20/02/2026
Good morning mem
Please hide my identity
Im a 35years woman and my boyfriend 39 this year. We have been together for 5 years and we have a 3 years child together. My boyfriend started dating another woman while I was pregnant with an excuse that he cant sleep with me while pregnant, they even use to come to my room that I rented myself and then she also fell pregnant and they aborted the baby😭
I later bought a plot and started building my house there and because he was near by the plot and he is not employed, I put my building materials at his place for safety and he was the 1 monitoring my site while I,m at work and I pay him NS1000 cash and NS1000 stock to his bar every month😍
Later when I was 6months pregnant, I bought a car and I gave it to him to be picking me up from work and I take a cab in the morning, he stared seeing the other woman's sister and another woman. He ended up giving the car to the other woman,and I have to foot from work while another woman is using my car😭
Upon completing the house, I requested to get my car back,but he refused saying that he bought me a shower head, 2copper pipes, 2 windows and a door, so it is up to me to decide weather I want my car or I pay 60k for the things he used on my house. He told me I should let it go, a Polo vivo is a small car God will bless me with a better 1🙆
At 8months, I gave birth prematurely due to miscarriage threats I had after his other woman started calling me with the phone I bought for him, and when I blocked the number with MTC she started texting with different numbers😍
Later after birth,he then continues sleeping around with different women some of them he brings them to my house, and sometimes he insult me infront of them including my baby caretaker and our bar lady then he impregnated the bar lady🙆
I stopped putting stock in the bar coz I used to stock it up every month, because I realized that the bar was just benefiting other woman and I sometime couldn't get anything from there the whole month. The bar went bankrupt within a month and closed down😍
The he took our son to live with his mother and every week his mother sends me sms of list of food I have to buy. I bought the food. Then come my pay day, his sisters are sending me texts that I should pay their mother for taking care of my kid😭
I took my son back n got a daycare care for him. Then he started picking up the kid and demand me to send him money to buy food for the kid💁♀️
I refused giving him cash, then he threatens to take the kid to live with him then he will get a nanny to take care of him. I went to the ministry of Gender to secure my son's custody, because he picks our son up,then he takes him to bars, late night shows, and clubs and the kid comes back with diarrhea and smelling of alcohol😍
I,m the one who buys him food even when he is at their house, I pay for medical bills alone, pay school fees alone, clothing him alone. For the father the only thing he does is when he sees the kid with new clothes, he comes, take him out and go buy KFC or Pizza and come back with empty hands.
From December last year I started distancing myself from him, and he moved in with another woman but still he come to my house even late at night and if I don't open him he breaks the door, and when I'm at work he go inside my house through the windows.
If he sees me even given a hike by another men, he tries to bump me with the car😭
His mother last week found me working around in the afternoon and she threatened me that if I leave her son then I will never find a man ever in my life and that I should remember that I have a house that was built by his son.
I confronted him that he should tell his family that there is nothing of his at my house except his son. And that he assisted me with building my house and I paid him every month. He was just an employee there.
Please help me. I want him out of my life and forget him🙏
