Marriage and Family Matters-MFM

20/11/2025

Happy International Men's Day from the CARE Crew

17/11/2025

Splendid Outing on Marriage and Family Matters.

Our program yesterday Sunday, November 16, 2025 on "Best Ways of Parenting Children of School Age" was a huge success. The discussion was sparked by recent incidents of parents attacking teachers and threatening to close down schools, and we had calls from all over Abuja, Nasarawa, Niger and other states.

Our callers, including parents, teachers, and educators, shared valuable insights on how to parent children effectively. Key takeaways included:

- Moral training starts at home
- Teachers should focus on moral instruction and minimize excessive discipline
- Parents should work together with teachers to instill good values in children
- Parents should take time to know their wards
- schools should train and retrain staff on child psychology, emotional intelligence, and angry management
- parents should collaborate with teachers to do the needful instead of fight them

It was a lovely outing that benefited everyone involved. We're grateful for the opportunity to serve and educate our audience.

Tune in to Marriage and Family Matters on Radio Maria 91.3 FM Abuja - The Voice of Truth , every Sunday from 2pm for more.

21/10/2025

Did you follow the program on Sunday?
Did you learn that active listening is the key to understanding and understanding is the key to communication and communication is an integral aspect of our relationships/marriages?
Well we talked about ‘how to improve communication in relations/marriages’ and our guest Mr. Emmanuel Chukwu, a marriage counselor and relationship expert helped us learn a lot.
You can communicate vebally,
through thoughts, sign languages amidst others but the best way to communicate, is that which your partner understands. To improve communication you must be an active listener amd can ask for clarification where necessary. This is the key to great communication.

13/10/2025

Excerpts on 'Anger Management in Marriage'

13/10/2025

13/10/2025

Excerpts on the topic 'Anger Management in Marriage'.

13/10/2025

It was an amazing time on Marriage and Family Matters with Mr. Innocent Arah who provided us with insights on the topic: 'Anger Management in Marriage.'
Anger is an emotional reaction or response to actions or inactions that one could find irritating or uncomfortable.
Anger in its self isn't bad, but our response to it is what could make us to sin and destructive.
Anger is inseparable with human existence, however, there are practical ways to deal with it.
Before we talk about the ways to deal with it, let's talk about some of the TRIGGERS.
1. Financial stress
2. Beliefs and Values
3. Miscommunication/Misunderstanding
4. Unstable Mental Health to mention but a few.

Consequently, Mr. Innocent Arah provided the following as therapy to anger management:

1. Pause and think before you react
2. Do a reverse count either from 20-1 or Z-A at the moment of your anger
3. Take a brief walk out of the tensed environment
4. Visit a therapist that could help you develop self control etc

Summarily, anger is a 'can't do without ' in our routinely activities because of our individual differences, perceptions, lifestyles, values and beliefs and environment. However, we can develop self control,self restrain and create more empathy about issues and situations surrounding our dealings with one another.

10/10/2025

Last Sunday, October 5, 2025, Radio Maria's Marriage and Family Matters program featured Mr. Joseph Sylvester, a Pre-marriage Course instructor, discussing Parenting Adopted Children. Key takeaways include¹:
- *Key Considerations for Adoptive Parents:*
- Understanding the challenges and responsibilities of adoption
- Preparing for potential emotional and psychological needs of the child
- *Building a Strong Bond:*
- Showing unconditional love and acceptance
- Embracing the child's background and culture
- *Common Misconceptions:*
- Adoption is a charity case - it's a loving decision
- Adopted children will struggle with identity issues - with proper support, they can thrive
- *Preparing Biological Siblings:*
- Open communication and education about adoption
- Encouraging empathy and understanding
- *Cultural Sensitivity:*
- Incorporating the child's cultural heritage into daily life
- Celebrating their roots and traditions
- *Supporting Adoptive Families:*
- Reducing stigma and promoting understanding
- Providing resources and community support

Tune in to Marriage and Family Matters on Radio Maria for more insightful discussions on building strong families!

01/10/2025

An excerpt from our Marriage and Family Matters Program: _Knowing & Managing Emotions in Marriage_. Mr. Fikhe Sylvanus, a passionate writer and youth advocate, shared valuable insights on emotions in marriage. He explained that emotions are an inner energy of feelings that influence our reactions. There are two types of emotions: Primary Emotions (Love, Trust, Care) and Secondary Emotions (Anger, Bitterness, Envy, Jealousy). To discover emotions, one can: Pay attention to words and tone, Observe body language and behavior, Encourage honest conversation, and Practice self-awareness. To handle emotional issues in marriage, try: Self-control, Empathy, Constructive communication, Timing, and Pray & Patience.

21/09/2025

About today in the studio; Managing Conflict between Wife and mother-in-law or sister-in-law.
Many marriages suffer as a result of this issue that can be managed if undestandig, love and friend are the foundation.
A married person must be cautious, treat matters wisely and not be quick to pass judgment.
Conflict between these parties often begin from a place of assumption, insecurities, and especially lack of boundaries.
Set boundaries, make effective conversations, listen keenly, do strategic planning and proper implementation. Boundaries set, will create limitations and help the couple deal with this issue. The couple must plan together, work, implement and stand by each other to manage this arising conflict.

10/09/2025

Managing Negative TRIGGERS.(cont’d)
Triggers in relationships can be complex but manageable if those involved are willing to put in the work.
1. Identify what triggers your spouse e.g traumatic experiences, discouraging words etc. Reflect on how it triggers you/them.
2. Communicate: Talk about it. Share how you feel or think your partner should feel about your triggers. Also, acknowledge and validate each other's feelings.
3. Create a coping strategy: Device means to manage triggers such as: walking away, doing something different/together, take a break or relax your mind by taking heavy breaths.
4. Build understanding: Understand the cause of each trigger. Create an environment for partners to feel comfortable discussing triggers and emotions.
5. Seek support: Attend couples therapy/counseling to work through triggers and build a stronger relationship.
Partners should work together, show empathy, understanding, and self-awareness else they may end up in a situation as bad as separation. (See next post for positive triggers

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09/09/2025

TRIGGERS IN RELATIONSHIPS.
Triggers in relationships are elements that activate strong reactions which leave negative or positive impacts in the relationship.
Negative triggers can be caused by:
Past traumas or betrayals, Insecurities or low self-esteem, Differences in communication styles, Unmet expectations, e.t.c.
Positive triggers can generate from:
Pleasant surprises, Suportive words/actions, Quality time. etc
While negative triggers can result into conflict, hurtful words/reactions and heartbreaks, Postive triggers can lead to stronger bonds, deeper connections, better understanding, growth and development, etc.
Triggers both postive and negative can ruin a relationship if not properly managed.
Check the next post for Managing Triggers.


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