. I have no idea what they were talking about through all that white noise, but I did see a cutie pie at the end of it.

P.S Mama is having a promotion - Book her Doula service and get one free Mini doula (Ahem, me, how else are you going to get my autograph) oh and she says she's only doing distances that I can tolerate, I don't know what she means by that."

12/06/2025

"Amma, Appa, Muruga & F*** all in a sentence" - the highlight of the birth debrief. The art of birth is in its primal form, which I sometimes feel is not shared in positive light enough. Yes on one hand, I see alot of calm births, but on another hand, those primal births are just as it is. They are raw, grunty, and the observer sometimes has not a clue what mom is going through.

For a mom who had a positive birth the first round, yes cesareans don't necessarily equate to trauma. The second round also ended up in a positive birth, yes natural births don't necessarily equate to trauma either.

But does that mean challenge free? Even the strongest of Mama's can have doubts as she learns to trust her body, the voice inside doesn't always match the surrounding vibes. As the days grew nearer to her EDD, the doubts did rise. There was so much of bouncing on option a, or option b, or what if we were in-between options. I had an inkling she'd go easily to 41w, but at 39w she had a bout of surges for half a day. Then they stopped. Imagine being all so excited for baby to come then feeling like it's all just a false alarm. Imagine knowing that your body is doing work to get baby out, but not knowing exactly what's happening, day after day, as the Dr visits became frequent, being told that dilation was yet still the same. Yet having things happen in the body, without a certain pattern. It does get daunting, and difficult to trust.

Some seeds take longer to emerge from the soil but forget not to water it everyday. Just like some labours are doing it's thing to progress, keep steadfast at it and support your body is the best way forward. It can feel like there is no progress, but trust that THERE IS PROGRESS.

And eventually a little past 41w, walks, massage, chiro, fascia release, (and food) her body picks up the pace ready for the last haul. She gives birth hours after admitting in the hospital. Gorilla did remind the team to give her rest, during which she felt baby descending. (Even rest can be progress) And shortly after baby was born.

Yes a natural birth in a hospital, a happy proud strong willed mama and her amazing Octopus -Gorilla. Team effort. ❤️

07/06/2025

It's been a blessing to be able to share with expecting parents on how to be more informed about births

I really appreciate reviews and feedbacks ❤️

Want to wish all of you, Selamat Hari Raya Aidiladha, each and everyone of you, sorry juggling with a newborn reminds me how limited my resources are to text each and everyone.

But it's been a lovely time bonding with small cute fingers and feet. I am still doing what I do by the way, just perhaps chilling on the social media post a bit more. If anything please reach out. That's the easiest way to know what's happening and any schedule updates.

❤️

10/05/2025

Bismillah
Another Birthink Collection
This pregnancy was a surprise long awaited one. Been blessed with 3 natural births, No4 should be a straightforward case. But even still there were fears, which contributed to the low profile pregnancy. What if all the other 3 births were a fluke? What if pregnancy abruptly halts? fears.

It was a tough pregnancy, the tiredness, trying to keep up was impossible, neglected house chores was the routine. Thank goodness for the older kids, they were a gem of help. There was so much internal chaos this round, and towards the end there was sadder news that shook the belief that everything will be fine.

Also, baby stayed breech even at 37weeks. This was finally the time to actively slow down at work, and prepared for what might be a breech birth. Confidence that was once high dropped to the lowest point. What if what if what if.

There's been over a month of prodomal labour, one day out with a friend the prodomal surges felt very frequent. Almost a month later, 3rd May, it came to the point of just waiting for baby, not expecting anything, woke up with cravings, headed out, surges were very sparsed, but didn't realize that she needed to tune out and concentrate each time they did come. When she came home, she was alone with the 3 kids and her bump. Thinking she'd pass time watching two movies, but they started to become annoying and strong. She reminded the kids to "hush up" when the surges came. She'd had a few birth shows by then, but very smeary and little. The kids a bit of in a blur land, not aware that she was quite in labour, was told to start the pool, post the affirmations and setup.

She needed to counter pressure her tailbone, against the wall she pressed hard when the surges came to create a relief, there was a lot of vocal expression this round. The intensity was not as how she remembers it, they were a bit of an ouchie. Yes she thought of surrendering, hospital, csec, what-if again, how many hours would she have to endure, she needs to remind herself to breathe, like she tells the moms to do so often.

31/03/2025

Sunday's Surprise Birth, in a surprise location. What a way to celebrate Eid Mubarak. The minute she discovered HypnoBirthing and Homebirth, she was determined to journey down this path.

Amidst the hecticness of her already busy schedule, she found time to sit for classes in February and repeated in March, happily travelling from the depths of Shah Alam and every time coming for class super early.

Although it didn't go as planned (does birth ever truly go as planned?) but she was prepared ! she still managed to have a wonderful, smooth and healthy HypnoBirthing experience. That's why I always emphasize on birth education, no matter what and where, birth education stays with you. Applicable in any situation.

Laughing afterwards, because she said she can't compare to a traumatic experience, since she didn't even get the opportunity to have a traumatic experience.

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