05/07/2024
RELATIONSHIP: A game of 2
Teammates Not Opponents
So, a Relationship is meant to be like a football team... with a goal in mind. [to win]
Each person has his strength and weakness, and this automatically determines his position.
But most importantly, the goal is for the team to win the match, irrespective of the player who scores the bicycle kick, who makes that last ditch tackle, the goal line clearance, the defense splitting pass or the acrobatic save.
It's all for the team and if the team wins the trophy is presented to the team not any individual.
Using the 2016 Real Madrid team as a case study.
You didn't at any point see Ramos make a defensive error or score an own goal and Ronaldo comes racing down the pitch to raise his voice at him [never]
Neither did Ramos or his defensive brother Pepe charge down towards Benzema for missing a great scoring chance in the 90th minute of a match they were currently losing…
Hands are placed over the head, hands are placed on the mouth with disbelief and shock Boldy written on their faces, but still, the team keeps fighting and remain United till that whistle goes.
Ramos doesn't see a golden opportunity to score and purposely skies the ball or looks for Benzema to pass to because he thinks it's only Benzema's duty to score because he's a striker.
Neither does Ronaldo fail to help defend a corner they conceded because he thinks it's only a defender’s work and he's not one.
The idea is to cover up for each other at different times when mistakes, and lapses occur… Trust me they must. But because you know these weren't deliberate behavior.
When you both understand the goal or/and objective of the team (relationship), your actions come naturally to achieve that goal.
When one person lose guards another person tries to cover up to keep the team within the reach of achieving its goal[winning].
That's how it ought to be in a relationship too, because it's a team game and not a one-man game…
After the match everyone probably enters the dressing room and analyzes the mistakes and how they can avoid them in order not to put the Team in a dangerous position again.
This is how a relationship should be, with love and respect. You watch my back I watch your back.
Your partner makes a mistake instead of correcting with love and respect based on teammate things, you see them as opponent, as per Casimiro you think you are, you dive with 2 high footed tackle wanting to break their ankle [in this case their Ego, you insult them, belittle them, and in turn talk down on them to make them feel worthless]. Wrong move.
Because you think you're Ronaldo the star of the team(relationship), and they're Ceballos (the one with little valuable contribution to the team), you think your pattern is always right and don't listen or open your mind to add to what you already know.
Wrong move
Wrong move.
In the end most of us must desist from out wicked attitude towards treating our significant others, because we all know what we're doing.
You're forming star boy, senior man in the game and running another man's daughter street, but if your younger sister comes to report to you that her partner does just 20% of what you do to someone else's daughter, you're raging like a wounded lion and looking for how to treat his f**kup… will you sit down there jor, deceiving yourself.
Likewise, you who thinks you're running that guy street, if your bro comes to tell you a gurl is running him same package you'll want to convulse and kill her, even when you're doing 10 times worse… be playing sha…
There's an old adage that goes, you can't sweep outside when inside is still dirty.
If you no longer like them as teammates, terminate your contract and move out as a free agent.
We should treat our significant other the way we want to be treated or the way we want to treat our opposite sibling.
You might think football is a game of 11 and relationship is a game of 2 so it's difficult to apply. Just reason it like you both are teammates playing monkey post, you and your partner are teammates waging the football war against life and all it brings, using a favorable tactics that brings balance to the team and you both complement each other.
You like it the defensive style like Atletico Madrid, then start scouting your Diego Godin because it suits your tactics and gives you balance…
You like all attack like man city. Start your searching for your Haaland to tear down opponents. These things aren't that difficult as it seems…
In the end, may God not let us meet people with Evil intent and may we in turn have good intent.
PEACE.
