Heart of Eva counselling/w counselor Sharon

16/03/2026

As a counsellor, incidents like the recent one involving students of Igbinedion Education Centre are deeply concerning but also important learning moments for society.
When a child hurts another child, two things must happen at the same time: accountability and correction.
Accountability ensures that the victim is protected and justice is served.
Correction ensures that the offending child learns, grows, and does not repeat the behaviour.
Punishment alone does not build character. Guidance, emotional education, and responsible parenting do.
Many behavioural problems we see in young people today are symptoms of deeper issues — lack of emotional supervision, peer pressure, exposure to harmful content, and absence of healthy conversations at home.
Parents must move beyond just providing for their children materially.
They must be emotionally present, teach empathy, and help their children understand the consequences of their actions.
Every child can make mistakes.
But what truly matters is whether the adults around them help them learn from those mistakes.
This is a moment for reflection for parents, schools, and society.

16/03/2026

The problem is that many parents correct behaviour but never address emotions.

15/03/2026

Where are the adults? 🤔
Many adults are physically present, but emotionally and psychologically absent in the lives of the children around them.
Before we rush to blame them, let’s be honest about something:
A lot of adults today are damaged adults. People who were never heard, never protected, never nurtured. And the painful truth is this you can only give what you have.

A bitter adult often struggles to give love.
A wounded adult struggles to give understanding.
So instead of guiding the child,they begin to blame the child.
You hear statements like:
• “It’s your fault.”
• “If you were obedient, this wouldn’t happen.”
• “Get out, you brought this on yourself.”
Meanwhile, the child is simply trying to make sense of their world.

One thing I told myself after doing my own emotional and mental healing was this:
When I start raising children, I will be careful about the adults around them.
Not every adult deserves access to a child’s mind.
I pay attention to:
• Their class teachers
• Church teachers
• Family members
• Even adults they casually bond with
Because the truth is this:
Adults can either build a child or break a child.
And sometimes the damage done by one careless adult can take years of counselling to heal.

Parents, this is a wake-up call.
Your child does not only need school fees, clothes and food.
Your child needs your presence, your listening ear, and your emotional support.
Talk to them.
Listen to them.
Observe their behaviour.
Pay attention to their words.
Please stop saying:
“He is just a child.”
“She will be fine.”
Children feel deeply.
They experience fear, rejection, confusion, jealousy, and sadness just like adults.

Advice to Adults
Before correcting a child, heal the child inside you.
Unhealed adults often pass down the same pain they once suffered.
Let us be the generation that raises emotionally healthy children, not the generation that keeps creating emotionally wounded adults.
Because when we protect a child’s mind today, we are protecting the adult they will become tomorrow.

15/03/2026

Your past can define your future if you allow it. Learn not to dwell in your past in order to build a better you and future.
Heart of Eva counselling/w counselor Sharon

12/03/2026

I have been through things that tried to break me… but they built me instead.
There were days I cried in silence.
Days I questioned everything.
Days I felt like giving up.
But I refused to let my pain define me.
Every challenge made me stronger.
Every disappointment made me wiser.
Every setback pushed me to grow.
Behind this smile is strength.
Behind this calm is a story.
Behind this heart is a woman who refused to give up.
Today, I am proud of the person I am becoming.
If life has ever tried to break you but you are still standing, drop a ❤️ in the comments. Let someone know they are not alone.

12/03/2026

God how did we get here? 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

09/03/2026

Many people are fighting battles you know nothing about.
Some are struggling with depression.
Some are battling anxiety.
Some are smiling in public but crying in private.
Some are strong for everyone else but breaking inside.

Mental health struggles are real.
So today, be kind with your words.
Be patient with people.
And most importantly, be gentle with yourself.
You don't have to carry everything alone.
Healing begins the moment you speak up and seek support.
Protect your mental health

06/03/2026

50 years on earth could only be possible because God has shown me so much love, grace, and mercy.
I am a living testimony that no matter what you go through in life, God can rewrite your story.
Thank You Lord for keeping me alive, for your unfailing love, and for the journey so far.
The best is yet to come.”
As I step into this new chapter, may God continue to guide my steps, strengthen my heart, and use my life to bless others.
God, I thank You. 🙏

06/03/2026

She was a little girl just 5 years old growing up in the ancient city of Benin. At that tender age,she was sexually abused countless times.

Growing up she was r***d three times.
She became
silent
She was withdrawn
She had low self esteem
She was named slow motion
She was su
She attempted su***de countless times.

She was taken to the bush to be kill because no one understood why she acted the way she does.

She was taken to churches for deliverance
She did dry fasting,7 days fasting,even months fasting and she was termed a marine spirit and said she possesses seduction spirits.

But deep down inside of her she struggled,she was going through pains,hurt,emptiness and wished she slept and never woke up .

Then God came along and helped her turn her stories around.

Today she is standing tall and strong not because she is a super woman,but because God has shown her mercy since 1976

Today I am saying thank you Jesus, thank you Lord for keeping me on earth for 50 years, thank you for your love,grace and mercy.

Happy birthday to me, happy birthday to a strong woman,a goal getter,a woman God has shown so much mercy and a woman after God's heart.

01/03/2026

01/03/2026

Those that dislike you are more than those that love ❤️ you be wise

01/03/2026

I’ve been casually following the whole and dragging online. Then today happened — the drama about saying she wants to end it all.
Whether it’s true or clout, I honestly can’t tell.
Then VDM turned it into cruise… even went as far as lying inside a coffin.
My country? No dull moment.

But what shocked me most was seeing people in comment sections in some persons post regarding the coffin ⚰️ aspect some really wish that the death was real.

It made me realize something:
Sometimes, you think you are doing your best for People
Sometimes, you think you are helping, standing up for people
But not everyone truly appreciates your existence.

Some people are only watching, waiting and secretly hoping you fall one day

Life lesson:
Even while you are showing up for others,show up for yourself more.
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