Cheryl Chin - Mental Health Counsellor

12/09/2025

07/09/2025

Some parents refuse to use painful discipline for fear of harming their children. They may not recognize, however, just how harmful a lack of discipline can be.

03/09/2025

“Learning how not to do for others what they can learn to do for themselves is one of the golden rules of adult maturity”. Dr Jenny Brown, Growing Yourself Up, (p18).

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01/09/2025

“…It’s speaking from what’s important to us rather than trying to push an agenda onto the child.” 🌱

The “I Position” helps shift how we understand parental influence and child wellbeing. Instead of discipline techniques, it’s about calmly defining ourselves in relationship with our child.

It’s a Bowen theory concept grounded in differentiation that transforms parenting. Rather than relying on control or reactivity, parents learn to anchor themselves in clear, steady leadership.

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31/08/2025

27/08/2025

Empathy > advice. If someone wants advice, they’ll ask for it.

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.

27/08/2025

These are core needs in relationships and often at the root of the conflict or argument.

Source: Based on emotionally focused therapy by Dr. Sue Johnson.

Disclaimer: Content is for educational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.

22/07/2025

We often think the hardest part of parenting will be managing our child’s behaviour — 
the meltdowns, the resistance, the chaos…

But the real work?

What truly stretches us is staying present when we feel triggered.

It’s staying calm when every part of you wants to react.
It’s pausing before the words you can’t take back.
It’s holding the boundary without losing ourselves in the process.
It’s keeping our hearts open, even when our patience is wearing thin.

The real challenge isn’t controlling them — it’s regulating ourselves. This is where most of us were never taught what to do.

We weren’t given the tools to pause, to ground, to respond with intention instead of reaction.

But that doesn’t mean it’s too late.

This is the work. And it can be learned.
Step by step. Layer by layer.

And when it is — it changes everything. ❤️

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23/05/2025

15/04/2025

Sometimes hard and scary things happen that we need to navigate with our children. If you’re working through a tough situation as a family right now, I want you to know that I see you. I see how hard you’re working to make sure you shield your kids from as much of the tough stuff as possible.

Breathe. You aren’t going to do or say the perfect things to your kids during all of life’s hard moments. But your presence, even if it’s imperfect? That’s what matters.

Thanks for the excellent reminder 💚

26/03/2025

In our relationships, we have control over one thing: ourselves. We cannot control our partner(s), though changing our own behavior can sometimes have influence, potentially impacting the relational pattern or dynamic.

For example, if your partner tends to yell when they’re upset, you cannot make them stop yelling. You can, however, let them know that when they raise their voice, you feel anxious/flooded/scared. You can let them know that you need to take a break and leave the room. By doing this, it may influence the course of the interaction.

Regarding relationship issues, focusing on ourselves is often more empowering and therapeutic. Trying to change someone else can often feel defeating.

[Image description: A Venn diagram of two intersecting circles. The first circle is labeled, “partner,” the second circle is labeled, “self,” and the intersection is labeled, “relationship.” Next to the partner circle, there’s an arrow next to the words, “what you cannot control.” Next to the relationship intersection is an arrow next to the words, “what you can influence.” Next to the self circle is an arrow next to the words, “what you can control.”]

Disclaimer: Content is for informational purposes and doesn’t constitute therapy. Posts are generalized and may not fit all individuals or situations. My posts don’t speak to situations of abuse, active addiction, or certain mental health conditions.